Nov 24, 2009

* Kids say the darness things..

We all can say that we have many times heard our kids or others say the most silliest things, comment the most dumbest things and sometimes throw questions and make statements of the most heart painful things. Yes they always do.. and their innocence may make these statements seem so adorable to the parents who listen to it.
What happens when your child makes a stupid remark about someone or something someone has done and you, beyond all your stupidity decide to tell it to the person involved, not thinking for a second that it would upset the one listening to it?
I once gave a gift to a friend's kid, it was an encyclopedia to be exact, and later I come to hear after asking if the kid liked it, that the remark made was "as if i don't know all this, that I need to get this book as a gift!"
Sure as a parent you would feel so great to hear your child say that! Makes your kid sound so very smart, doesn't it? But it sure made me feel like an idiot, but I guess that doesn't matter at the end.. after all, the gift did come from me..
These days I really think 10X before I decide to buy a book for someone!
You can tell who needs what and who doesn't.. and I suppose these are just the lessons I need to remember..
So next time you hear your kid say something so darn adorable.. try replaying it to yourself as a third person before you decide to actually pass the story to the one directly involved!!
It might not sound so sweet after all.

Nov 19, 2009

* Our 3rd Little Wonder..

All it takes is that one miraculous beat of the heart and life starts in the most delightful way.

For the 3rd time in this life of mine, I've seen the little wonder of a heart beating in my womb, once again..

Little wonders that makes the biggest impressions through all the twist and turns of faith.

The smiles on the faces of my 2 older miracles seeing our latest edition makes it even greater a gift to me!

So once again, we journey together towards awaiting the smiles, cries, screams and laughs of our next little wonder!

Sep 23, 2009

* Nothing to be happy about??

Have you ever said out loud that, YOU, have NOTHING TO BE HAPPY ABOUT?
I have, I admit I have. Only to, after a few minutes, realise how foolish it is to say that when I have been blessed by God with the things he believes I deserve.
But more than me saying this, I have heard this from others way too many times.
How can anyone actually not have anything to be happy about?
How can anyone not be blessed by God to have something to be happy about?
Good health?
Good job?
Good family?
Good friends?
Good house?
Good neighbours?
There must be at least one that's good?
Well, some people are blessed with everything whereas some may not be, but certainly all of us are blessed with something. Is it fair that you forget what you are blessed with just because what you expect doesn't seem to go your way? Is it fair that you ignore the things that you should be happy about, and greed for the things that aren't working out for you?
Well obviously NOT!
Instead of bickering on the areas that are not functioning right, try working on it, or maybe ignoring it? May be its not meant to make you happy, so avoid being upset about it, if all you've tried just doesn't bring any success.
Some even compare what they don't have to what others do, and forget that they are blessed with what other's might have. It isn't a matter of who has more blessings or why you suffer more than others. May be also, if your heart was sincere, for the blessings others obtain, you might draw positive vibes towards yourself?
Just because an area in your life is depressing, doesn't mean your whole life is ruined!
Even if that area means the world to you.
You do away with things that don't bring you anything but bitterness, uplift the ones that do, and appreciate them with all your heart.
If you think you have nothing to be happy about, and forget the ones that do, you might just loose them too, because you had no sense to appreciate it in the first place!
Remember, there's always something to be happy about.. so don't forget to hang on to it!

Sep 21, 2009

* Use It or Lose It

Use it or Lose it!
Well I meant you brain.
As much as some of us have finished studying and are pretty much settled with life, don't forget to constantly stimulate different sections of your brain so you keep it healthy till you kick the bucket.
It is after all the central processing unit of your body
and just like your computers need rebooting and an antivirus system to keep it running without problem, so must your brain be kept healthy at all time..
Feed it right!
Your diet plays a huge role in how healthy it is kept. Overdosing it with the wrong food especially too rich in sugar can make it slow.
Feed it too, with the right kind of attitude and activity. It basically does what you ask of it. You can even cheat your own brain to believe what is not true, so choose what you wish to have it remember and how it thinks. Overdosing your brain with crap only makes you behave crappy towards yourself and others around you.
Finally, since I believe in the existence of God and his divine powers, your brain should be covered with PRAYERS. Allow God to guide your thinking. Let prayers fill your mind with things that are worthy in life. Your brain then will work to help you evaluate situations wisely, treat others with respect, and the fear and the love of God that you have thought your brain to understand will help you avoid dumb decisions and live better for yourself and those around you.
In order not to lose it, treat your brain with respect and it will certainly get you respect.

Sep 11, 2009

* My tough "5 to be years old" Client

Being a parent really allows you to enjoy the best of everything good and bad.. as your child grows and all that comes along with it, especially their birthdays.
My Belle is about to have her 5th birthday next month and she plans on having a Fairy Birthday. Infact she has been on her toes about all this since May this year.
I suggested since she was turning 5, why not get all the 5 fairies involved in her birthday and so my adorable tough client has agreed to it.
Belle will be having Tinker, Rosetta, Iridessa, Fawn, and Silvermist much involved in her party cups (yeah its not party bags this year), with fairy wings on them definately..
The entire process had started yesterday and she's really tough to deal with when it comes to preparing stuff, besides being tough I must admit she sure has brilliant artistic ideas and she's one little girl worth planning a party for!!

Sep 8, 2009

* The healing powers of Air kelapa muda

I have been having a series of unfortunate events when it comes to my health!
Over the weekend I started myself on a new prescribed drug my specialist decided to put me on, apparently to increase my lung capacity, but all it did, unfortunately was to increase the size of my lips and face overall!!
I had such a torturous reaction to it and I suspect the steroid in the medicine had much to do with it all.
Best part of it all was I went to an A&E of a very famous private hospital and despite having in their record I was suspected to be allergic to steroid, the genius doctor wanted to give me a jab of hydro cortisol which is steroid!!! How smart can that ass get?
I of course asked him if he read my complaint? and asked what sort of practise is this to inject me with steroid when I am suffering due to it?
What ever happened to simple antihistamines??
After a long 5 minute grumble back at him, I finally got to go back home with my antihistamines that cost RM4.10 and paid him RM30 for listening to me grumble and basically telling him what to prescribe! Ironic isn't it?
Anyway, taking the anti-hist only made the pain stop.. my face pretty much remain inflated, I looked like a balloon!
My sister said that if I had to put on a tonne of weight.. I would always look like what I did..
Like how Harry Potter's Horrendous Aunt ballooned up.
Thanks to my sister's comment and her medicinal remedy of bringing coconut water for me to gulp down.. the swelling has instantaneously gone away.
Talk about healing properties.. I remember how even the coconut pulp can heal scars if its placed daily on the skin just for several minutes.
Well whatever it is, it sure got rid of the swelling and I'm back to normal again.. The coconut water got rid of all toxins I suppose!! Thank GOD!! Thank Pat!!
What an experience.. Thank you coconuts!!

* A new phase

I remember saying, that your age makes a difference in your comfort for studying Music only because I felt so uncomfortable being the oldest at the piano theory exam couple of weeks ago.

Today I say otherwise.. yeah that's so me! Miss Contradiction?

I did something very spontaneous a month ago, and last weekend, I finally had my enrollment and orientation day. The VC and Directors of OUM were very warm and their welcome to the campus felt promising. It feels great having to start studying again.. Furthering my education has always been something I wanted to do, but have put it on hold for way too long and now a new phase in my life has begun.

I know I made the right choice, because the right people helped me see the best of it!!
I believe the time I had in hand, since I resigned, was a stimulator to guiding me to what I really am passionate about and has helped me decide on this field of study.
Thank you Bi and Pat for being so supportive and helpful to me, not just with this, but with my piano classes as well. I am really on the road to reaching what I have always wanted!
I know with you guys by my side, I truly can reach my dreams and ambitions!!!
It really means the world to me!
I look forward to enjoying it, and graduating with honours!!!

Aug 28, 2009

* DeTox

You need to detox yourself occasionally to feel rejuvenated, it has been a known thing to many for years. You plan a program suited to your requirement and need and you carry it out in the duration of usually a week. That's in a physiological aspect.
What do you do when you need to detoxify yourself Psychologically?
Read self help books?
Remove the negative vibes around you?
Think on the positive?
Be around people who bring good thoughts into your head?
Well the list is endless.. its not as simple as going on a complete fruit diet and achieving anti-bloating, a non water retention state of being.
Psychological detox would mean reaching a state of Zen!
Of complete peace with your surroundings, and that includes the people around you.
So what exactly should one do to detox Psychologically?
Humm.. When I do figure it out, I shall write about it, but right now..
fruits, water and purified air, your my buddy for the day..
To my brain, go to sleep and ignore the crap that will take place around no matter how hard you think you can make others to appreciate goodness! I shall just appreciate it by myself.. and find my state of ZEN!

Aug 26, 2009

* Pain is PAIN!!

If you get someone saying to you, "oh you find this pain unbearable even after experiencing labor?", you know what you should do? Roll a magazine and wack their head! That's what you do!
Whatever the pain you experience, if it's painful, it's painful!
Before experiencing labor, I was convinced nothing was going to be as painful as a tooth ache!
After experiencing labor, I stand corrected!! Pain is pain!
No measuring system can tell you which is worst!
No matter how high your tolerance to pain is, it will sting you till you tear and that to possibly to a cardiac arrest!
I really thought I was going to die of a heart failure when I got my right toe stuck in between the bottom of my wash room door and elevated floor, while trying to shut the damn thing!
My kids got so freaked out to see me cry the way I did and that frozen packet of corn made it even more unbearable! I almost felt like I was going to get a cardiac arrest trying to bare the pain!
Now my toe looks more blue than it should be blue black.
So listen to this loud and clear.. with or without labor experience..
I testify "PAIN is PAIN" no matter what!!!!

Aug 25, 2009

* Function with a dysfunction (FWAD)

Have you had people in your life who constantly had issues?
Issues that may seem so silly to some, but so serious to those who can only FWAD.
They can have a completely normal life, but they choose not to.
They choose to hang on to the crap of their past or the easily dismissable issues of the present. They simply must have something to be unhappy about so as to have a reason to live?
To these people the other odd thing is, they would so easily categorize others as a FWAD because to these FWADs their issues are so serious, other people's actual problems are dismissable to them..
Seriously, analyse these sort of FWAD people and you'll actually amuse yourself!

Aug 24, 2009

* Sostenuto.. I shall forever 'Sustaine' you!!

I felt really old today sitting for my Piano Theory Exam!!
Yes.. I was the only mom, who wasn't there with her kid, but was there at the exam hall for herself, amongst the kids of women my age and older!
I know people say, age is just a number, and that education sees no age limit, but I seriously believe in Music it does, especially if you're sitting for the exam with a bunch of kids.
This morning went well, and thanks to the bloody term SOSTENUTO which I will forever remember now, I shall not be getting that perfect 100%!! Hahahaha!
It was never the less, pure fun!
Answering this paper, and being the OLDEST in the ENTIRE exam hall!!

What's life without music?

Aug 21, 2009

* Mama Mania - Feeding Bottles

I have come to realise, that too many in this category can sometimes be a bad thing. How many feeding bottles can a child have? Well as many as you want them to have, but the stinky part comes when you have to wash them all!
Here's the thing, when you have a lot to begin with, each time your child asks you for a drink, you take a clean bottle from the storage container, and subsequently the soiled ones accumulate a the sink, well at least that's the case for me in my lazy days.
Then when you do run out of clean bottles, it takes you almost forever to wash the dirty ones, and as they say, collect your dishes and do them all at one time to save water (I CONFESS!!!! - it's not the saving of water that I consider in my case, it's my pure laziness, but I use this as my excuse to make myself feel better).
So I do, I collect them all and wash them up together except for the ones with milk, I give a quick rinse and soap them off in a pile. I want to make a change the next time around. Too many isn't a good thing when it comes to feeding bottles.
Once all these bottles are ready for trashing, I will get just TWO for my kid.
In that way, nothing piles up!
They are washed immediately because they need to be used again and again! Lazy or not, I'll have to wash them off ASAP!
Now that's a good plan, what do you say?

Aug 17, 2009

* The Fun in Facebooking


Have you ever seen a person having close to a thousand friends or more in their list of friends on Facebook? I'm sure you have. It can be pretty amazing how one keeps up with such a high number of friends and family on an account.

Then you have those who open Facebook account, and filters each and everyone they have on their FB, and keep a good number of 5 friends!

Well it is really the account holder's choice, but yesterday in a humored conversation with some good buddies, we decided to ask ourselves, who we shouldn't have on our facebook.

These are the ones we shortlisted:
1. Your boss/bosses.. I mean you work with them is enough already.. when you need to vent or complain, you might just want to shout out something to everyone and since FB is excellent for it, why loose that upcoming promotion right?

2. Your parents.. well this I wasn't quite agreeable to. There are other things to consider, like if you see your parents at the end of every day then what for? If you have a parent that's abroad or High-Tech and abroad, I guess having them on your FB, would help you keep in touch in a more fun sort a way, but that's only if the parent is FUN! As for me, if the world of the after life had FBs, I would so love to have my parents on FB too :P

3. Your ex-spouse... Yes what for? Who would want to keep such close contact with an ex-spouse? and don't you say you are open minded.. We just don't see that happening.

4. Your Pet.. Even Pets these days have FB accounts! What's up with all this? To keep your friends updates of his/her progress in the animal world? I mean since when were Pet's computer literates? All this is because of the free accounts given to us that we go making all sorts in the web right? : )

5. Family members.. this has its exception, if all of them live under one roof then why the hell for? Humm.. but I disagree to this one.. why not? You don't share the same friends as your siblings, and its fun to gather everyone in one account to enjoy a healthy discussion and comments. Unless you don't feel comfortable having family and friends meet even online?
Then again there are also the PEEPING TOMS of the Facebook world.
They sit in their account, online almost all day 7 days a week and do not respond to anything or anyone. But they are there non the less.. watching everything you do, and then some even discuss your activities with those who aren't on FB, and when the story gets to your ears.. yes you delete them off your account, and wish you could delete them off your life too!

Then there are those who have such online accounts, and make a fuss about being tagged to photos. The best are those who ask you to remove your photos just because their face is in it. Haven't they heard of UNTAGGING????
These are social networks. They are made for you to socialise, and the best thing is it has security settings that help you keep your privacy to the extend you wish for. Some use it for business, some use it to keep in touch with old friends near or far, many use them to share photos and video, and enjoy the commenting sessions!

Whether or not you favor FB, alot of us enjoy Facebooking..
As for me, it keeps me sane!
I keep in touch with my family, friends and ex-colleagues without having to pack my kids up and go outside of the house for a public socialising activity, I get to say my Hellos at the convenience of my time, and I love to hear the good news my friends have to share and console them in their sorrows if they do share them.
Many keep themselves involved in social circles in the various groups on Facebook and with all the constant reminders and invites, updates on news and current happenings, well certainly all this is only if you choose what to be fans and members of right. Plus all those silly quiz, how can anyone resist them? Its really a stress buster.
Over all, to me.. it's pure networking fun!

Aug 16, 2009

* Miley Cyrus - The Climb



Another one of my favorite.
Perfect lyrics that touches my soul. It really isn't about what you achieve but the road that you take to getting there, the journey that makes you who you are.

THE CLIMB
I can almost see it
That dream I'm dreaming but
There's a voice inside my head sayin,
You'll never reach it,
Every step I'm taking,
Every move I make feels
Lost with no direction

My faith is shaking but I
Got to keep trying
Got to keep my head held high

There's always going to be another mountain
I'm always going to want to make it move
Always going to be an uphill battle,
Sometimes I'm gonna to have to lose,
Ain't about how fast I get there,
Ain't about what's waiting on the other side
It's the climb

The struggles I'm facing,
The chances I'm taking
Sometimes might knock me down but
No I'm not breaking
I may not know it
But these are the moments that
I'm going to remember most yeah
Just got to keep going
And I,
I got to be strong
Just keep pushing on, cause

There's always going to be another mountain
I'm always going to want to make it move
Always going to be an uphill battle,
Sometimes I'm gonna to have to lose,
Ain't about how fast I get there,
Ain't about what's waiting on the other side
It's the climb (yeah)

There's always going to be another mountain
I'm always going to want to make it move
Always going to be an uphill battle,
Sometimes you going to have to lose,
Ain't about how fast I get there,
Ain't about what's waiting on the other side
It's the climb (yeah yeah ea ea)

Keep on moving
Keep climbing
Keep the faith baby
It's all about
It's all about
The climb
Keep the faith
Keep your faith

* 7teen and Beyond

You're not a kid, nor are you an adult.
So what are you?
A TEENAGER that's what you are.
A person who's got so much potential in life, who is at the starting point of the best things to achieve, standing on the platform to success. That's what your life is.
Being 17 is the prime point of your life.
The point where your decisions on friendship, relationship, education, career, family and personal enrichment takes its pinnacle priority.
The choices you choose can MAKE YOU or BREAK YOU.
That is what everyone should bare in mine too. Not just the teenager but the family, relatives and friends.
The support a teenager gets from the family is the utmost importance to allowing him/her to be what he/she will be.

You are blessed when you have the best circle of friends, a supportive family, and relatives who genuinely boost your confidence and supports you with your decisions. For those who come into your life to mock you, criticise you, scrutinize and belittle your behaviour, your actions and even judge your motives, don't get put down by all that. Don't allow the words of a hypocrite side track you from your dreams!

You would think you know exactly what you want, but honestly, you don't. It's good to think you do at 17, it will certainly allow you to figure out where and which path to walk through.

Good judgement comes from experience and that experience - well, that comes from poor judgement. The mistakes you make in your life, will be lessons you learn to being a better person, but remember.. it will be a learnt lesson only if you admit you've made a mistake to learn from.

Be humble in everything you do and say, but at the same time, do not let others use your humility to bully the person you are.

Be forever young in heart and mind, as age truly is just a number. Do not allow, whatever the circumstances be, make you older in manner than you may be. Your spirits are high right now, keep them high and keep yourself in tune to what the world and God has for you.

Do not let the ones you love, stray away from you by being ignorant to appreciating the love you share with them, and allow your good judgement to keep you away from the people who may be around you to rot your life.

Take your steps in life wisely and responsibly
Be happy in life no matter what comes your way, as being happy is a choice.
Respect those around you in order to be respected in return.
Place God in everything you do, plan to do, and surrender everything that you have been through in His hands.

You are very soon stepping into a whole new arena..
Place God before everything, place your confidence alongside with His Blessings..
And live the life you love to have as well as you love the life you have lived so far.
Believe in yourself most of all, as that faith will guide you through anything!

Happy 17th birthday my little gorgeous grown up niece!
Believe in yourself in everything that you do, you TRULY are UNIQUELY YOU!! Not anyone else but yourself..
Make your path right, I believe you will..
Make your footprints one worth following for your younger siblings and one that is looked up on by your peers.
All the best to you.. and I look forward to congratulating you all the way!
Happy birthday once again and I love you!!

* English Vs Manglish

Just for a laugh.. I got this from an email.. I'm pretty sure you may have gotten it in your inbox too.. if not.. read on..

WHEN GIVING A CUSTOMER BAD NEWS
Britons: I'm sorry, sir, but we don't seem to have the sweater you want in your size, but if you
give me a moment, I can call the other outlets for you.
Malaysians: No stock.

RETURNING A CALL
Britons: Hello, this is John Smith. Did anyone call for me a few moments ago?
Malaysians: Hello, who call?

ASKING SOMEONE TO MAKE WAY
Britons:Excuse me, I would like to get by. Would you please make way?
Malaysians: S-kew me

WHEN SOMEONE OFFERS TO PAY
Britons: Hey! Put your wallet away, this drink is on me..
Malaysians: No need lah.

WHEN ASKING FOR PERMISSION
Britons: Excuse me, but do you think it would be possible for me to enter through this door? Malaysians: (pointing at the door) Can ah?

WHEN ENTERTAINING
Britons: Please make yourself right at home.
Malaysians: No need shy shy one lah!

WHEN DOUBTING SOMEONE
Britons: I don't recall you giving me the money.
Malaysians: Where got?

WHEN DECLINING AN OFFER
Britons: I would prefer not to do that, if you don't mind.
Malaysians: Don't want lah.

IN DISAGREEING ON A TOPIC OF DISCUSSION
Britons: Err...Tom, I have to stop you there. I understand where you're coming from, but I
really have to disagree with what you said about the issue.
Malaysians: You mad ah?

WHEN ASKING SOMEONE TO LOWER THEIR VOICE.
Britons: Excuse me, but could you please lower your voice? I'm trying to concentrate over here.
Malaysians: Shut up lah!

WHEN ASKING SOMEONE IF HE/SHE KNOWS YOU.
Britons: Excuse me, but I noticed you staring at me for sometime. Do I know you?
Malaysians: See what, see what?

WHEN ASSESSING A TIGHT SITUATION.
Britons: We seem to be in a bit of a predicament at the moment.
Malaysians: Die lah!!

WHEN TRYING TO FIND OUT WHAT HAD HAPPENED
Britons: Will someone tell me what has just happened?
Malaysians: What happened> ah? Why like that one lah?

WHEN SOMEONE DID SOMETHING WRONG
Britons: This isn't the way to do it. Here, let me show you.
Malaysians: Like that also don't know how to do!

WHEN ONE IS ANGRY
Britons: Would you mind not disturbing me?
Malaysians: Celaka you!

Aug 14, 2009

* John Mayer: Say (music video from "The Bucket List")



I truly found this movie 'Bucket List' to be a lesson filled, hilarious, heart breaking one. The sort that is filled with words of advice you often hear but simply forget in the routines of your life.
Try to watch this movie if you have not and enjoy this song from John Mayer, SAY.
I must also say THANKS CHATAN for asking me to watch this!

SAY
Take all of your wasted honor
Every little past frustration
Take all of your so-called problems,
Better put 'em in quotations

Say what you need to say [x8]

Walking like a one man army
Fighting with the shadows in your head
Living out the same old moment
Knowing you'd be better off instead,
If you could only ...

Say what you need to say [x8]

Have no fear for giving in
Have no fear for giving over
You'd better know that in the end
Its better to say too much
Then never say what you need to say again

Even if your hands are shaking
And your faith is broken
Even as the eyes are closing
Do it with a heart wide open

Say what you need to say [x24]

* Oh To Be 12 Again...


A man was sitting on the edge of the bed, observing his wife, looking at herself in the mirror.
Since her birthday was not far off he asked what she'd like to have for her Birthday.
'I'd like to be twelve again', she replied, still looking in the mirror.
On the morning of her Birthday, he arose early, made her a nice big bowl of
Coco Pops, and then took her to Alton Towers theme park.
What a day!
He put her on every ride in the park; the Death Slide, the Corkscrew, the Wall of
Fear, the Screaming Monster Roller Coaster, everything there was.
Five hours later they staggered out of the theme park.
Her head was reeling and her stomach felt upside down.
He then took her to a Mc Donald's where he ordered her a Happy Meal with extra fries and a chocolate shake.
Then it was off to the cinema with popcorn, a huge Cola, and her favourite sweets...........M&M's.
What a fabulous adventure!
Finally she wobbled home with her husband and collapsed into bed exhausted.
He leaned over his wife with a big smile and lovingly asked,
'Well Dear, what was it like being twelve again?'

Her eyes slowly opened and her expression suddenly changed.
'I meant my dress size, you retard!!!!'

The moral of the story: Even when a man is listening, he is gonna get it wrong.
So to the women, try to be more specific when you talk to your man!

Aug 12, 2009

* Bless The Broken Road...

I just absolutely love this song..
by Rascall Flatts,
both the music and the lyrics.
(video clip from You Tube)

Bless The Broken Road
"I set out on a narrow way many years ago,
Hoping I would find true love along the broken road
But I got lost a time or two
Wiped my brow and kept pushing through
I couldn't see how every sign pointed straight to you
[Chorus:]
Every long lost dream,
led me to where you are
Others who broke my heart,
they were like Northern stars
Pointing me on my way,
into your loving arms
This much I know is true..
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you...
[Verse 2]
I think about the years I spent just passing through
I'd like to have the time I lost and give it back to you
But you just smile and take my hand
You've been there you understand
It's all part of a grander plan that is coming true
[Chorus]
Now I'm just rolling home
Into my lover's arms
This much I know is true
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you.

* NEVER say NEVER

When you say NEVER, try and mean it.
I remember the countless number of times I have said NEVER MORE WILL I....., yet I go about doing it.
We truly live in an oxymoronic state!
We chose to say things we won't be able to keep to, thinking that when we say it, because we may have forgotten it, others would have also.
Never will I lie to you..
Never will I talk to you..
Never will I bake that cake again...
Never will I see them again..
Never more will I hurt them...
The book entitled Secrets, have a lot that quotes on what you always say you NEVER MORE WILL DO, only brings the energy to make you do it again..
It's the positive things in life that we constantly tell ourselves that we want to have around us, but somehow the book also says that the way we channel this positive things has got to be about the I WILLs and not I WON'Ts.
I will be happy..
I will cook that cake again and make it better this time..
I will ignore her and pray for her..
I will let time pass and see if I do meet them again..
If its meant to be, it will be.
It's about the wants and not the don't wants, it's not about telling you never will and go do exactly what you vow you never would..
The power to bring the right things in your life, lies in your mind.
Your thoughts send out the energy of what you are and what you want absorbed into your soul.
So don't say NEVER and deliberately do just that.

Modern Day Proposal

I got this via email from someone very dear to me..
Thought I would share it with you. If you have not read this in your inbox before.. enjoy this ok..

SAMPLE OF A MODERN LOVE LETTER

Dearest Samantha,

I am very happy to inform you that I have fallen in love with you since Tuesday, the 17th of August 2001.With reference to the meeting held between us on the 17th of August 2001 at 1500 hours, I would like to present myself as a prospective lover.

Our love affair would be on probation for a period of no less than three months and depending on compatibility, would be made permanent. Of course, upon completion of probation, there will be continuous relationship training and relationship appraisal schemes leading up to promotion from lover to spouse.

The expenses incurred for coffee and entertainment would initially be shared equally between us. Later, based on your performance, I might take up a larger share of the expenses. However I am broad-minded enough, to be taken care of, on your expense account.I request you to kindly respond within 30 days of receiving this letter, failing which, this offer would be canceled without further notice and I shall be considering someone else.

I would be happy, if you could forward this letter to your sister, if you do not wish to take up this offer.Thanking you in anticipation.

Yours sincerely,
Max

MODERN REPLY TO MODERN LOVE LETTER

Dear Max,

Please refer to your letter dated today.

I am pleased to inform you that I hope to accept your proposal for romance.

However, you should be informed that there are certain conditions of acceptance. Promotional prospects are to my satisfaction. However, please enlighten me as to your retirement benefits.

Gratuity should be generous.I also need to be assured that there is sufficient security with regards to this commitment. If there is any chance at all of retrenchment or consequent disinterest on your part, then I should receive monetary compensation according to union standards.Due to the nature of my position, I am sure you will agree that an expense account should be arranged for my access in light of the 'VIP'.

I shall be entertaining. In addition, housing and transport allowances should be in order and nothing less than a Jaguar is in order.

Please also note that there should be no moonlighting restrictions placed on myself. If you are still interested in the relationship, please reply on an urgent basis as other prospective lovers have sent indications of interest.

Please also note that my sister is happily employed.

Yours perhaps, Samantha!

Aug 7, 2009

* Jack of All Trades and Master of None?


Interesting figure of speech isn't it?

As much as this saying was made in reference to a Generalist, a person, that is competent with many skills but is not outstanding in any particular one, I for one would rather say otherwise.

What if a person was competent with many skills and was excellent in them all?

Then wouldn't it be better to be a Jack of all trades?

Why just be a Master to one or two?

What's not great about being a Generalist?

Why can't that Generalist be a great one as he does the best in each and every trade he endeavours?

Leonardo da Vinci was a Generalist.

How famous is he?

Nothing is terminally unacceptable in being a polymath!

I see a Jack of all trades as an all-rounder rather than being just great at one thing, I choose to be great with many, great in the way I know best, great in the way that satisfies me because at the end of the day it is my happiness that matters. What I am proud of that counts.

I have learnt this much till now, that no one but yourself is the best validator to your own accomplishments. Others only help affirm it for you. Some people's views are better not acquiescented. Something great will always come out of your passion for learning something new.

I love a good challenge. The various trades I possess are those I challenge myself to achieving and it may not be seen as specialised to someone else, but the fact that I possess it, is great for me!

You are your own Master! Yes God is supreme!

I believe when your best is put in what you do, you've made it the best for you!
So be that Jack of all trades, drop off the following words to that saying!
Be that Jack of all trades and be the best Jack that lived!!!

Aug 6, 2009

* To 'Bitch' is no one's right!

Time out with friends are always something anyone would look forward to. I used to until I realise sometimes it's just a waste of time! When there's something to really talk about, share and discuss, be it a happy or sad reason, then the motive is fine. Just to simply chill out together is fine too.

But what sickens me is when you sit to talk and suddenly you start talking about someone else, and when there's some form of spike fullness existing against that talked about person, you hear comments like "ah, I'm sure she's fucking around and bullshitting her parents that she's busy with work!' or "yeah, tired and sleeping? with someone next to her after a good session I'm sure!"I've just heard way too many unworthy women speak this way.

Why do women, always allow themselves to put false accusations on another? To judge someone else in this matter?Most often, the ladies who talk this way, are actually doing it themselves, and yes I do know that for a fact!Does speaking this way make them feel less guilty of their own?It's always their own sins they so quickly label others with.

Is it because somehow they just want to feel better, reduses their guilt or something or are they so saintly they think it's their right?

Just because they sleep around, fuck freely with any random guy, drink in pubs and land in bed doesn't mean others who party and are sociable do the same!

Just because they don't know where to draw the line, doesn't give them the right to bitch and condemn someone else.May be it's time, women of such free nature understood that socializing doesn't mean having to spread your legs for an ass!

Many socialize, party and have loads of fun, away from sex!Just because some women are better at talking with men than others are, doesn't make her a city tramp!

Just because some women attract men more than others, doesn't make them a slut either!
Then again, just because some women are born gorgeous doesn't mean she runs the whore house in town!

Control your own insecurities.

Accusing another lady, is sincerely wrong to the marrow!

It may be your opinion you are voicing out, but what you so freely tag others, might just be the mirror image of what you are. Don't spoil your own reputation with such opinions.

A lot of us women, value who we are..We respect ourselves more than you know!!

You don't have the right to cast a stone on anyone whether you are wrong or right.

So let others be, sociable, happy and fun. Don't ruin their reputation just because you have a tongue! Don't ruin their reputation just because you don't have one, or you do have one but your crap is hidden under your sheets!

Jul 23, 2009

* An Akward Hello


I recently had a chance to spend some time with my nephew who's down from US for his summer break, and spending time with him has always been great in a very hilarious way. We both somehow connect on common grounds.

Our most recent ground, was akward hellos. How the people we meet, start a conversation with you when they bump into you in public.

We were thought of the very standard style which was firstly wishing, "Hello" or "Hi" or even "Good day.." followed by "how are you" or "where to, long time no see" (in our Manglish terms) etc.

Have you had someone come up to you and start a conversation by saying,
"Hei (with a head nod), dark already ha (pointing their finger at you as if he needed to be more specific)?" or
"Wah, you're back, so how are the girls back in US? (yah right now I see why you go abroad!)" or
"Wei, wah fat already ha you? (thats doesn't make you any better looking than me!)"
and these are from people you are meeting after months, and the respond we sarcastically give sometimes is "Hi..(returns a head nod), nice to meet you too!" but I'm very certain that sarcastic hint just gets lost in the emptiness of their head did I say head? I meant emptiness of their conversation.
I just must add this one thing, a conversation I heard between two girls who were meeting after several years at a wedding, and the older one said to the other, "Hello.. wah your butt is getting bigger and bigger than your head woman!" This was an absolute shocker. Coming from a woman who supposedly was considered very educated, and nope the younger lady wasn't me.
We laughed a lot as we shared our experiences of such ridiculous and akward first lines, but his was more recent so the intensity of it was greater.

The way people these days relate to others, and their mannerisms in conversations.

Is there an answer to why this is the way it is?

The only 2 things I can think about is the shallowness and insensitivity of that person.

What and how you speak, tells others what you are, and it's sad when you get classified as a shallow or insensitive individual.

Whatever the case, I think its about time people used their brains in constructing a conversation and not sit on them and from now on those who can start a conversation right, should try and enlighten those who don't, unless you are afraid of loosing a friend, humm.

Observe from now on how people talk to you when they meet you after a long time and enjoy the laugh, but do yourself a favor and never join them just because you think you can't beat them.

* Chinese Zodiac Personality of The Snake

Snake symbolizes such character traits as intelligence, gracefulness and materialism. When it comes to decision-making, Snakes are extremely analytical and as a result, they don’t jump into situations. They are effective at getting the things they want, even if it means they have to scheme and plot along the way.
Snakes are very materialistic creatures, preferring to surround themselves with the finest that life has to offer. This is especially evident in the home, where luxurious furnishings and surroundings help Snakes seek the peace they need in order to thrive.
Snakes do work very hard, but they have a tendency to be job-hoppers as they become easily bored. Their somewhat laid-back attitude causes them to be mistakenly categorized as slackers, but nothing could be further from the truth!
Snakes are very creative and extremely diligent. They’re excellent problem-solvers and thrive under tight deadlines.
Good career choices for Snakes include: scientist, analyst, investigator, painter, potter, jeweler, astrologer, magician, dietician, and sociologist.
Snakes are excellent seducers so they never have trouble attracting others.
However, they’ll be the ones to decide when a relationship has potential and when it does not. Once they’ve chosen a partner, a Snake’s insecure side will begin to show through.
Snakes guards their chosen partners much like a prized possessions, becoming jealous and even obsessive.
Snakes prefer to keep their feelings to themselves.
It’s important to never betray a Snake’s trust as a betrayed snake will make it a goal to get even some day!

Jul 21, 2009

* All in a day's work


Guess this woman never heard of the term Multitasking.
Clean house
Clean kids
Food on the table
Time for books and study with the kids
TV time
Play time
Prayer time
Screaming and laughing time
Nap time
Friends and family time
All this with lots of love to have everything going on smoothly at home.. and all that with a PC that's not broken, on a secured board band thanks to Maxis for lots of socializing, writing and learning taking place..
ALL IN A DAY'S WORK!!!
Yes Multitasking is a highly skilled ability.
Not many can do it, but it's not difficult to exercise it either.
Like I tell many, it's all in your head actually!
With time management, and the gift of multitasking.. a lot can be achieved.
I am a stay home mum, and I am not bored because I keep myself occupied in many ways possible. To all those close to me who have decided to be stay home mums too, you always ask me how I do it because you seem to be suffocated with boredom, well this is how.
I grab what the world has to offer in its most simplest form and I make the best out of it for myself and my family!
Life is an endless learning experience.
'Today is the continuation of more for tomorrow since yesterday.'

* Conveniently Rude

How often have you encountered people who are conveniently rude around you?
I met one yesterday and seriously I didn't spare a moment to enlighten her of her rudeness.

So here's how it went, we did some grocery shopping yesterday and at the end we had to go settle the parking ticket before heading home. Out of 4 counters only 2 were open and out of the 2, the one on the right side had a larger space for people to park their carts and settle the payments. I obviously went to that lane as I had my kids and a cart full of things with me and in front of us, was a man who was paying his ticket and behind him another lady in the same scenario as I was, kids and a full cart.

I stood very patiently for her to take her cash out of her purse, while the man in front of her had already left the counter, and in the midst of the waiting, a very interesting specimen of a woman pushed herself through me and the lady in front of me to get to the counter we were queued at.

It really got on my nerves, and the lady in front of me looked at me in disbelieve. I, as being my usual self decided to comment, "she's so bloody rude isn't she?" and the woman who cut us to the counter could defend herself by saying, "Oh I didn't know you all were waiting in line to pay lo!"

I couldn't help myself but ask her "Why did you think we were standing here to look at the bloody ceiling?" she still carried on saying, we stood not in queue and she had no idea, but she never apologised nor did she ask us if it was OK to go ahead of us, and there we were, 2 mothers with kids and a cart and juggling all this by ourselves while decently waiting in queue and another WOMAN can completely be so inconsiderate towards this situation. A situation another woman should by right understand.

To me it isn't about her going ahead of us. If she had asked instead of pushing her butt through the line, I wouldn't have minded it at all, but the very fact she could make her action seem correct and completely disregard us for the fact we were in queue was what got on my nerves.

A lot of women out there do not give any care for other ladies who juggle so much by themselves. Be it in shopping centers, hospitals, or even while boarding a public transport or an escalator for that matter, everyone wants to push their way through. When a woman walks with a kid on both sides of her body.. you respect that and give way! You aren't very far away from being in that same shoe if you only think ahead!

I had my 'go' last night! Honestly I felt so good telling that lady off, and I have not written every bit of that conversation here but the best part of all was to have the other juggling mummy join me in 'taruh-ing' this woman, just made my day!

Here's a good picture of how even a deer knows the sense of queueing up!

* An Insightful Discovery

I got this email today and I thought I'd post it on my blog:

Do you know…?
At 12hr 34 minutes and 56 seconds on the 7th of August this year, the time and date will be 12:34:56 07/08/09

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 This will probably never happen in our life again.
Unless we live to the next millennia??!!!!

Jul 19, 2009

* My 1st Paul Smith Bag

A sudden obsession I have just acquired and over what? Paul Smith bags..

I got my first yesterday and I'm truly impressed with his bizarre crazy sense of colours and designs.

As always, I had a reason to look for a bag (although a woman never needs a reason for a new bag, as there isn't such a thing as too many bags in a lady's vocabulary). I needed one that will hold all my piano books, because my initial ever faithful bag, gave way. The increase of books got to heavy for that poor faithful friend of mine, so we went on a bag hunt and when I saw this collection of bags, I found myself instantly attracted to the fabulously humored look of Paul Smith's collection. I seriously believe that the men's collection stands out better than the ladies though!

So I got myself one.. Something that was big enough for the horizontally lengthy books I have and one that I believe is strong to last with style, and most of all FUN! It's Paul Smith's Mini Cooper collection.

Simply love it!

As crazy as some may feel in carrying a bag that looks like this, the fact is if you know me well enough you will know that crazy is part me. Remember I hate black bags? Yah! I'm quite certain this name will linger around my shoulder for some time. Looking forward to getting a cool and mad piece of wallet from him soon!

~Paul Smith's Mini Cooper Canvas Bag~

Jul 18, 2009

* Thanks for the gift??


I love buying gifts!
Yes, be it for any occasion, I truly enjoy doing this. I love to watch the pleased expressions of the one receiving it and I always like to choose the oddest, rarest stuff if possible.
How about you?
Are you the sort that dreads it?
Rather envelope some cash and roll it into the receiver's hand or the type who takes time to get something worth while?
I know many who would rather give cash, as it is most of the time the best thing to do especially for weddings, where the couple could do a lot with your cash rather than a gift.
Have you ever wondered why you got what you got as a gift?
Have you ever asked yourself, "What was he/she thinking when he/she decided to purchase this for me?"
Well I have.
In fact the most ridiculous gift I have received were from my most lousy aunties in my life, and till now I still cannot comprehend why they got me the stuff they did?
Yeah I know its the thought that matters, but seriously, don't get a person trash as a gift and drop the whole "where shall I throw this" scenario on anyone.
Buy gifts that are worth something.
A gift worth your money, and a gift worth receiving.
A gift you would love to receive because what you would love to receive is what you would certainly not find hard to get for another!
So people, think before you buy something for someone.
If you fail to figure out what you should get, then envelope that cash of yours and pass it on. That always works somehow. *Sigh*
Better still, just wish them, call them if you are far away and wish them. That saves a lot of trouble, on the part of the receiver! *Sighs again*
Finally to the one receiving the gift, don't forget your "Thank you"!

Jul 16, 2009

* Lost & Found Friendships


The past week I have been meeting up with friends and acquaintances that I have some how lost contact with for quite some time. A very wise woman once told me, no matter how long you've been apart, true friends can meet again and talk like they weren't apart at all. This is somehow so true in reality.
Why?
Is it because you have made a good impression on that friendship that no matter how long you have not seen each other or been in contact and bare in mind these days you can still keep contact without seeing each other at all thanks to the Internet, you can still bind? Is it because of 'old times sake' that you find it easy to just start back where you last ended?
What happens if you have lost touch in a friendship in a bitter way?
Then can this theory be true?
I guess it can. If you have been through enough time to heal, enough time to be calm over the bitterness, enough solitary moments to think, then you may find it easy to let bygones be bygones.
I lost one good friend and have regained her friendship only because I believe I have stepped forward to mending things that were badly misunderstood between us, and all I did was to say 'HI' in the loudest tone possible, with a huge smile and a strong hug when I bumped into her in the mall 5 years later! I didn't do that with any thinking, it just happened.
Nature has its way to making things better for you, and most of the time its when you don't think too much that you see it happen.
I'm glad that happened. I'm glad it happened without any thought.
To all those I met this week, I'm glad we got a chance to meet up again!!
There was another lovely lady who also told me, it's best to just be close but not too close, to avoid being taken for granted. I agree with this too, distance makes the heart grow fonder, and I guess the distance I had with these friends allowed me to safe the friendship without anything being taken for granted.
Whatever said, I'm truly blessed for the friends I have in my life right now, for those who were there, and for the ones to come.

Jul 6, 2009

* When do we grow up?


These days, I tend to sit down more with the other mothers in my girl's kindergarten, and its been quite an experience I must say. Most of the ladies in this circle of mothers are much older to me but our eldest are classmates.

Our conversations at days can be pretty silly and serious depending on what we have to share with each other. Most of the time its trashing other people and honestly I don't know why.

I suppose alot of us bottle up too much in ourselves that when we do get to bring it out it comes out in the form of condemning others, then there are also people who think so mighty of themselves that they assume they have the rights to do so. Talking about the way other people dress, walk, talk, drive, name it, in any topic it may be, there is some trashing done.

Today I couldn't help but voice out in defense of the one being trashed.

A mother who dresses up obnoxiously with cleavage revealing tops and seriously mind blowing clothes which in many ways doesn't suit her nor the venue. Apparently she was laughed at by these mothers once and she stood up for herself to tell these ladies off, and as always no likes being 'told off' that they decided to share this horrifying event with me. Well to me, I do agree with both sides, I personally feel her sense of dressing is inappropriate, but that's about it. In no way should she be condemned for defending herself and be called bossy, defensive, or deprived of control at home, etc as excuses for the defense she took for herself from this laughing vultures. What is even amazing is that this woman still talks to these mothers and I see that as admirable. If I had to be sarcastically told off by women who laughed at me, I would certainly keep them out of my sight!

"If you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything." This is what the lady told them when she caught them laughing at her overly sexy outfit couple of weeks ago. I think its pretty much true when its got to do with someone who's not closest to your heart. I don't believe in not saying what I need to say to people who respect my opinion and are close to me when it comes to fashion at least.

So the question is this, when do we grow up? When do we stop labelling others and trashing the ones around you? How do we get the ones around us to realise, you have passed the age for this and you need to show some form of wisdom in yourself. The more we carry on with such attitude the more we teach our kids its fine to be rotten this way. Just because we can doesn't mean we have to.

I think I tried to make that difference today. I asked them to stop scrutinizing her more than they should. It was just her dressing they all had an issue about, and yes they were rude to laugh at her, and yes she had the right to tell them off, and yes she also had the right to defend herself when not only they laughed but verbally defended themselves by condemning her directly at her face.

So once again, when do we grow up? It's a very subjective question but I suppose its not the age that holds the answer, but in the will of an individual to make that change!

Jul 2, 2009

* Bad childhood ~ Rotten adulthood?



Watching too much Crime and Investigation Channel made me come up with this post. Is a person's bad childhood an excuse or a reason for anyone to behave badly when they're all grown up?
In almost every documentary, you will find one point in the narration saying, the criminal had a bad childhood. I'm sure this is certainly made after an evaluation of the case by very professional psychologist, and I believe this isn't something that the law accepts to do away with one's punishment.
It is really sad to know a person has been through a bad childhood.
What is the definition of a bad childhood by the way, and by whom?
Abuse in all forms?
Deprived of happiness?
Deprived of freedom to be a child?
Deprived of comfort?
By your parents? Your siblings? Your community? Your friends? Your relatives?
Well the list can certainly be endless depending on the adaptability of a kid to his or her situation with their childhood. There are many ways a person may have had a bad childhood. There are many different levels to it also, and one person's bad past may not seem bitter at all to another who may have had it worst for them.
Sad to say, there are also adults who actually had life pretty easy yet at the point of being an adult they conclude they had a bad childhood only because they were not given what they supposedly think they should have had as a kid. Yes I know many cases like this personally and not over crime and investigation channel.
It goes back to how parents of the older generation were. How their parenting skills were of their parents'. Nevertheless there were also parents of the older generation who did a marvelous job with their kids only to end up having those children grow up as rotten parents to their own.
Who's to be blamed for this?
Who holds the power to being a good individual, a good citizen, a good adult, a good family member, a good friend or a good neighbour?
Yes long term abuse by caretakers can cause a lot of damage to a child, but what can we say about those who grew up with the best childhood yet end up rotten as adults? Is this the cause of peer pressure? Is this a case of low serotonin levels? Poor attitude management or simply a case of lousy choices?
Bottom line is what you chose to be is what you will be!
Unless you have a serious case of mental disorder that requires medication and serious care in a mental asylum, you have every reason to be a better person not for anyone else but for yourself!! The choice is yours, if you had a bad childhood, use that as a reason to live a better adult life because now the power is in your hands and not those who brought you up, and treat others the way you want to be treated. If abuse and deprivation was your past, and you hated it, don't do that to those around you. If you think you deserve better, then the ones you love deserve the best from you too.
Don't make your past as an excuse for you to be rotten in your own power of existence.
Many out there have endeavoured hardships and have chosen whats best for themselves and the ones they love.
Lastly, parents, don't forget to remind your child how much you love them and how much they mean to you even if you had to be strict with them for their own good. You only do whats best for them and you must make sure you are not misunderstood for abuse, for that can be really unfortunate to a really loving parent who's kid is life to them!!!
(A Thankful note - I AM MY MOTHER!!! I loved her very much and I am in many ways like her!! My parents, my family and my friends have thought me the best things to treasure for life!! through my toughest and joyous moments. I am truly very blessed for them all.)

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* You STOP it!!


Yes the title sounds weird but that's what my son says to me when I tell him to behave and stop doing what he's doing. How do I deal with it? Well I most of the time tolerate and tell him back to not speak to me that way, but daringly he still tries, and when I lose my temper he runs really fast away from me to so call protect himself from getting a spank on his buttocks from my hands!

I asked him the other day while doing my provisions if I should buy the "Rottan" for him? Of course he said NO! A really quick reply even before I could finish my question. NO! Yup, I won't buy the cane for him, I don't believe in spanking a child to teach discipline, I don't know how we took it all when we were kids, when a spank was the only way things would make sense to us. When fear was the only way to discipline a child.

Sometimes talking my son out of his naughtiness isn't easy either. I notice myself getting louder at him when he doesn't listen and then I wonder if my neighbour's are going to call up STAR probe and report my loudness as "child abuse".

It's not easy, especially this phase where your kid talks back at you. Smacks you back, and screams back at you for not allowing him to make a complete fool of himself in public. Experts say this phase will ware off. Kids outgrow this behaviour. I am yet to know and when it does, I'll certainly be the happiest person on earth! So till that happens I shall STOP COMPLAINING.. and pray he grows out of all this real soon to keep my sanity!

Jun 29, 2009

* A 'Shopaholic' in us all???


I must say reading a book and watching its movie is completely a different experience altogether. Some movies make no justice what so ever to the book, but watching Confessions of a Shopaholic last night made me open that book I got by Sophie Kinsella, 8 years ago just to see what I lost in my read.


The movie was overall funny in a very "sick in the stomach sorta way". Watching her compulsive shopping habits and especially seeing the credit bills gave me a twist in my stomach. I didn't get that from reading the book though. Rebecca Bloomwood acted by Isla Fisher carried her role well, and truly managed to send out the message to us all, well at least to me.


If you look deep inside you, there is a little bit of a shopaholic in each one of us. Yes maybe we don't go on buying almost everything we see when we pass a window but, how often have we asked ourselves "do we really need this?" or scream a little scream in your head/heart/stomach when you see the credit card statement at the end of the month? Well honestly I have (not out of control though), especially when it's around special occasions and festivals. There always seems to be a reason for a purchase.


Our parents on the other hand were exactly the sort Rebecca had. They shoped at every cheap sale possible and only got the stuff they really needed and if it came as a in house brand all the more they would take that instead of imported stuff. Look at how they've done it? Most kids would think their parents were so "not cool" at all, and compare themselves to their friends who had everything branded and imported, and wonder why they were born in the home they did.


Yeah, I had my moments of wondering too, rarely but I did have them, but seriously, money management is important.

Not everyone is as lucky as Rebecca Bloomwood to get all her debts settled by selling off her branded items, not everyone lives in this fictitious world of the movies but this scenario is not fictional in the real world either.


So ask yourself what defines you, and you will know what your priorities are. Your wardrobe? Your car? Your house/condo? Your bank balance? or as Graham Bloomwood (John Goodman) the father of the shopaholic said, its his wife and daughter that defines who he is! I'll like to stand by that too!!


Catch the movie if you haven't already.

My DVD is going to sit right next to my book on my shelf!!

Jun 28, 2009

* Respectfully we honour??

Ever wondered how you can one day be hailed and another day be condemned then hailed again? Well you can if you are Michael Jackson.

Today I went to pierce my little girls ears, and for her strength I decided to reward her with some really good DVDs and as I entered the Music store, I was really impressed at how fast the music industry could come up with new compilation albums of Michael Jackson's Best Hits, Michael's Chart Toppers, seriously, the various names of Mike's music all complied for sales, all in store on racks with gorgeous covers sealed up for you to pick it up and enjoy!

Yes, I want to believe this is in honour of his music for us all, but where was all this when he was dumped with law suites and allegations for child molestations? When he went into silence, where his voice in our MP3s, where was his music on the radio waves? Where was his name besides the new one hailed upon him, Jacko? With all his albums probably sitting behind every other new ones in the music store (well yes music is like that.. out with the old and in with the new!). You never heard anything good of him when he had issues with himself, his love life and the kids around him. No one talked anything else but trash of this man in every possible media form, and now we honour him or is it honour of a bloody business opportunity??

Use his fans to make a buck or hundreds of it? Use his death and his fans to boost the economy? Smart idea!

Hey I personally enjoyed his music. I was not a die hard fan of his, nor am I for any one actually, but he did impress me with his talent. Only his talent!

He was at the end of the day, just another man, a celebrity the media had a good time talking about, his music was fantastic, his art of performing and entertaining was spiritual to many of his fans, and yes many people around us like Mike, were not bad people but just had bad luck!

Where am I going with all this? Is that I feel utterly disgusted with how the world can be a bloody hypocrite to us all. How there's always hidden agendas to everything that goes on around us with the people around us. How people take advantage to make profit for themselves. Tell me that's how the world is, and I'd agree. I do.. the world dwells with blood suckers living in complete disguise. Not every action must be presumed sincere and not every honourable tribute be reputed as respectful.

Jun 26, 2009

* The King of Pop is in a better Kingdom now

I woke up this morning to an sms my sister sent me. What was it? The King of Pop died after a cardiac arrest. The media calls it a shock wave in the entertainment industry, fans all around the world are in a state of shock with the death of the world's greatest artist ever.

What do I call it?? Another man, who made the best music ever, died a death that befalls anyone around us. Bottom line, he's just human! Want to know what I responded to my sister's sms? Well good for him, god bless his soul.. he's indeed in a better place! After all the records he has made.. and all the hevoc he had undergone with the media, and dying off after a long silence in the industry, I believe he's made his moments on earth and its time for him to get on with something out of this world. God has better plans for him, and another way you can look at this is.. hey he's the most flexible skinniest artist yet he died of a cardiac arrest? How ironic is that?

So much for conclusions of who should be at risk of the worst possible death!
So Mickey died the same week my mum did 7 years ago with a cardiac arrest too..





We will always have his music in our hearts and his name in music will go down generations even though we have all lost this Pop King..

So Michael Jackson, whichever way you get burried, may THE ALMIGHTY God bless your soul, and may you rest in peace.. Amen!

Jun 25, 2009

* Thank you for the wishes..

It's always a great feeling to be remembered by your close ones on a special day in your life such as your birthday or special anniversaries. It's even better to receive gift, yes it is although you wouldn't want anyone to trouble themselves for you. Why is it so? Is it because you think by being remembered you are valued by others? What happens when you aren't remembered? Is that a sign you aren't valued? Who determines the value of your life? Those around you or yourself?
To me, I determine my value, but those around me help validate that for me. Is that the way it is for you? If you are important to someone else, they will place importance to remembering you, and showing it to you, in the grandest way or the simplest it really doesn't matter, even if it's on that very same day or belated, the thought is what matters.
I remember what, when and how others show me they appreciate me, but there are always times where I have either failed to show it back in return or simply choose not to show any back in return because bottom line is its just not that one special day that matters but every single day of knowing each other. The special day is simply the best opportunity to herald it out.
Therefore appreciate the ones around you always not just on those special days, and show in every simple way you care for those around you too.

Jun 15, 2009

* Ignorance Denial and Choices

I guess I choose ignoring a person as the option out when it comes to having to deal with a difficult character, and most often this option is resorted after trying many times to correct and care for that individual.
Sadly it is the easier way out, but never would I jump to it without giving it my all to helping that certain someone first.
Lately I have been asked to help someone deal with issues I clearly feel one can live without, and my final conclusion to it after much thinking is that if that person chooses to be that way and is able to sleep peacefully after being so wretchedly hurtful to others then who am I to be bothered to comprehend it anymore. Ignorance is bliss and it most of the time helps lighten the burden of being sad for someone who's doing wrong.
I believe people who deliberately hurt others on the claims that they've been hurt by the one hurting them can never find peace in their hearts and if they think it isn't wrong to be hurt the ones who've hurt you, then you are living in a world of denial. No peace can come about living a life so self centered. Its that choice you make to live selflessly that draws peace into your life, and eventually the choices you make in life tells others what sort of person you are.
Live right for the right purpose.
Live with respect for yourself and others because your credibility depends on it.
Help those around you bounce back to the right path and make sure they aren't just pretending to change in front of you and to be the exact same rotten plant they were from the start.
If you've given your best and your best isn't good enough then ignorance comes in.

Jun 1, 2009

* What goes around, comes around

Yes, this is indeed a very famous saying. Karma as most of us call it is indeed unfortunate if it's a bad one.
There were many incidences whereby I was treated so badly by the ones around me, mostly emotional havoc, and yes people tell you forgive the ones who've hurt you and forget it and move on but its easier said than done. Deny all you want, but personally I don't believe even you can!
Often times what you do to others will come to hit you back in the face, and I truly believe this especially when you intentionally hurt another person.
Your bad intentions will come back to haunt you and you will never be able to handle the guilt of it all when similar crap befalls you. What do you do then? Kill yourself with the guilt? Call the person you have hurt and mend the situation? That's truly very hard to do, and it takes a whole load of courage and sometimes a whole yard of thick skin.
Can what you do to others be directed intentionally by that other person back to you? Can forces of nature give the hurt ones the benefit of turning your hurt back to you through someone else? What if you have been hurt by a certain someone and later find out how that person has been hurt by someone else, do you feel sorry for the one who's hurt you or do you silently say to yourself "he deserves it!"?
I am the later. I'm honestly saying that I am. People who can't be bothered about caring for another ( and this doesn't mean giving your life for someone else OK, it just mean giving respect to other people!) seriously isn't worth bothering about, but when I do hear of what ill events have come along their life, I find it really hard to feel totally sympathetic without a part of me saying.. "yeah well that's what you get for deliberately hurting someone else!"

I am sure it is wrong to be thinking the way I do, but the bottom line here is, you have forgiven and as much as you have to forget, you don't control that part of your brain, and as sinful as it is, I believe you just have got to live with the fact that yes what goes around comes around and if you think you can get away by being terribly painful to others, understand that in this very lifetime of yours you will be blessed with similar if not more pain in return.

So watch how you behave towards others, and watch what you say to others. No matter how much damage control you do after breaking the glass into pieces, remember the glass is already broken! You either deal or be blessed without the glass owner who's able mock you or laugh at you when pain strikes you in the future.

May 30, 2009

* I allow my kids to have fun, may be you should try it some day.

We were at the park yesterday just as we do most evenings, but yesterday I met someone I had seen around the condo but never actually spoken to. She was down with her niece, a very talkative, active and yes a very cute 4 year old named Christin.

I decided to open a conversation with her aunt and we talked for a bit. She was the sort of aunt, most aunts would be. Strict and sadly the kind that would never allow a kid to be a kid. She didn't quite allow her niece to do anything the girl wished to do, like to swing on the monkey bar, jump onto the slide, or even to balance stand on the seesaw bar, and guess what else, she even kept telling the girl to stop talking too much. All the things I allow my kids to do. Ah, actually I even allowed my nephew and nieces to do so while at a park.

My children are really used to this park, and they have a certain style of swinging on the bar before taking a ride on the slide. I totally allow them to do so only because they have a daily experience of it, but it wasn't the case for Christin. Her aunt would sound her every time she tried to do it, and she would stop immediately at the sounding (very good girl I would say), but there came a point that this woman started to restrict my kids from doing what I have always allowed them to do at the park.

I knew she had no idea of my agreement with my children and I decided to stay silent over her sudden shocks looking at how Belle and CJ played in the play house (which honestly is the way most kids would play), but my silence broke when she decided to run after my son, who was doing the monkey swing before slide act and she shouted at him for it! She even told out so loudly to me, "This boy is very stubborn!"

Knowing me? I just sat on the park bench and told her off calmly but sarcastically, "I allow my kids to have fun in the park and they are very used to what they are doing. Do you mind watching what you say?" and she went all shocked and silent!

Yes she tried to defend her act by telling me its very dangerous, and so on but I only told her that, my kids come down here everyday and they know what they can and cannot do.

I truly appreciate her act of concern but I didn't appreciate her comments!

I am the mother of the kid she called stubborn, and I don't think anyone has the right to say that about someone else's kid to their parent's face especially when your child has not invaded that person's space.

Its really amazing when you do sit and watch the different types of parents, grandparents or aunts and uncles that bring their kids to the park. If you are the sort of parent that has a broad concept to fun unlike all the restrictions most parent put on their kids, you would certainly find it a fun time watching the many acts at a play ground.

Yesterday was just one of those days for me.

May 28, 2009

* Allowing a change

I just got back from watching 'Night at the Museum 2' with my kids and we enjoyed it very much. Funny and ridiculous but overall it was just a real good time at the movies! I got this line from Teddy Roosevelt (acted by Robin Williams) saying, "When you allow change to take place in your life, you allow yourself to experience something new."
I was really impressed by that line (yeah you would say "whats so great about it.. like I didn't already know!")
It made me look at my life in the aspect of my career.
I have often told myself I would never quit my job because I really loved what I did, and I was very adamant about it honestly. Even after having Isabelle I would always tell my husband that, my career is not something I would give up just because I'm a mother now, but my husband never said anything back to me.
After Christan was born 2 years ago, I started to look at things very differently.
Going to work and dropping off my 2 kids at a babysitter, wasn't fun at all, and all this feelings came in when I was actually doing really well at work and even the likelihood of a really good promotion, but it suddenly didn't mean anything to me when I had to leave my kids with someone else to take care and be all absorbed with work when I could do so much with them.
I then decided to quit my job and yes my husband was the happiest man on earth to hear it!
I got selected for best employee and I submitted my resignation. Believe me, working for the government with seniority bullshit, and being an Indian, that award wasn't something that came on a silver plate to me.
So I did.. I resigned and right now believe it or not, I have so much more going on for me than I would ever be able to have if I had been working.
I see the change I made benefiting my children, family and most of all myself.
This change I made has allowed so much more to come into my life, and I truly thank God for it.
I guess when you think too much about changing, you tend to be blinded by only what you may loose but never would you be encourage to think that better stuff awaits you. I didn't think of it this way when I resigned. I only thought of it for what it was at that point, and now I see the newness its brought me. Change really can bring you the opportunity for new things!
You should give it a try! (nope I didn't mean you should quit your job)

* Venting Therapy

Do you vent? Do you feel the need to vent out your heart when something or someone bothers you?? I truly admire those who don't, but sadly I do! I vent, and I can vent a lot!

Why I do it, I wish I could stop but so many things around me can easily piss me off. Character, behavior, attitude, responses, actions, you just name it. To me a certain behavior is expected in a certain situation and not to say I have made too narrow a grid, I do allow room for mistakes and foolishness but when its repeated almost too often, it pisses me off and I vent.

I vent because I need to release that irritation out of my system. I have various people I vent to about various other issues. What I vent to A isn't what I vent to B or C, and I try to always accept the advice one gives. Which often is, "Just ignore it Jen!" Its the easiest answer. I give that out to others who vent to me too when I have no idea what else to say. Ignorance is bliss, but not everything around you and everyone around you can be put on an ignore mode.

It has become a therapy for me to relax.
I vent so that I can calm down, and when you're all calmed down you will think clearer in your head.
These days when I call someone to vent to, I actually address it to them that I'm venting, or "Hey I need to vent.. are you free??" but yes its only to buddies who allow me to be their venting booth too.

Here's an advice to you if you are not a 'vent er', please don't judge those who do, we 'vent ers' really do love and care for the ones around us but we vent out in order to treat our self for peace and calmness in the mental and emotional department, and yes most 'vent ers' will vent about you to someone else, but will still display their love, care and affection to you because they believe by telling you directly what their pissed about you, would do only harm to the relationship, and who actually needs all that trouble, right?

Lastly please do not get it all mistaken for back biting and gossiping or even grumbling. Venting is nothing of that sort. A vent is much connected to emotions and care for someone that when that someone pisses you off you just need to express your pain else where so as to calm down.. It really is a Therapy!!

May 27, 2009

* Too quick to judge??

I must admit I am a sinner on this.. I judge everyone and anyone often too quickly but the reason I don't stop is because I have come to known that 3/4 of the time I am right, so much so that the wrong quarter doesn't matter anymore!

Why do I do it? Well I guess I have been the sort that wants to put everyone I meet into categories that I have preset in my life so that I would know how to or not to deal with them.
I will only know if my judgement of someone is right be it good or bad, if I make myself acquainted with the person, and so I do. I don't find it difficult to start a conversation with anyone but the ones I strike as bad often end up being the ones I find easier to talk to.
I guess that's my difference, I don't just judge, I allow some time of knowing to conclude my judgement even if its completely brief.

Am I a hypocrite? I mean if I have judged badly of them and they turned out being otherwise after knowing them, I simply knock myself in the head and say, "Hey Jen what the hell were you thinking woman!" and pay it off by being really good to that person. I am not a hypocrite! Well everyone one of us are allowed to judge others, and personally I think its important to do so, if not why on earth would such a saying "first impressions matter!" exist?

How would you know if your judging someone correctly? What if the person you are judging is in an unforeseen situation? Excuse me! There are no such thing as wrong impressions with unexpected situations. How a person behaves be it in any situation, calls for the right approach which will be interpreted or judged rightfully.

I have been told by others, how I have been judged wrongly by them. I hardly ever came across as a friendly, down to earth being unless and until one really gets to know me. So I suppose I am the sort that would fall into the my own wrong quarter of judgement. So how would I judge someone like me? Hilarious isn't it?

Just like me there are so many out there and I will always remember that as much as I judge others, others are bound to judge me too and I know they do! So watch your first impressions especially if its with someone you hope would judge you correctly! Remember also, don't fake your impressions on others. There really is no good reason to do so!

* Were you the same person??

Have you ever experience a time when you are out with your girl friends and a good looking guy passes by your table and all of a sudden a certain someone in your circle of girls suddenly behaves differently??

A sudden adjustment of posture, adjustment of facial expressions, a sudden prim and proper table manners, and sometimes a sudden increase in the volume of her voice? or even a sudden drift of eye contact where they don't look at you when they talk but look behind you???

I am sure you have! Doesn't that piss you off??

It pisses me off really badly and I mean really badly!!

What the heck was that transformation for?? To attract the bloody bloke that passed by or probably is sitting by the next table??
Why do you think that by your sudden change of skin you would probably win a date or is it just some cheap thrill you enjoy and it makes your day??

Have these people ever once considered how others would think about their sudden metamorphosis and find them to be so uncomfortable to be with?? less to finish that dinner or date actually planned for just you and the girls??

I think most girls are aware of who's looking at them and who's not!

Yes, everyone has eyes to look but when you do make yourself to be so obviously bothered about wanting to have others look more at you may be you should always practise being prim and proper and everything that you are not, so that it won't be obvious anymore and your friends won't have to deal with your sickening change!

* Lets do some EGO Talking!

Are you an Egoistic person? Really??
Are you sure about that??

Well many would never admit the fact that they are, but I do!
I even have a measurement for it!

Its bigger than my butt!

Now that's really a big EGO!

As much as I wish it wasn't, I certainly must say that my ego is something that sprouts out when I am made to feel little and insignificant or stupid and foolish by someone I have a major disregard for!

Yes there are many people I have completely no regards for, but still have acquaintances with. I admit I am the sort that sticks on for old time sake, and would live by the saying "let bygones be bygones" but when these very same people acts holier than thou with me, I will just burst back with sarcasm and yes my ego!

Now I know its mean but its the truth, and to those who have experienced it from me, deal with it, OK!

To those I truly love.. my EGO won't come in the way to hurt you! and you certainly know who you are in my life!!

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