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* Kids say the darness things..

We all can say that we have many times heard our kids or others say the most silliest things, comment the most dumbest things and sometimes throw questions and make statements of the most heart painful things. Yes they always do.. and their innocence may make these statements seem so adorable to the parents who listen to it.
What happens when your child makes a stupid remark about someone or something someone has done and you, beyond all your stupidity decide to tell it to the person involved, not thinking for a second that it would upset the one listening to it?
I once gave a gift to a friend's kid, it was an encyclopedia to be exact, and later I come to hear after asking if the kid liked it, that the remark made was "as if i don't know all this, that I need to get this book as a gift!"
Sure as a parent you would feel so great to hear your child say that! Makes your kid sound so very smart, doesn't it? But it sure made me feel like an idiot, but I guess that doe…

* Our 3rd Little Wonder..

All it takes is that one miraculous beat of the heart and life starts in the most delightful way.

For the 3rd time in this life of mine, I've seen the little wonder of a heart beating in my womb, once again..

Little wonders that makes the biggest impressions through all the twist and turns of faith.

The smiles on the faces of my 2 older miracles seeing our latest edition makes it even greater a gift to me!

So once again, we journey together towards awaiting the smiles, cries, screams and laughs of our next little wonder!

* Nothing to be happy about??

Have you ever said out loud that, YOU, have NOTHING TO BE HAPPY ABOUT?
I have, I admit I have. Only to, after a few minutes, realise how foolish it is to say that when I have been blessed by God with the things he believes I deserve.
But more than me saying this, I have heard this from others way too many times.
How can anyone actually not have anything to be happy about?
How can anyone not be blessed by God to have something to be happy about?
Good health?
Good job?
Good family?
Good friends?
Good house?
Good neighbours?
There must be at least one that's good?
Well, some people are blessed with everything whereas some may not be, but certainly all of us are blessed with something. Is it fair that you forget what you are blessed with just because what you expect doesn't seem to go your way? Is it fair that you ignore the things that you should be happy about, and greed for the things that aren't working out for you?
Well obviously NOT!
Instead of bickering on the areas tha…

* Use It or Lose It

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Use it or Lose it!
Well I meant you brain.
As much as some of us have finished studying and are pretty much settled with life, don't forget to constantly stimulate different sections of your brain so you keep it healthy till you kick the bucket.
It is after all the central processing unit of your body
and just like your computers need rebooting and an antivirus system to keep it running without problem, so must your brain be kept healthy at all time..
Feed it right!
Your diet plays a huge role in how healthy it is kept. Overdosing it with the wrong food especially too rich in sugar can make it slow.
Feed it too, with the right kind of attitude and activity. It basically does what you ask of it. You can even cheat your own brain to believe what is not true, so choose what you wish to have it remember and how it thinks. Overdosing your brain with crap only makes you behave crappy towards yourself and others around you.
Finally, since I believe in the existence of God and his divine …

* My tough "5 to be years old" Client

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Being a parent really allows you to enjoy the best of everything good and bad.. as your child grows and all that comes along with it, especially their birthdays. My Belle is about to have her 5th birthday next month and she plans on having a Fairy Birthday. Infact she has been on her toes about all this since May this year. I suggested since she was turning 5, why not get all the 5 fairies involved in her birthday and so my adorable tough client has agreed to it. Belle will be having Tinker, Rosetta, Iridessa, Fawn, and Silvermist much involved in her party cups (yeah its not party bags this year), with fairy wings on them definately.. The entire process had started yesterday and she's really tough to deal with when it comes to preparing stuff, besides being tough I must admit she sure has brilliant artistic ideas and she's one little girl worth planning a party for!!

* The healing powers of Air kelapa muda

I have been having a series of unfortunate events when it comes to my health!
Over the weekend I started myself on a new prescribed drug my specialist decided to put me on, apparently to increase my lung capacity, but all it did, unfortunately was to increase the size of my lips and face overall!!
I had such a torturous reaction to it and I suspect the steroid in the medicine had much to do with it all.
Best part of it all was I went to an A&E of a very famous private hospital and despite having in their record I was suspected to be allergic to steroid, the genius doctor wanted to give me a jab of hydro cortisol which is steroid!!! How smart can that ass get?
I of course asked him if he read my complaint? and asked what sort of practise is this to inject me with steroid when I am suffering due to it?
What ever happened to simple antihistamines??
After a long 5 minute grumble back at him, I finally got to go back home with my antihistamines that cost RM4.10 and paid him RM30 for li…

* A new phase

I remember saying, that your age makes a difference in your comfort for studying Music only because I felt so uncomfortable being the oldest at the piano theory exam couple of weeks ago.

Today I say otherwise.. yeah that's so me! Miss Contradiction?

I did something very spontaneous a month ago, and last weekend, I finally had my enrollment and orientation day. The VC and Directors of OUM were very warm and their welcome to the campus felt promising. It feels great having to start studying again.. Furthering my education has always been something I wanted to do, but have put it on hold for way too long and now a new phase in my life has begun.

I know I made the right choice, because the right people helped me see the best of it!!
I believe the time I had in hand, since I resigned, was a stimulator to guiding me to what I really am passionate about and has helped me decide on this field of study.
Thank you Bi and Pat for being so supportive and helpful to me, not just with this, but…

* DeTox

You need to detox yourself occasionally to feel rejuvenated, it has been a known thing to many for years. You plan a program suited to your requirement and need and you carry it out in the duration of usually a week. That's in a physiological aspect.
What do you do when you need to detoxify yourself Psychologically?
Read self help books?
Remove the negative vibes around you?
Think on the positive?
Be around people who bring good thoughts into your head?
Well the list is endless.. its not as simple as going on a complete fruit diet and achieving anti-bloating, a non water retention state of being.
Psychological detox would mean reaching a state of Zen!
Of complete peace with your surroundings, and that includes the people around you.
So what exactly should one do to detox Psychologically?
Humm.. When I do figure it out, I shall write about it, but right now..
fruits, water and purified air, your my buddy for the day..
To my brain, go to sleep and ignore the crap that will take plac…

* Pain is PAIN!!

If you get someone saying to you, "oh you find this pain unbearable even after experiencing labor?", you know what you should do? Roll a magazine and wack their head! That's what you do!
Whatever the pain you experience, if it's painful, it's painful!
Before experiencing labor, I was convinced nothing was going to be as painful as a tooth ache!
After experiencing labor, I stand corrected!! Pain is pain!
No measuring system can tell you which is worst!
No matter how high your tolerance to pain is, it will sting you till you tear and that to possibly to a cardiac arrest!
I really thought I was going to die of a heart failure when I got my right toe stuck in between the bottom of my wash room door and elevated floor, while trying to shut the damn thing!
My kids got so freaked out to see me cry the way I did and that frozen packet of corn made it even more unbearable! I almost felt like I was going to get a cardiac arrest trying to bare the pain!
Now my toe looks mor…

* Function with a dysfunction (FWAD)

Have you had people in your life who constantly had issues?
Issues that may seem so silly to some, but so serious to those who can only FWAD.
They can have a completely normal life, but they choose not to.
They choose to hang on to the crap of their past or the easily dismissable issues of the present. They simply must have something to be unhappy about so as to have a reason to live?
To these people the other odd thing is, they would so easily categorize others as a FWAD because to these FWADs their issues are so serious, other people's actual problems are dismissable to them..
Seriously, analyse these sort of FWAD people and you'll actually amuse yourself!

* Sostenuto.. I shall forever 'Sustaine' you!!

I felt really old today sitting for my Piano Theory Exam!!
Yes.. I was the only mom, who wasn't there with her kid, but was there at the exam hall for herself, amongst the kids of women my age and older!
I know people say, age is just a number, and that education sees no age limit, but I seriously believe in Music it does, especially if you're sitting for the exam with a bunch of kids.
This morning went well, and thanks to the bloody term SOSTENUTO which I will forever remember now, I shall not be getting that perfect 100%!! Hahahaha!
It was never the less, pure fun!
Answering this paper, and being the OLDEST in the ENTIRE exam hall!!

What's life without music?

* Mama Mania - Feeding Bottles

I have come to realise, that too many in this category can sometimes be a bad thing. How many feeding bottles can a child have? Well as many as you want them to have, but the stinky part comes when you have to wash them all!
Here's the thing, when you have a lot to begin with, each time your child asks you for a drink, you take a clean bottle from the storage container, and subsequently the soiled ones accumulate a the sink, well at least that's the case for me in my lazy days.
Then when you do run out of clean bottles, it takes you almost forever to wash the dirty ones, and as they say, collect your dishes and do them all at one time to save water (I CONFESS!!!! - it's not the saving of water that I consider in my case, it's my pure laziness, but I use this as my excuse to make myself feel better).
So I do, I collect them all and wash them up together except for the ones with milk, I give a quick rinse and soap them off in a pile. I want to make a change the next time…

* The Fun in Facebooking

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Have you ever seen a person having close to a thousand friends or more in their list of friends on Facebook? I'm sure you have. It can be pretty amazing how one keeps up with such a high number of friends and family on an account.
Then you have those who open Facebook account, and filters each and everyone they have on their FB, and keep a good number of 5 friends!
Well it is really the account holder's choice, but yesterday in a humored conversation with some good buddies, we decided to ask ourselves, who we shouldn't have on our facebook.
These are the ones we shortlisted: 1. Your boss/bosses.. I mean you work with them is enough already.. when you need to vent or complain, you might just want to shout out something to everyone and since FB is excellent for it, why loose that upcoming promotion right?
2. Your parents.. well this I wasn't quite agreeable to. There are other things to consider, like if you see your parents at the end of every day then what for? If yo…

* Miley Cyrus - The Climb

Another one of my favorite.
Perfect lyrics that touches my soul. It really isn't about what you achieve but the road that you take to getting there, the journey that makes you who you are.

THE CLIMB
I can almost see it
That dream I'm dreaming but
There's a voice inside my head sayin,
You'll never reach it,
Every step I'm taking,
Every move I make feels
Lost with no direction

My faith is shaking but I
Got to keep trying
Got to keep my head held high

There's always going to be another mountain
I'm always going to want to make it move
Always going to be an uphill battle,
Sometimes I'm gonna to have to lose,
Ain't about how fast I get there,
Ain't about what's waiting on the other side
It's the climb

The struggles I'm facing,
The chances I'm taking
Sometimes might knock me down but
No I'm not breaking
I may not know it
But these are the moments that
I'm going to remember most yeah
Just got to keep going
And I,
I got to be str…

* 7teen and Beyond

You're not a kid, nor are you an adult.
So what are you?
A TEENAGER that's what you are.
A person who's got so much potential in life, who is at the starting point of the best things to achieve, standing on the platform to success. That's what your life is.
Being 17 is the prime point of your life.
The point where your decisions on friendship, relationship, education, career, family and personal enrichment takes its pinnacle priority.
The choices you choose can MAKE YOU or BREAK YOU.
That is what everyone should bare in mine too. Not just the teenager but the family, relatives and friends.
The support a teenager gets from the family is the utmost importance to allowing him/her to be what he/she will be.

You are blessed when you have the best circle of friends, a supportive family, and relatives who genuinely boost your confidence and supports you with your decisions. For those who come into your life to mock you, criticise you, scrutinize and belittle your behaviour, y…

* English Vs Manglish

Just for a laugh.. I got this from an email.. I'm pretty sure you may have gotten it in your inbox too.. if not.. read on..

WHEN GIVING A CUSTOMER BAD NEWS
Britons: I'm sorry, sir, but we don't seem to have the sweater you want in your size, but if you
give me a moment, I can call the other outlets for you.
Malaysians: No stock.

RETURNING A CALL
Britons: Hello, this is John Smith. Did anyone call for me a few moments ago?
Malaysians: Hello, who call?

ASKING SOMEONE TO MAKE WAY
Britons:Excuse me, I would like to get by. Would you please make way?
Malaysians: S-kew me

WHEN SOMEONE OFFERS TO PAY
Britons: Hey! Put your wallet away, this drink is on me..
Malaysians: No need lah.

WHEN ASKING FOR PERMISSION
Britons: Excuse me, but do you think it would be possible for me to enter through this door? Malaysians: (pointing at the door) Can ah?

WHEN ENTERTAINING
Britons: Please make yourself right at home.
Malaysians: No need shy shy one lah!

WHEN DOUBTING SOMEONE
Britons: I don'…

* John Mayer: Say (music video from "The Bucket List")

I truly found this movie 'Bucket List' to be a lesson filled, hilarious, heart breaking one. The sort that is filled with words of advice you often hear but simply forget in the routines of your life.
Try to watch this movie if you have not and enjoy this song from John Mayer, SAY.
I must also say THANKS CHATAN for asking me to watch this!

SAY
Take all of your wasted honor
Every little past frustration
Take all of your so-called problems,
Better put 'em in quotations

Say what you need to say [x8]

Walking like a one man army
Fighting with the shadows in your head
Living out the same old moment
Knowing you'd be better off instead,
If you could only ...

Say what you need to say [x8]

Have no fear for giving in
Have no fear for giving over
You'd better know that in the end
Its better to say too much
Then never say what you need to say again

Even if your hands are shaking
And your faith is broken
Even as the eyes are closing
Do it with a heart wide open

Say what you need to say [x24]

* Oh To Be 12 Again...

A man was sitting on the edge of the bed, observing his wife, looking at herself in the mirror.
Since her birthday was not far off he asked what she'd like to have for her Birthday.
'I'd like to be twelve again', she replied, still looking in the mirror.
On the morning of her Birthday, he arose early, made her a nice big bowl of
Coco Pops, and then took her to Alton Towers theme park.
What a day!
He put her on every ride in the park; the Death Slide, the Corkscrew, the Wall of
Fear, the Screaming Monster Roller Coaster, everything there was.
Five hours later they staggered out of the theme park.
Her head was reeling and her stomach felt upside down.
He then took her to a Mc Donald's where he ordered her a Happy Meal with extra fries and a chocolate shake.
Then it was off to the cinema with popcorn, a huge Cola, and her favourite sweets...........M&M's.
What a fabulous adventure!
Finally she wobbled home with her husband and collapsed into bed exhausted.
He…

* Bless The Broken Road...

I just absolutely love this song.. by Rascall Flatts, both the music and the lyrics. (video clip from You Tube)
Bless The Broken Road "I set out on a narrow way many years ago, Hoping I would find true love along the broken road But I got lost a time or two Wiped my brow and kept pushing through I couldn't see how every sign pointed straight to you [Chorus:] Every long lost dream, led me to where you are Others who broke my heart, they were like Northern stars Pointing me on my way, into your loving arms This much I know is true.. That God blessed the broken road That led me straight to you... [Verse 2] I think about the years I spent just passing through I'd like to have the time I lost and give it back to you But you just smile and take my hand You've been there you understand It's all part of a grander plan that is coming true [Chorus] Now I'm just rolling home Into my lover's arms This much I know is true That God blessed the broken road That led me st…

* NEVER say NEVER

When you say NEVER, try and mean it.
I remember the countless number of times I have said NEVER MORE WILL I....., yet I go about doing it.
We truly live in an oxymoronic state!
We chose to say things we won't be able to keep to, thinking that when we say it, because we may have forgotten it, others would have also.
Never will I lie to you..
Never will I talk to you..
Never will I bake that cake again...
Never will I see them again..
Never more will I hurt them...
The book entitled Secrets, have a lot that quotes on what you always say you NEVER MORE WILL DO, only brings the energy to make you do it again..
It's the positive things in life that we constantly tell ourselves that we want to have around us, but somehow the book also says that the way we channel this positive things has got to be about the I WILLs and not I WON'Ts.
I will be happy..
I will cook that cake again and make it better this time..
I will ignore her and pray for her..
I will let time pass and see if I …

Modern Day Proposal

I got this via email from someone very dear to me..
Thought I would share it with you. If you have not read this in your inbox before.. enjoy this ok..

SAMPLE OF A MODERN LOVE LETTER

Dearest Samantha,

I am very happy to inform you that I have fallen in love with you since Tuesday, the 17th of August 2001.With reference to the meeting held between us on the 17th of August 2001 at 1500 hours, I would like to present myself as a prospective lover.

Our love affair would be on probation for a period of no less than three months and depending on compatibility, would be made permanent. Of course, upon completion of probation, there will be continuous relationship training and relationship appraisal schemes leading up to promotion from lover to spouse.

The expenses incurred for coffee and entertainment would initially be shared equally between us. Later, based on your performance, I might take up a larger share of the expenses. However I am broad-minded enough, to be taken care of, on your expense …

* Jack of All Trades and Master of None?

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Interesting figure of speech isn't it?
As much as this saying was made in reference to a Generalist, a person, that is competent with many skills but is not outstanding in any particular one, I for one would rather say otherwise.
What if a person was competent with many skills and was excellent in them all?
Then wouldn't it be better to be a Jack of all trades?
Why just be a Master to one or two?
What's not great about being a Generalist?
Why can't that Generalist be a great one as he does the best in each and every trade he endeavours?
Leonardo da Vinci was a Generalist.
How famous is he?
Nothing is terminally unacceptable in being a polymath!
I see a Jack of all trades as an all-rounder rather than being just great at one thing, I choose to be great with many, great in the way I know best, great in the way that satisfies me because at the end of the day it is my happiness that matters. What I am proud of that counts.
I have learnt this much till now, that no one but yourself…

* To 'Bitch' is no one's right!

Time out with friends are always something anyone would look forward to. I used to until I realise sometimes it's just a waste of time! When there's something to really talk about, share and discuss, be it a happy or sad reason, then the motive is fine. Just to simply chill out together is fine too.

But what sickens me is when you sit to talk and suddenly you start talking about someone else, and when there's some form of spike fullness existing against that talked about person, you hear comments like "ah, I'm sure she's fucking around and bullshitting her parents that she's busy with work!' or "yeah, tired and sleeping? with someone next to her after a good session I'm sure!"I've just heard way too many unworthy women speak this way.

Why do women, always allow themselves to put false accusations on another? To judge someone else in this matter?Most often, the ladies who talk this way, are actually doing it themselves, and yes I do know…

* An Akward Hello

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I recently had a chance to spend some time with my nephew who's down from US for his summer break, and spending time with him has always been great in a very hilarious way. We both somehow connect on common grounds.
Our most recent ground, was akward hellos. How the people we meet, start a conversation with you when they bump into you in public.
We were thought of the very standard style which was firstly wishing, "Hello" or "Hi" or even "Good day.." followed by "how are you" or "where to, long time no see" (in our Manglish terms) etc.
Have you had someone come up to you and start a conversation by saying, "Hei (with a head nod), dark already ha (pointing their finger at you as if he needed to be more specific)?" or "Wah, you're back, so how are the girls back in US? (yah right now I see why you go abroad!)" or "Wei, wah fat already ha you? (thats doesn't make you any better looking than me!)" and…

* Chinese Zodiac Personality of The Snake

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Snake symbolizes such character traits as intelligence, gracefulness and materialism. When it comes to decision-making, Snakes are extremely analytical and as a result, they don’t jump into situations. They are effective at getting the things they want, even if it means they have to scheme and plot along the way. Snakes are very materialistic creatures, preferring to surround themselves with the finest that life has to offer. This is especially evident in the home, where luxurious furnishings and surroundings help Snakes seek the peace they need in order to thrive. Snakes do work very hard, but they have a tendency to be job-hoppers as they become easily bored. Their somewhat laid-back attitude causes them to be mistakenly categorized as slackers, but nothing could be further from the truth! Snakes are very creative and extremely diligent. They’re excellent problem-solvers and thrive under tight deadlines. Good career choices for Snakes include: scientist, analyst, investigator, painter…

* All in a day's work

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Guess this woman never heard of the term Multitasking. Clean house Clean kids Food on the table Time for books and study with the kids TV time Play time Prayer time Screaming and laughing time Nap time Friends and family time All this with lots of love to have everything going on smoothly at home.. and all that with a PC that's not broken, on a secured board band thanks to Maxis for lots of socializing, writing and learning taking place.. ALL IN A DAY'S WORK!!! Yes Multitasking is a highly skilled ability. Not many can do it, but it's not difficult to exercise it either. Like I tell many, it's all in your head actually! With time management, and the gift of multitasking.. a lot can be achieved. I am a stay home mum, and I am not bored because I keep myself occupied in many ways possible. To all those close to me who have decided to be stay home mums too, you always ask me how I do it because you seem to be suffocated with boredom, well this is how. I grab what the world has to offer …

* Conveniently Rude

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How often have you encountered people who are conveniently rude around you? I met one yesterday and seriously I didn't spare a moment to enlighten her of her rudeness.
So here's how it went, we did some grocery shopping yesterday and at the end we had to go settle the parking ticket before heading home. Out of 4 counters only 2 were open and out of the 2, the one on the right side had a larger space for people to park their carts and settle the payments. I obviously went to that lane as I had my kids and a cart full of things with me and in front of us, was a man who was paying his ticket and behind him another lady in the same scenario as I was, kids and a full cart.
I stood very patiently for her to take her cash out of her purse, while the man in front of her had already left the counter, and in the midst of the waiting, a very interesting specimen of a woman pushed herself through me and the lady in front of me to get to the counter we were queued at.
It really got on my nerve…

* An Insightful Discovery

I got this email today and I thought I'd post it on my blog:

Do you know…?
At 12hr 34 minutes and 56 seconds on the 7th of August this year, the time and date will be 12:34:56 07/08/09

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 This will probably never happen in our life again.
Unless we live to the next millennia??!!!!

* My 1st Paul Smith Bag

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A sudden obsession I have just acquired and over what? Paul Smith bags..
I got my first yesterday and I'm truly impressed with his bizarre crazy sense of colours and designs.
As always, I had a reason to look for a bag (although a woman never needs a reason for a new bag, as there isn't such a thing as too many bags in a lady's vocabulary). I needed one that will hold all my piano books, because my initial ever faithful bag, gave way. The increase of books got to heavy for that poor faithful friend of mine, so we went on a bag hunt and when I saw this collection of bags, I found myself instantly attracted to the fabulously humored look of Paul Smith's collection. I seriously believe that the men's collection stands out better than the ladies though!
So I got myself one.. Something that was big enough for the horizontally lengthy books I have and one that I believe is strong to last with style, and most of all FUN! It's Paul Smith's Mini Cooper collection.
Simp…

* Thanks for the gift??

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I love buying gifts! Yes, be it for any occasion, I truly enjoy doing this. I love to watch the pleased expressions of the one receiving it and I always like to choose the oddest, rarest stuff if possible. How about you? Are you the sort that dreads it? Rather envelope some cash and roll it into the receiver's hand or the type who takes time to get something worth while? I know many who would rather give cash, as it is most of the time the best thing to do especially for weddings, where the couple could do a lot with your cash rather than a gift. Have you ever wondered why you got what you got as a gift? Have you ever asked yourself, "What was he/she thinking when he/she decided to purchase this for me?" Well I have. In fact the most ridiculous gift I have received were from my most lousy aunties in my life, and till now I still cannot comprehend why they got me the stuff they did? Yeah I know its the thought that matters, but seriously, don't get a person trash as a gi…

* Lost & Found Friendships

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The past week I have been meeting up with friends and acquaintances that I have some how lost contact with for quite some time. A very wise woman once told me, no matter how long you've been apart, true friends can meet again and talk like they weren't apart at all. This is somehow so true in reality.
Why?
Is it because you have made a good impression on that friendship that no matter how long you have not seen each other or been in contact and bare in mind these days you can still keep contact without seeing each other at all thanks to the Internet, you can still bind? Is it because of 'old times sake' that you find it easy to just start back where you last ended?
What happens if you have lost touch in a friendship in a bitter way?
Then can this theory be true?
I guess it can. If you have been through enough time to heal, enough time to be calm over the bitterness, enough solitary moments to think, then you may find it easy to let bygones be bygones.
I lost one good friend …

* When do we grow up?

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These days, I tend to sit down more with the other mothers in my girl's kindergarten, and its been quite an experience I must say. Most of the ladies in this circle of mothers are much older to me but our eldest are classmates.
Our conversations at days can be pretty silly and serious depending on what we have to share with each other. Most of the time its trashing other people and honestly I don't know why.
I suppose alot of us bottle up too much in ourselves that when we do get to bring it out it comes out in the form of condemning others, then there are also people who think so mighty of themselves that they assume they have the rights to do so. Talking about the way other people dress, walk, talk, drive, name it, in any topic it may be, there is some trashing done.
Today I couldn't help but voice out in defense of the one being trashed.
A mother who dresses up obnoxiously with cleavage revealing tops and seriously mind blowing clothes which in many ways doesn't suit…

* Bad childhood ~ Rotten adulthood?

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Watching too much Crime and Investigation Channel made me come up with this post. Is a person's bad childhood an excuse or a reason for anyone to behave badly when they're all grown up? In almost every documentary, you will find one point in the narration saying, the criminal had a bad childhood. I'm sure this is certainly made after an evaluation of the case by very professional psychologist, and I believe this isn't something that the law accepts to do away with one's punishment. It is really sad to know a person has been through a bad childhood. What is the definition of a bad childhood by the way, and by whom? Abuse in all forms? Deprived of happiness? Deprived of freedom to be a child? Deprived of comfort? By your parents? Your siblings? Your community? Your friends? Your relatives? Well the list can certainly be endless depending on the adaptability of a kid to his or her situation with their childhood. There a…

* You STOP it!!

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Yes the title sounds weird but that's what my son says to me when I tell him to behave and stop doing what he's doing. How do I deal with it? Well I most of the time tolerate and tell him back to not speak to me that way, but daringly he still tries, and when I lose my temper he runs really fast away from me to so call protect himself from getting a spank on his buttocks from my hands!
I asked him the other day while doing my provisions if I should buy the "Rottan" for him? Of course he said NO! A really quick reply even before I could finish my question. NO! Yup, I won't buy the cane for him, I don't believe in spanking a child to teach discipline, I don't know how we took it all when we were kids, when a spank was the only way things would make sense to us. When fear was the only way to discipline a child.
Sometimes talking my son out of his naughtiness isn't easy either. I notice myself getting louder at him when he doesn't listen and then I won…

* A 'Shopaholic' in us all???

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I must say reading a book and watching its movie is completely a different experience altogether. Some movies make no justice what so ever to the book, but watching Confessions of a Shopaholic last night made me open that book I got by Sophie Kinsella, 8 years ago just to see what I lost in my read.

The movie was overall funny in a very "sick in the stomach sorta way". Watching her compulsive shopping habits and especially seeing the credit bills gave me a twist in my stomach. I didn't get that from reading the book though. Rebecca Bloomwood acted by Isla Fisher carried her role well, and truly managed to send out the message to us all, well at least to me.

If you look deep inside you, there is a little bit of a shopaholic in each one of us. Yes maybe we don't go on buying almost everything we see when we pass a window but, how often have we asked ourselves "do we really need this?" or scream a little scream in your head/heart/stomach when you see the cred…

* Respectfully we honour??

Ever wondered how you can one day be hailed and another day be condemned then hailed again? Well you can if you are Michael Jackson.

Today I went to pierce my little girls ears, and for her strength I decided to reward her with some really good DVDs and as I entered the Music store, I was really impressed at how fast the music industry could come up with new compilation albums of Michael Jackson's Best Hits, Michael's Chart Toppers, seriously, the various names of Mike's music all complied for sales, all in store on racks with gorgeous covers sealed up for you to pick it up and enjoy!

Yes, I want to believe this is in honour of his music for us all, but where was all this when he was dumped with law suites and allegations for child molestations? When he went into silence, where his voice in our MP3s, where was his music on the radio waves? Where was his name besides the new one hailed upon him, Jacko? With all his albums probably sitting behind every other new ones in the mu…

* The King of Pop is in a better Kingdom now

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I woke up this morning to an sms my sister sent me. What was it? The King of Pop died after a cardiac arrest. The media calls it a shock wave in the entertainment industry, fans all around the world are in a state of shock with the death of the world's greatest artist ever.

What do I call it?? Another man, who made the best music ever, died a death that befalls anyone around us. Bottom line, he's just human! Want to know what I responded to my sister's sms? Well good for him, god bless his soul.. he's indeed in a better place! After all the records he has made.. and all the hevoc he had undergone with the media, and dying off after a long silence in the industry, I believe he's made his moments on earth and its time for him to get on with something out of this world. God has better plans for him, and another way you can look at this is.. hey he's the most flexible skinniest artist yet he died of a cardiac arrest? How ironic is that?

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* Thank you for the wishes..

It's always a great feeling to be remembered by your close ones on a special day in your life such as your birthday or special anniversaries. It's even better to receive gift, yes it is although you wouldn't want anyone to trouble themselves for you. Why is it so? Is it because you think by being remembered you are valued by others? What happens when you aren't remembered? Is that a sign you aren't valued? Who determines the value of your life? Those around you or yourself? To me, I determine my value, but those around me help validate that for me. Is that the way it is for you? If you are important to someone else, they will place importance to remembering you, and showing it to you, in the grandest way or the simplest it really doesn't matter, even if it's on that very same day or belated, the thought is what matters. I remember what, when and how others show me they appreciate me, but there are always times where I have either failed to show it back i…

* Ignorance Denial and Choices

I guess I choose ignoring a person as the option out when it comes to having to deal with a difficult character, and most often this option is resorted after trying many times to correct and care for that individual.
Sadly it is the easier way out, but never would I jump to it without giving it my all to helping that certain someone first.
Lately I have been asked to help someone deal with issues I clearly feel one can live without, and my final conclusion to it after much thinking is that if that person chooses to be that way and is able to sleep peacefully after being so wretchedly hurtful to others then who am I to be bothered to comprehend it anymore. Ignorance is bliss and it most of the time helps lighten the burden of being sad for someone who's doing wrong.
I believe people who deliberately hurt others on the claims that they've been hurt by the one hurting them can never find peace in their hearts and if they think it isn't wrong to be hurt the ones who've hurt y…

* What goes around, comes around

Yes, this is indeed a very famous saying. Karma as most of us call it is indeed unfortunate if it's a bad one. There were many incidences whereby I was treated so badly by the ones around me, mostly emotional havoc, and yes people tell you forgive the ones who've hurt you and forget it and move on but its easier said than done. Deny all you want, but personally I don't believe even you can! Often times what you do to others will come to hit you back in the face, and I truly believe this especially when you intentionally hurt another person.
Your bad intentions will come back to haunt you and you will never be able to handle the guilt of it all when similar crap befalls you. What do you do then? Kill yourself with the guilt? Call the person you have hurt and mend the situation? That's truly very hard to do, and it takes a whole load of courage and sometimes a whole yard of thick skin.
Can what you do to others be directed intentionally by that other person back to you? Can …

* I allow my kids to have fun, may be you should try it some day.

We were at the park yesterday just as we do most evenings, but yesterday I met someone I had seen around the condo but never actually spoken to. She was down with her niece, a very talkative, active and yes a very cute 4 year old named Christin.

I decided to open a conversation with her aunt and we talked for a bit. She was the sort of aunt, most aunts would be. Strict and sadly the kind that would never allow a kid to be a kid. She didn't quite allow her niece to do anything the girl wished to do, like to swing on the monkey bar, jump onto the slide, or even to balance stand on the seesaw bar, and guess what else, she even kept telling the girl to stop talking too much. All the things I allow my kids to do. Ah, actually I even allowed my nephew and nieces to do so while at a park.

My children are really used to this park, and they have a certain style of swinging on the bar before taking a ride on the slide. I totally allow them to do so only because they have a daily experience of…

* Allowing a change

I just got back from watching 'Night at the Museum 2' with my kids and we enjoyed it very much. Funny and ridiculous but overall it was just a real good time at the movies! I got this line from Teddy Roosevelt (acted by Robin Williams) saying, "When you allow change to take place in your life, you allow yourself to experience something new."
I was really impressed by that line (yeah you would say "whats so great about it.. like I didn't already know!")
It made me look at my life in the aspect of my career.
I have often told myself I would never quit my job because I really loved what I did, and I was very adamant about it honestly. Even after having Isabelle I would always tell my husband that, my career is not something I would give up just because I'm a mother now, but my husband never said anything back to me.
After Christan was born 2 years ago, I started to look at things very differently.
Going to work and dropping off my 2 kids at a babysitter, wa…

* Venting Therapy

Do you vent? Do you feel the need to vent out your heart when something or someone bothers you?? I truly admire those who don't, but sadly I do! I vent, and I can vent a lot!

Why I do it, I wish I could stop but so many things around me can easily piss me off. Character, behavior, attitude, responses, actions, you just name it. To me a certain behavior is expected in a certain situation and not to say I have made too narrow a grid, I do allow room for mistakes and foolishness but when its repeated almost too often, it pisses me off and I vent.

I vent because I need to release that irritation out of my system. I have various people I vent to about various other issues. What I vent to A isn't what I vent to B or C, and I try to always accept the advice one gives. Which often is, "Just ignore it Jen!" Its the easiest answer. I give that out to others who vent to me too when I have no idea what else to say. Ignorance is bliss, but not everything around you and everyone aro…

* Too quick to judge??

I must admit I am a sinner on this.. I judge everyone and anyone often too quickly but the reason I don't stop is because I have come to known that 3/4 of the time I am right, so much so that the wrong quarter doesn't matter anymore!

Why do I do it? Well I guess I have been the sort that wants to put everyone I meet into categories that I have preset in my life so that I would know how to or not to deal with them.
I will only know if my judgement of someone is right be it good or bad, if I make myself acquainted with the person, and so I do. I don't find it difficult to start a conversation with anyone but the ones I strike as bad often end up being the ones I find easier to talk to.
I guess that's my difference, I don't just judge, I allow some time of knowing to conclude my judgement even if its completely brief.

Am I a hypocrite? I mean if I have judged badly of them and they turned out being otherwise after knowing them, I simply knock myself in the head and say, &…

* Were you the same person??

Have you ever experience a time when you are out with your girl friends and a good looking guy passes by your table and all of a sudden a certain someone in your circle of girls suddenly behaves differently??

A sudden adjustment of posture, adjustment of facial expressions, a sudden prim and proper table manners, and sometimes a sudden increase in the volume of her voice? or even a sudden drift of eye contact where they don't look at you when they talk but look behind you???

I am sure you have! Doesn't that piss you off??

It pisses me off really badly and I mean really badly!!

What the heck was that transformation for?? To attract the bloody bloke that passed by or probably is sitting by the next table??
Why do you think that by your sudden change of skin you would probably win a date or is it just some cheap thrill you enjoy and it makes your day??

Have these people ever once considered how others would think about their sudden metamorphosis and find them to be so uncomfortable to …

* Lets do some EGO Talking!

Are you an Egoistic person? Really??
Are you sure about that??

Well many would never admit the fact that they are, but I do!
I even have a measurement for it!

Its bigger than my butt!

Now that's really a big EGO!

As much as I wish it wasn't, I certainly must say that my ego is something that sprouts out when I am made to feel little and insignificant or stupid and foolish by someone I have a major disregard for!

Yes there are many people I have completely no regards for, but still have acquaintances with. I admit I am the sort that sticks on for old time sake, and would live by the saying "let bygones be bygones" but when these very same people acts holier than thou with me, I will just burst back with sarcasm and yes my ego!

Now I know its mean but its the truth, and to those who have experienced it from me, deal with it, OK!

To those I truly love.. my EGO won't come in the way to hurt you! and you certainly know who you are in my life!!