Mar 31, 2010

* The Biggest Loser

Oh yes, I am referring to the most watched show on TV, 'The Biggest Loser'.
Have you ever gotten yourself so emotional watching it? I do! I somehow find it so overwhelming to see such an over sized person, loosing as much as 100lbs in a short period of time, and all through exercises and a healthy diet.
I know so many around me who are inspired by this show and I think it is by far the best thing the world has ever gained in the aspect of healthy living. So many countries around the world has made its own adaptation to the show, UK, Australia, India, The Arab World, and even Israel to name a few.
What is so great about Biggest Loser, is not so much the prize the winner gets (which is in fact the bonus upon a bonus) but the many ways one can attempt to loosing all that excess kilos.
To see these over sized contestant do it and getting the results in the end, gives no one an excuse to say, "My FATS aren't the burnable sorta FAT!"

All one needs is the discipline and the strength to get their ass up and get it moving! You have this show as your motivation already!!!
I'm eagerly waiting to get back to my fantastic gym instructor who managed to torture the hell out of me for one week before I got the news I was pregnant. So it's all back to burning my fats after my little baby is born.
Call me evil, but I'm glad I don't qualify for this show :P

My Favorite: Ali Vincent of Season 5, TBL USA

Mar 29, 2010

* Sponge vs Butter

I am referring to cakes.

Lately it's a trend where, if it's going to be a cake or even a slice, it's either from some fabulous cake shop that makes the most richest sophisticated cakes or not at all. Even when you go for a party at any house, it's cakes from such bakeries you see served.
Why not right? You only want to serve the best.

I suddenly had a craving for something simple.

Something we've had all along but simply opted for more and forgotten these, SPONGE CAKES.

I have been wanting to eat some cake and when I think of doing so, the rich-buttered creamy cakes just make me feel sick.

I wanted a slice of cream cake.. but I wanted it from a local cake shop, that made them in sponge.

So I went out and got myself some.

In fact I even ordered it for my upcoming Easter Tea Party.

Looks like no matter what, we always fall back to wanting the simplest things life has to offer! Well at least I can confidently say that for myself.

Mar 28, 2010

* What's in your name?

Our names tho given to us by our elders, carry a lot of significance to what we are and have become. When you have to live with a name since birth, being addressed by it and remembered by it, it becomes us and not just part of us.

Some names can take a person really far in life, where else some take you just to your doorstep.

Do you think you live up to your name?

All names carry a meaning, were used by someone in the past who may have left a deep impression in history, or simply as beautiful as a flower. What is yours?

Look for the meaning of your name, and see if you have become what it means or if it has moulded you to live up to its standards?

(What's behind a name : )

* You talk too much!

Going back to classes again, and that too with a mixed age group, can really test your tolerance level. It's so easy to get along with so many but you are bound to end up with one that hits the right nerve to drive you up the wall.

I have a classmate who seriously sickens me! From a different age group? Era? May be so, but I have been the sort who gets along pretty well with anyone despite the differences. Somehow with this one particular person I can't. I really can't.

Her comments, her so called "opinions", the way she speaks itself gives me the vibes that she really thinks 'only she knows best!'

There are people who can talk and talk so much and not bore you. It's educational and informative and then there are people like her, who talk so much, ripping my study time, and wasting it on having to listen to her granny stories that has no relevance to anything. In fact she has such a demeaning outlook of the younger generation. Yes, old school of thoughts is where she comes from, but seriously people should learn to
  1. talk less
  2. talk sense,
  3. talk when you are required to,
  4. talk without offending your classmates,
  5. and talk as a student who listens to what others have to say as well.
  6. Talk without wasting another person's time,
  7. and definitely talk in relevance to the audience/classmates in this case!
If you find yourself in a situation like this where you are a student in a class of a tertiary education, just remember you aren't the tutor, and your classmates did not pay to get in class to listen to JUST YOU and your crappy talk!!!

Classes for this semester is over, and when the next one starts, I pray I have more patience, or she is probably going to get it from me straight at her forehead!

Mar 26, 2010

* What's in a FACE

What do you look at in a face of someone in a conversation?
The eyes? Lips? The entire face itself?

Well some people may say, "look me in the eye when you speak to me" this is with regards to expecting an honest conversation, but seriously where do you look at when you speak to someone or when you are watching someone else speak?

I have discovered that when I am talking to someone, I look them in the eye, but also discovered that when I watch people talk I look at their mouth - well that's because I can read lips very well! If I were watching a movie it could be either the eyes or the mouth.

Sinfully I just drop dead at the lips of Gerard Butler when he speaks, besides his sexy Irish accent of course. The way his lips move glues me to watching his movies even more, and I believe I feel the same way for Tom Cruise or Hugh Jackman. Where else watching Morgan Freeman or Jack Nickelson would make me watch their eyes instead ( I doubt it's because of their age!). Why? I don't know.. could it be the attraction factor of this parts in their faces. Then again sometimes I catch myself not interested to look at the face at all because it's enough torture having to listen to the person speak. Yikes..
So go have some fun and analyse which is your favorite part in the faces of the ones around you, and hopefully it's in their face and not their butt or cleavage :P

Mar 24, 2010

* What Sort of AUNT Are You?

What is an Aunt?

Is it a TITLE or is it a ROLE?

I grew up with a balance of good and rotten ones, but I honestly must say I never had a role model aunt that I could look up to.


Well probably because all of them looked at the word AUNT as a TITLE instead of a ROLE?

So what makes a good aunt?

I believe below may be some possible reasons :-
  1. One who lives by ROLE and not TITLE.

  2. One who cares for her nephew and niece as if they were her own kids.

  3. One who would remember their birthdays and special occasions not after the day has gone.

  4. One who behaves like a family and not an outsider.

  5. One who surprises them constantly.

  6. One who cares for them when they are sick, or at least takes the time to find out if they are well, or has the courtesy to visit when ill news arrives to their attention.

  7. One who educates and supports in every little way possible, to build the emotions and character of their nephew and niece.

  8. One who corrects when wrong has happened.

  9. One who laughs and motivates.

  10. One who hugs and loves.

  11. One who doesn't put them on a waiting or wondering list.

  12. One who sets a good example in attitude and responsibility.

  13. One who is AROUND, and when around is around BODY, MIND AND SOUL to make the time with their nephew or niece worthwhile!!
14. One who just knows how to have FUN with them!
15. One who mothers a little and befriends a lot.
Sounds difficult? Well it can be, especially if the mother of your nephew or niece isn't warm and willing to have you around as an Aunt, or condemns you to their kids behind your back, so as to have no reason for respect between aunt, niece and nephew. Then again sometimes it's so annoying to see how ungrateful some nephews and nieces become no matter how much you have been there as an aunt for them. That can make you change your mind set to taking TITLE instead of ROLE!
But many out there look for this sort of relationship for their children. Especially if it can be healthy and beneficial for the growing ones. Believe me, our kids can certainly take a break from being around us all the time and what better than to be with a great AUNT?
So what sort of AUNT are YOU??
An aunt adds beauty, joy, and love to life.
An aunt grows more precious and treasured as time goes by.
She is a gift whose worth cannot be measured except by the heart.
Who is a joy to remember your whole life through.
Felt with warmth, thought of with pride, and cherished with love.
An Aunt loves like a parent but remains a good friend!

* So happy for you?

Very often the ones close to us aren't the ones who are sincerely happy for our success.

Yes this was my Face book status yesterday. Reason being, not just my experience but the many others I have listened to for the past couple of weeks, makes me conclude this.

It is indeed sad, but a very factual state non the less.

Often these sort of insincere people, somehow enjoy listening to your depressed stories, and gossips with you about other people, but when you do tell them about something you have achieved, they have no time to listen to it and be happy for you, or they help you to change the topic of your conversation so that it revolves around them. If it is about their achievements, we'd have to listen to it, and I guess we do, because we sincerely care and feel happy for that person.

Then again, there are also those who listen to you, and smiles, and in their heart, burns away for what you have achieved. People like this, show it all over their face because their heart is somehow very connected to their facial expression.

I guess if you take what Jacob M. Braude had said, "Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you'll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others", one would sadly only let this issue be just the way it is.

Mar 8, 2010

* Rotten Mango!

Here's how to distinguish a rotten Malaysian Indian man who claims he can do everything for his customer.

  1. When you first talk to him, he promises he will "HELP" you.

  2. When you do meet him to discuss the planning, he will be busy talking about something else or you can see his eyes attending to other things that will eventually side track his ears as well.

  3. When he comes to meet you regarding the plans, he does not carry a notebook/laptop/i-phone/or an organizer to take down what your request are.

  4. He rather talk about his personal life, then to be attentive to the needs of his customer.

  5. He quotes you one price before and another after your function is over.

  6. He carries NO RECEIPT book!

  7. He calls you SISTER! or BROTHER instead of addressing you with Mr/Ms.

  8. He tells you he will "HELP" you!

  9. He says "DON'T WORRY" too many times that you have got to start worrying!

  10. He screws the event for you, by not meeting to your request and how will he when he failed in POINT 3 of the above. He obviously proves to you that he has the memory of a cockroach.

  11. Messes the event for the customer, and instead of listening to the complains, demands for the balance which again as POINT 5 clearly says, it's a different price.

  12. Able to call you a thousand times after the event for the balance cash, but during the pre-preparations, had no time to call and say the "last minute" failures of meeting customer's needs, then again how would he when he failed to take the customer's order properly, where by failing in POINT 3 of the above.

  13. Takes another Indian for granted, or probably thought the Indian customer was just some DUMB ASS like himself.

  14. He constantly reminds you, he was "HELPING" you when he has forgotten, it's being PAID FOR!

  15. Finally comes to meet you to listen to your complain but tells you to hurry up as he has other obligations.

  16. Refuses to admit his mistakes, but tries to close the issue by making it look like he's doing YOU A FAVOR!

  17. Never says SORRY!

So to the fellow Malaysian Indians who think this is the way to go about with your Customer Service, or event organising, please remember, that ROTTEN MANGOES like you, are why, we decent Indians get a rotten name too!

It is so true when they tell you never close a deal with an INDIAN!
His words are as thin as the alcohol he drinks and when they call you sister or brother in a business deal, they seriously just want to ROB YOU IN BROAD DAYLIGHT!

Their customers are just DOLLAR signs! They have no decent work ethics, discipline nor respect for anyone else which is why they do what they do and royally destroy the credibility of the Indians in this country who work with honesty and respect to satisfy their customers!

When you do meet a ROTTEN MANGO like this, smack them down because I did and it sure feels good!

Mar 3, 2010

* Cleanliness & Fairness

This is really funny to me, and I must share it with you.

My beloved mother, always had this saying, "Don't think people who are fair, are always clean!"

She was generally a fair skinned woman herself, clean, hardworking and the tidiest-non grumbling woman I have ever known. She grew up and lived with so many people around her especially since my dad was a high ranking officer in the Army, so she really knew many families and had to be associated with them in the camps, plus she came from a very big family of siblings, in laws and relatives, with tons of friends of her own. Mum and dad were also very sociable people.

Her many personal experiences, made her conclude that when you meet someone, who is so outstandingly fantastic in looks and dressing and having fair skinned was another plus point to them (as we all know.. somehow people believe that when you are fair, you are beautiful - although the person could look no uglier!) and then knowing where they lived and how they kept their house especially their bedroom and bathroom was the exact opposite of all you perceived that person to be!

So don't blame me, as I grew up with that notion, to only end up thinking she was right!

Believe me when I say, I truly hate it when someone talks about the colour of your skin, especially when someone ridicules a person for being dark, or praises another for being fair! Hello it's just skin! Compliment something else for God's sake - something worth complimenting!
But unfortunately many a times I have come to believe that just because you see someone in public, looking clean and tidy and pretty and everything that goes to making you say WOW! would only shock you in the end when you do or if you do step into their house.
Sad to say but I have personally experienced this myself, being blown away in utter shock ( I don't want to elaborate on the filth I have seen - it's just too sad)!
You would wonder why the state of their house and the person do not match?

No time? No interest? No care? Not bothered? Nature?

Hummm... laugh this off or start analysing if you want to, and see how far my mum's theory works and while you're at it, HAVE FUN!!!

Mar 2, 2010

* We're in this together!

This is the 2nd part to my last post on 'Sparing the rod, spoiling the child'.

When it comes to disciplining a child, it's not the job of just one parent, but both, and I'm sure most of you would agree with it.

It serves no purpose if one parent is telling the child to stop jumping on the bed, and the other sounds the spouse instead of being strict on the matter as well. Even if you have an objection to how your spouse is handling the act of disciplining, do not object in front of the child. You give the kid the sense that he can get away with anything because you are there to support him.

If you feel he is hurting too much, play the role of the parent who consoles the kid and makes him understand why, without taking his side or condemning the other parent.

Even when you have an aunt, uncle or grandparents that come in the way while you are correcting your child, these sort of people need to be told not to interfere!

It would be best if they minded their own business or be of help and tell the child that "mummy/daddy is upset and you should behave yourself better OK!" Don't allow them to take the Martyrs' role while you are trying to make a point to your kid. These relatives can make you look like a dragon at times, when all you are doing is just being a parent.

This goes too when dealing with teenagers or even young adults.

It's very common that when one parent says NO, the other instead of discussing with the spouse will jump in and over right the rule which is fine, but never do so in front of the child.

It not only allows them to think you are there for buffering, but it makes them look down on the parent in the sense of authority.

I know many wives who condemn their husband to their kids, and some form a gang against the father, because the father is one who says NO to many or almost everything.

Older children gossiping with one parent about the other, and the parent part-taking in this gossiping and complaining session, instead of working things out in making them stop and understanding the rule of respect.

I am still a very young parent, and I certainly hope I don't make these very same mistakes, although now I consciously make sure I don't. My husband and I have this deal that even if we are not happy with the way we react to our children's mistake, we will not correct each other in front of them, but discuss it in private and correct if at all any mistakes, after that.

At the end of the day, we really just have to be in this together to make it work right!

* Spare the rod and spoil the child?

Parents will always wonder if they are doing it right with their child.
Some say, I will never hit my kid no matter what, it's just brutal.
Some say, I don't care and carry on because they believe "sparing the rod and spoiling the child" is not the way.
Some kids on the other hand, do not even need to spanked, they have got characters that are simply prefect where else some don't.
What are our options?
If you have a child who tore down the house with his tantrum, how would you deal with it?
My son was once that sort, and call me horrid, but the answer I gave him to all his intolerable tantrums were from my WOODEN BAKING SPOON! I didn't need to spank him hard till he bruised.. NO! That is abuse!
There is a way to instill fear into kids like these!
There even came a time, when I would carry that spoon in my bag when we went out!
He was the sort that could even sleep on the public floor if he didn't get what he wanted when we were out and he didn't care to be seen as embarrassing, so I showed him in return that I wasn't embarrassed to take the spoon out in public as well!
After several months of this, he took a 360 turn and these days, the fear I had instilled in him, has become a character he decided to stick with.
He is now the most decent, well behaved 3 year old, who hates to cry and mess himself up in public or at home, listens when I reason out things with him, and he reasons with me as well, because the tantrum have gone away to allow communication.
May be what he went through initially could be called a phase, but my fear was, what if it wasn't? What if I assumed it was a phase and it turned out to be my biggest nightmare? That rotten tantrums becoming his nature? There are many kids who do not ever outgrow it. Many end up becoming rowdies who would raise their hands on their own parents and elders even teachers.
Most of all, to me, I feel to discipline a child is the work of the parent. Not anyone else.
There is no use in you making an aunt, or uncle, or grandparents to do that dirty job for you.
It is our own responsibility to make sure the right comes from us not someone else.
Spare the rod and spoil the child.. NOT FOR ME!

"Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die."
"Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him."
"Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying."

Mar 1, 2010

* Pot meets Kettle

In my life, I have come across a special group of people who fall under the category of "the pot calling the kettle black"!

They are difficult to be with, but these very same people find it so easy to say it's difficult to be with you!

It's like you need to put up with so much of their mood swings, complaints, dissatisfaction with life be it work, family, their other friends, traffic, just name it la, there's something that can be of a bother to them, but you listen, you take the time to listen, because you consider that person your friend.
What sucks is when you come to know that when do the exact same thing, the so called "venting" your heart out with matters that bother you, you are categorised as exhausting to be with.
Best of all is you are told of it directly, and you are expected not to keep a grudge against that comment. Can you not? Can you be one who can let that go and change yourself for that very same friend?

No, I don't think so.

One thing you can learn from it for sure is, your problems are just yours no matter what. When you think you can vent to someone, you will only find out that you've been made into a subject they complain or laugh about behind your back.

So choose the people you want to share your sorrows with properly.

Most of them are not deserving of you so stay away.

* Travel Buddy

Have you ever been on a trip with someone who finally makes your holiday turn into a piercing experience?
Well a good friend of mine just came back from an overseas trip, and the whole time talking to her, she had only the most distressed stories to tell me and I sincerely feel so sorry that she had carried along with her in this trip, a stack of daggers that got thrown at her, yes her travel buddy!
Some people make the worst travel buddies!
They grumble about almost everything and spoil your mood for an outing by delaying you in the most irritating way.
Some have too high an expectation of a 7STAR treatment when the fact of the matter is their travel is to a place that does not offer such luxury, nor could she afford the luxury but never failed to make it look as though she could.
Many just cannot have fun, and some are so good at crossing the arms and sulking away as if what you want to do as part of the trip is just stupid, lame and boring.
Isn't it about giving and taking which is why you decided to go on the trip together in the first place? It shouldn't be about one party taking and the other giving in at all times isn't it?
I think one should educate them self well before embarking on a holiday.
Educate themselves about the place and what to expect out of it.
It's like they expect to see "snow in the desert"
It's like a soon to be bride going on a sea side holiday and grumbling to her fiance over the phone in the hotel, that she's gone 2 tones darker since the little kid in the trip wanted to play on the beach - yeah I heard that complain behind my back on a holiday trip I went on with some friends!
If you want to complain, stay home! Don't bother dragging yourself or even planning a trip only to be of the lousiest aura to someone else.
If you cannot accommodate, don't bother putting others on a torture trip!
Unfortunately, you can never tell the sort of travel buddy one can be until you do travel with them and that seriously sucks!

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