Nov 6, 2012

The Greatest Love Of All?

The late Whitney didn't just sing a song to that title rather she brought out the most significant shift to everyone's life back in 1986. Who best to love you than yourself? Whose love is most important in your life than your own? Sadly somehow it was easier to sing the song and hit the charts rather than practicing it in reality given the fact that she died of OD (May her soul rest in peace)!

However, I'm not writing in context of the late Queen of Pop but to highlight this quote I got from Oprah's website OWN by Brenè Brown:

"Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them."

You understand that I'm sure? It simply means you can't give or get love if you first didn’t have love existing in you!

Coincidentally, I also stumbled upon a quote on Goodreads yesterday by the famous Rumi that said -

  "Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."

How important is it that we first love ourselves before falling in love with another?
I was told by a psychologist friend of mine that you draw positive vibes only when you embrace positivity in yourself, hence a relationship can only work if both involved in it love themselves well enough to actually nurture that love for their partner thus creating a relationship that's balanced and enriching for each other.


There are many out there who fail to break the barriers within themselves before trying to find love outside their vessel. For those of you who wonder why you can’t find love, I would say there are probably three possibilities to that:
i) You don't love yourself enough to think you deserve love in return!
ii) You love yourself too much to allow another who lacks love in them to ruin you!
iii) You love yourself too much that you don’t believe anyone else is humanly worthy of you!


I personally believe no one can truly love another until and unless they have love in their own heart and that loving yourself is by far the greatest gift you can ever give to yourself! No I'm not saying this because I sang Whitney's song on stage in front of a hundred people when I was 12 but because I personally have this experience to stand by this notion! Those who couldn’t show love for me didn’t have love in themselves to begin with, and I couldn’t nurture one with them because it takes two to tango..REMEMBER??? I didn’t have enough patients to allow myself the time to see others change, so I move on. I leave them be. I choose to continue my life even if they refused to live theirs. I am the (ii) point above!

Don’t get me wrong ha! Loving yourself doesn’t mean being self absorbed with your own being! It’s embracing this intense feeling of deep affection for yourself.

This is tough to handle but somehow I think that if you possess love within you, your love will be a radiant light of hope for others to emulate. When you have love within you, you will shine and that light will dawn on others as a sign of what is missing in them. Love is powerful, and it is contagious. It is uplifting and it is joyful. Love makes the world go round!
So go ahead.. Listen to her song and contemplate on your life! Work on the most important area of your existence - loving yourself and the rest will fall in place!!

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