Dec 14, 2013

Where Are We On The PISA Map?

If a society is not capable of SELF-ASSESSMENT or SELF-CRITICISM, then it is not a MATURE SOCIETY (V.S.Naipaul).

Let's put that in context of our Ministry of Education and our current state especially since the PISA results have shown where Malaysia stands in the face of the earth - is MOE mature enough to put aside political agendas and truly FOCUS on the future of this country?

My other big question is this :
Is MOE truly sincere in their OBJECTIVES and are their OBJECTIVES structured and equipped for the need and expectations of the 21st Century and globalisation?

We have reached 56 years of Independence and right now we stand behind Vietnam and a step ahead of Indonesia and tucked comfortably in the bottom 30% in regards to the performance of Math, Science and Reading. By the way, I am not looking down on Indonesia nor have I been looking down on Vietnam when I saw the results. In fact, I wasn't even the least shocked! I'm actually disgusted with the arrogance of our leaders and their idiotic talks. I believe many Malaysians and foreigners know we have an Education Minister who lives on a different planet and dances to a very odd tune and an Education ministry that behaves like it is stuck in a PERPETUAL COMA!

In all honesty I for one have many times believed we would have been better off under the British rule only for the sake of where our kids are going to land with the state our education system is going! 56 years and we are in the MUD! 56 years to show how much we could be on our own feet, but we are headed to opposite poles between economy and quality of graduates. Are our unemployed graduates going to be spoon fed by the government? Or sent out to other developed countries to work as maids and labourers in the near future?

No matter how much reports and letters are written to them and the press by people who are in position and bright concerned parents, we do not see any form of acceptance on MOE's part. Are they too proud to admit their mistakes? Are they too PROUD to accept our opinions and International reports? Aren't they ashamed to be told that 97% of the teachers they had picked to educate our children and the future of this nation were candidates that didn't meet the selection requirement? So nobility of profession over-ruled quality and standards is it? Or did their priorities get tangled up with their need to prove a point to the rest of the world that they believed they were swimming the oceans and failed to see they never actually left the mud they got themselves stuck in thanks to their pride, ego and fallacies over identity crisis and Nationalism?

So long as MOE and our ruling government play their drums to the tune of Malay Identity and Nationalism (which isn't even the true issue at hand), deeper into the mud Malaysia will go. Unless the Malays realise the mess our government is putting their kids in, the double standards they impose on our children, we are not going to go anywhere where reformation of the Education is concern. It's quite obvious that the majority really don't know who holds the power to this country!

We are pretty much doomed by these people in power and to think that majority Malaysians who voted them are responsible for this mess is a bigger blow on our faces and our children's future!

Our leaders seems to be more interested to have their names in history books than to actually do things that can make this country succeed in the international front! Dumbing down its citizens to remain in power, and uplifting elitism is precisely what they are doing in broad day light, and just remember that when you stay silent, you don't help to put an end to it! Be a society that cares and makes the difference by demanding for MOE to be fair and right in their aims and objectives!

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Dec 4, 2013


To know more about the objectives of ASPIRES please visit the Facebook Group
Every parent and citizen has a responsibility towards making sure their children and their children's children gain the best quality in education without any forms of inequality.
ELITE? NON-ELITE? Who's to say what your child is and is not? 
Who's to say where your child should go and should not?

One education for all with no double standards. If IGCSE and IB syllabus can be given to MRSMs why not every national school?
the OPTION for the teaching and learning of Maths and Science in English (PPSMI). Is 2 subjects that governs the world economy going to make you lose your identity learning it in English? 
Wouldn't you have your children taught in English with the necessary terms at primary level itself instead of seeing them suffer when they step into tertiary education or upon graduating only to end up being an unemployable grad because our Government fail to equip them with what is IMPORTANT?

If all these are important to you.. spread the word around and join hands as ASPIRES take it peacefully to the media about our concerns and how we the voices of Malaysia are being ignored for the greater glory of our political parties! 
We are non-partisan and we want to be heard for the sake of our children and our country!

Oct 16, 2013

Exclusivity of The BOLEH-LAND

The verdict is out!
Now thanks to the Court of Appeal, Christians in Malaysia have no rights to using the word Allah for GOD for those who speak in Malay. Well to be exact, only HERALD has no rights to publishing it in their Malay section of their paper, because last night, permissions have been given to those in Sabah and Sarawak (the Borneo states of Malaysia) to the use of ALLAH in the Indonesian Malay bibles and in their daily worship in church. WHY? Mr. Prime Minister suddenly realised he has just set his seat on fire and this could cost him big time in the next general elections, is it? End of the day it seems that's all they worry about. Not the actual logic of the matter itself.

No. Don't get me wrong. I don't care for that linguistic rights personally, because Malay is not my mother tongue nor is it my Lingua Franca as it is for the Bornean Christians, whom after 50 years of being part of Malaysia, is now told that they have no rights to calling their GOD Allah, which the world, especially the Muslim world outside Malaysia agrees, is the same God for all Christians, Muslims, and Jews.

We might have to come to a point where we will be expected to print our own Malay Bibles and rename Allah as TUHAN (after all that is the Malay translation for GOD) and educate the East Malaysian Catholics to change their addressing of God in their worship... well change can be good (I'm just trying to remain positive here!). After all, let's be practical, we are not Arabians as some think they are and we can't blame Indonesia for it either, because some Dutchman translated the first Malay Bible back in the 15th Century and used Allah because he must have heard it from the Arabian language which meant God and found it appropriate for usage, linguistically. Unless of course if Sabah and Sarawak seek out Independence from Malaysia and govern their own land. Endless possibilities right?

Leaving all that etymology, theology and history behind, what strikes to me as disturbing is the fact that people are willing to fight on the wrong context tirelessly. It's as if, if these loud sounding protest say 1+1=3, we'd have to accept it and how our judicial system favours these moronic stands.

It makes me wonder what justice is there really in this country for the minority?

Obvious isn't it, that our law favours VANDALS and GANGSTERS who doesn't need to be 'shot at sight' because they bully in the cause of 'PURITY'? Because they stand as 'crusaders' for the majority in this country who within this same majority itself have many who doesn't dance to their drumming. Because they are the louder voice of the official religion in this country. The fact that Putrajaya and Perkasa could warn the outcome of chaos if the court ruled otherwise goes to show that, they don't care about living in UNITY through proper ethical channels but by saying things would get worst than it did back in 2009 if we were given the rights to using this arabic word for God. They literally threatened the LEGAL SYSTEM and us the minority in broad daylight! And they carry on as champions with their heads held high.

Their blackmails, threats, act of vandalism, accusations and condemnations are certainly going to haunt them someday, may be not now, but hey since we are talking religious, it might be what they will have to answer, when they stand in front of Abba/Yahweh/Allah - that one almighty GOD we commonly share when he asks them did you live a righteous life on earth? God bless their souls then! And watch your mouth cause the judge up there was not appointed by the people down here!

The other thing that makes me wonder is why after all these years are the Muslims in Malaysia claiming they are threatened, so much so, there are Malaysians who call themselves Neo-Nazis and pledge to fight for the purity of Malay? Purity of MALAY? What is that supposed to even mean in this modern era? I just don't get it. Who is fighting THEM? How are they, being the majority, the ones who are faced with threats and terror from the minority? How did they come up with such Voldermort ideologies? Who instilled it in them? Every time an issue arrises between majority and minority, you'll come to hear it being preached in the Friday sermons at the National Mosque in front of thousands of muslims young and old, and often after Friday prayers, there have been marches and picketing held for various issues. Are these sermons checked out before they are shared? If I am not mistaken, sermons of other religions cannot be politically inclined, but theirs can? Another exclusivity is it?

I'm not questioning rights over sermons, but a word of advice.. preaching is a big responsibility and as a preacher, you owe everyone the right not to be misled or misguided by selfish ideologies especially on the pretext of fallacy and for heaven's sake, stop using God's name in vain!

Frankly, I would rather listen to a sermon that would help me understand my search for God and how I can be his instrument to help others irrespective of race, gender or religion. I don't enjoy one bit of politics being preached in Church during worship because being in the midst of Christ and in his house, I want peace. Not some brewing of ruckus, not that there ever was in fact. We keep taking matters directed at us in prayer but sadly that's not how I feel others take us. The countless times we have prayed for peace amongst our fellow Malaysians. The endless times we have raised them ALL up to God in prayer and asked for guidance, for security, for love, for kindness to be blessed and bestowed upon every citizen and immigrant in Malaysia. I only wonder if their sermons ever included us in a loving manner, or are we only brought up as a THREAT? A plan to extinguish and exterminate, like how the Jews who minded their own business yet ticked an insecure mental case Hitler who drove his crazies through others upon them. We are not a threat you know. We are Malaysians seeking for nothing more but a home to live in and to move on to the next one with our Almighty. And when one fights for justice, it's only because its justifiable that no one has exclusivity over it. Be a grown up and think rationally instead of acting like a spoil brat that only knows how to throw tantrums and throw up a ruckus.

Back to my point of concern again, what's the purpose of a Parliament and a Government if religious sermons carry more weight in controlling the law in this country and acts as a decision maker and driver to establishing some new rule after another that goes against all logic? What is the purpose of us voting in the respective leaders to run this country if some fellow from PERKASA talks more than the PM itself and has his words RESONATING everywhere as if he was ELECTED by the RAKYAT????

I feel Malaysia has gone so backwards in its way of thinking!
We have parents who expect more and more religious education to be carried out in schools for their kids in the expense of our children's time at school. I respect them for wanting religious education to be significantly involved in their children's life but why don't they have it on their own after school hours? It is so selfish to expect the non muslims to keep studying Moral education so as to have the muslim kids go for Islamic education, when for a fact you know everyone could do with more hours of Maths, BM, English, and Science in their commonly shared time at school! This many hours of moral education in school is pointless and irrelevant. Ethics can be taught through language learning as well and it can benefit all races in fact. When I look at the people standing and protesting with their placards, and the groups that go about fighting for some so called 'PURITY', I wonder what education have they been receiving? They all studies side by side with other races and come out thinking this way? They believe everyone else is a threat to them? Even those who take up an argument in the most professional way. What 'ajaran sesat' went on for them to be so insecure? Who did what to them in this country in this present time and age for them to be so defensive? To think so many have had the privilege to go abroad and experience the world and to come home and act as if none of those experiences meant a thing to savour the respect we have for each other as Malaysians? Think again, who's being threatened and made to feel insignificant? We are all children of the same GOD end of the day.

Our political leaders talk so much about globalisation, modernisation, pluralism, etc etc, yet at the same time, stand in silence and allow others to preach on making matter which aren't theirs to own in the first place, be exclusively theirs and theirs alone. The silence of these leaders are not a declaration of disapproval, mind you. They would rather have someone else fight that battle for them and be a hypocrite in front of us, as long as they get to gain power, wealth and probably a place in the ever evolving, crap load of a history book we have!

From declaring we were never a colonised nation, to a new declaration of Arabian line age for the Malays and the exclusivity of things linguistic and non, Malaysia hides behind the slogan MALAYSIA BOLEH and believes they know it all but in reality is becoming nothing more than a backward and ruthless nation who keeps taking for granted the subtlety, patience, tolerance, and civility of its people while the 'noisy gongs' go on fooling people, that they are true warriors of Malaya! Oh yes... they are warriors indeed, warriors of a battle they created in their own heads.

Wake up and smell the disaster that is brewing because the scent of roses in Malaysia is sadly fading away.

I pray to God, like many of my fellow Catholics, that the sound minded majority remain as the majority in this country to keep Malaysia stable, safe and protected with rational thinking in every aspects and manner of governance for the stability of this nation.

Source: The National 

Oct 3, 2013


Have you noticed how many times we ask kids what they want to be when they grow up and then once they are all grown up, the lesser the question arises? Or we tell them to be something else instead? Well, if you have not noticed it, you should now on because it is very common in us adults to do that to little children.

We constantly ask them what they want to be when they are older, and every time they answer us, the answer would differ. I knew mine did from wanting to be a policewoman, to a teacher then a dentist, a lawyer, and finally, I didn't know what I wanted to be anymore nor did anyone ask me again. My results and opportunities decided what I could be, mainly because I didn't come from a family that was wealthy enough to put me where I wanted to be (which was not something I even knew).

Now as a parent to 3 kids of my own, this question seems to constantly flash itself at my children by others. I know my daughter has transited her ambitions- chef to artist to scientist and now teacher. She envisions not just being in that profession, but the entire works of it. When it was the chef, she also planned about having her own cafe, serving the finest pancakes and pastas and she'd delegate workstations for each of us, such as Papa be the sous chef, her brothers the waiters and cleaners and I should be in charge of the pancakes while she takes care of the counter (how convenient right? And she's the CHEF!).

Anyway, since then her ambition has changed and now for a good period of time too, she wants to be a TEACHER, an English Teacher. I of course found that to be very noble and fantastic actually but I constantly remind her that even though she wants to be an English Teacher, she has to study and be fairly good at all other subjects too. She asked me why and went on to guessing it herself. Is it because if I don't do well in other subjects, I wouldn't get entry into a University (she definitely heard that in some conversation at home between me and my nephew)?

I looked at her and said, yes that is true but most of all is that a WELL READ and SMART English Teacher is an AWESOME teacher!
That is true! It may seem to many that language teachers are supposed to be teaching LANGUAGE, but what is language and what doesn't it cover? It is part and parcel of everything we do and every subject we learn which ever field it is in, requires a language and a well read teacher would know how to make her teaching interesting and fun, incorporating different areas of study to english teaching and thus create a student who is capable of speaking and understanding the various field of study through language.

Well enough about that, here's the other thing, having an ambition is one thing, but to have someone tell you "WHY DON"T YOU BE..." is by far the most annoying line to receive after sharing what you envision yourself to be. I am guilty of saying this myself to others because I know their potential and I believe it comes from a good place in myself to say that to them without ever undermining what they want to do of course, but when a 9 year old says to an adult whom she is not close to in any way (in this case my housing lawyer) that she wants to be a teacher and that too upon being asked, this lady tells her, "Ha! TEACHER? Be a lecturer la! Why teacher? Lecturer better money ma!"

Are these such people the ones who make us change our minds from following our innocent dreams?

I know people whom as kids wanted to grow up to be grass cutters and garbage truck drivers, but are now Ship Captains and Pilots instead. Did someone tell them MONEY was more important or did they realise in reality, they didn't want to do a stinky job like that all their lives and realised their potentials were much greater? I hope it's the later. Imagine how their parents would have felt hearing their kids say they want to grow up being that? I had my dad ask me if I was planning to work in the MARTEL factory after I finished SPM only because my cousin screwed her SRP results. Can you beat that? It wasn't even over my results that I was questioned that way.

Anyway, as to my daughter who wants to be a teacher, I would certainly support her ambition and not tell her myself to go be a LECTURER instead, unless she wants that for herself. Teaching children is a tough job and I think people ought to stop looking at it as a lesser profession than any other and if she decides later she wants to be an ARTIST, a SCIENTIST or a CHEF, she can go ahead and do it, so long as I'm not expected to make the pancakes! I want to enjoy my retirement away from a stove if possible.

Bottom line is, encourage them to tap into every area and help them find their potential without undermining them and expecting them to be what you or society wants them to be. Study their capabilities and help them cultivate it. We don't need to have our kids be what everyone thinks is the best professions and even if they are in something fantastic and chooses to change their career, what's wrong in supporting it? It's their life, they eventually would learn to survive because survival is in all of us. Who's to say they won't shine to glory in a career diversion? You won't know if you don't try, right?

Sep 23, 2013

Of ChildrenS and Guest of HonourS

CJ : "Mama, the words that needed an "S" they never said it with an "S" but the words that didn't need an "S" they put an "S" and their grammar is so bad! THEIR ENGLISH IS SO HORRIBLE, MA!"

That's the language analysis my 6 year old son gave me after his graduation ceremony. He was mainly referring to those who spoke on the microphone from the stage - the Master of Ceremony, the Vice Executive of the organisation, and the lady in charge of calling out the names of the graduates to collect their scroll. Everything was nice except when they opened their mouth to speak in English!

My son was not the only one who bickered, I was bickering too from the start, drilling my husband about so many things that ticked my spine which incidentally ticked his as well. Dress code which Malaysians fail to comply with. It's as if every where and anywhere people think a t-shit and a pair of shorts are the perfect attire for FORMAL WEAR! Secondly how in an auditorium of almost a thousand parents, 2/4 of them had their heads down looking at their devices, the 3rd 1/4 was taking snap shots of themselves and the last was waiting patiently for the graduates to come in but when the graduates came into the auditorium, automatically every one in the first 10 rows STOOD UP, no not to welcome the grads but for photograph on their PADS, TABS.. you name it, they used it! These people couldn't care less about those seated at the back. So my husband and I watched the grads enter through their devices. Seriously, those who stood outside the auditorium had a better view from the projector TV!

The stab to all gloriousness was of course the COMMAND OF ENGLISH the organisers had! It was horrendous. They have no clue how ridiculous they sounded and so many of us parents, of all races kept correcting their grammar under our breath from where we were seated. To think they are an education body that no doubt has a excellent curriculum and teaching devices offered at their centres, it saddens me to see how poor their own command in the language was. They literally translated Mandarin to English and finished the event. Non of them had to give an impromptu speech. They all had every script in their hand yet their sounded like ducks quacking English. Who says CHILDREN as CHILDRENS, and "we welcome guest of honours enter hall now" or "Give speech now is CEO XXX Group"

OH MY GOOD LORD!!!!!! Don't they care how they sound?

They publish their names on the graduation booklet with their qualification next to it: MBA (MMU), MSc (MMU). It's such a disgrace to the institution and the Masters they hold when, when they open their mouth, you don't see any trace of qualification in them! I'm very disappointed. Seriously disappointed!

The best was of course seeing the grads receive their scrolls. In fact everything was professional but all professionalism flew out of the auditorium when they opened their mouth to speak.

Sep 18, 2013

Ways to Identify a Disappointed Malaysian

This thought just came to me when I looked at a few of my friends' albums and found a similarity among each one of them. So as the title of my post clearly states.. here are the ways to identify a disappointed Malaysian via the social network platform.

Thanks to the 20 cents hike on Petrol

Thanks to the Blackout magic during GE13 and to go in the state of mourning

Requesting a clean up or 'Bersih' in the electoral list

If you are friends with a Malaysian on the social network platform.. and you find any one or all of the above (although the yellow and black do some in various different styles like an all yellow submarine, or a yellow flower, or spongebob squarepants, black car, black punching gloves, etc..) in their profile either as a profile picture or somewhere in their album, you will know they are the Malaysians who feel cheated, betrayed and taken for a ride a.k.a DISAPPOINTED by the politics in our country! 

A disappointed Malaysian would also subscribe to the following news networks.. so if you see them share, repost or retweet links from these sites, you can somehow know.. they are bugged by disappointments being a Malaysian. 

We are however, united also in our disappointments. 

Sep 17, 2013

From Miley to Davuluri

Are the people on Twitter ruling the world?
Well, apparently they do but are we letting the dumb ones rule? That's my big question!

Weeks ago we heard the havoc of Twitter over Miley's performance at VMA 2013 and now that that had died off, it's Miss America 2014 - Nina Davuluri going all hot in bombardment on Twitter.
I feel rather sad to know that some Americans don't know the difference between Indians and Arabs.

Then again, we in Malaysia are no better, what do we say about people calling Indian Muslims as Malays, and Indian Christians as Eurasians? I give up honestly! It's as if, if you are not Hindu and Indian you are not Indian at all. REALLY? Get your race and religion classifications right la people...please (or be like our PM and call yourselves 1Malaysia but treat everyone according to their race first).

Indians, Arab, well in reality many out there don't even know where Malaysia is or even exist. I have met many who knew Thailand, Penang and Singapore but Malaysia? As if Penang was an Independent Republic or something. Anyway... Some of the Tweets were rather idiotic and only showed the shallowness and level of intelligence these people had. I mean, if you want to be a BIGOT, be an INTELLIGENT one at least right?!Who goes around calling an American with Indian descent an Arab and attacks her based on her skin colour, assuming she was muslim? Even if she was, what's wrong? What has she got to do with 9-11? Being a muslim, doesn't mean the person is involved with those terrorist, just like being a Catholic doesn't mean all Catholic men are pedophiles because there were Catholic Priest caught in the US of A for that!

What puzzles me is that they haven't really come out of their cocoon to what the world is evolving into especially what America is supposed to be all about - the land of possibilities and opportunities (I wonder who came up with that actually).

However, who's to say these tweets were not works of frauds, made up only to hype and create attention subsequently raising viewer statistics. Seems to me anything is possible these days and many would do anything just for some publicity like Miley.

Bottom line, who cares what these low IQ, cocooned twitters have to say? The fact that they got the basic facts about Nina WRONG, shows what a waste of time their opinions(Tweets) are so why bother? They too are seeking attention at the end of the day to have their tweet picked up by Huffpost or E! and even CNN, over their disappointment. Someone ought to tell these tweeters to use their smart phones and do a little research before blabbering crap!

P.S. I'm not going to post those tweets on my post.. they don't deserve anymore attention, so here's a gorgeous well deserved picture of the newly crowned Miss America in her Banana Yellow Gown and Crown! Well done and Congratulations Nina Davuluri. It would certainly be fun to see you stand next to other Indian girls from different countries for Miss Universe / Miss World Competition (for those who don't know where else Indians might be.. please utilise GOOGLE  or just open your WORLD MAP or your globe and point somewhere.. anywhere.. 360 degress around earth.. the possibilities are endless!!!).

Sep 8, 2013

Are We Really Fighting For God?

The past few days have had me thinking even more about how irresponsible our leaders are becoming especially since the announcement by JAKIM over what words that can and cannot be uttered or written by a non-muslim ( and then the prediction of public disorder if the court permits the Catholic church to use "Allah" for God in the Al-Kitab (

This morning after flipping through the many irrational articles, I stumbled upon this NEIGHBOURS-IN-SPIRIT and I felt happy to know that somewhere out there in Malaysia, we still have wonderful scenarios of inter-religious respect and harmony.

We Malaysians were a society who CO-EXISTED well before and I believe we still do in many ways and many places but is this a vision and aspiration of only the ordinary citizens? I fail to see it practiced in those who actually have the power to make a positive change - LEADERS both CIVIL and RELIGIOUS. Why is that?

Is our faith the size of a mustard seed that we cannot handle co-existing with other fellow humans of other religion? Are we so easily swayed from our believes that we need to ill-treat others just because they don't practice what we do? How then do we say we PRAISE GOD but fail on every ground to treat GOD's own creation - YOU AND ME and the rest of the HUMAN RACE with some dignified love and respect? Who are we to KILL, DESTROY and CONDEMN what God had made?

Are we really fighting for GOD? GOD is so powerful, if he wished he could wipe us out in a fraction of a second but instead he tells us to LOVE, why? Because LOVE is the TRUE reflection of HIMSELF.

Are we really battling for his GLORY? He didn't come down to earth and tell you and me who has the right to call him what and who doesn't, did He?

Why do we allow such trivial things to come in between us and have it ostracise HIS own creation?
We follow what is written in our religious books. How we interpret the words of GOD is very important but more importantly WHY you interpret the holy word is what makes us do the things we do. Wanting to kill and destroy, or insult and humiliate is what you get when words of love is interpreted in the context of self-glorification and greed.

So back to the question, are we really fighting for the all powerful all mighty GOD? The God who has the power to wipe you out when he thinks you have done enough damage in HIS NAME?
The God who would probably be wondering what is wrong with this creation of His, where they fight against each other for mere language, relics and yes MATERIAL THINGS when HE, GOD is spiritual and beyond this world!

We fight each other in the name of GOD to conquer what? Let me see, so far looking back in history, we fought in his name to CREATE EMPIRES, STEAL NATURAL RESOURCES, STEAL LAND, DESTROY HOMES etc etc.. yeah.. they are so spiritual aren't they? We fight each other for where we can build our house of worship and fail to see that the house in within our hearts!

We find people fighting each other in HIS name because we want something for ourself and we glorify it thinking it's for HIM, looks more like it's for SATAN instead and I'm sure Satan's having a good laugh.

I would rather DIE for GOD in trying to make everyone live and love each other instead of KILLING in GOD's NAME and say I did HIM justice because if you cannot co-exist, you have failed in doing the first most important thing in religion - love your fellow human race: the creation of GOD itself and the second which is: DO NO BAD!

We see wars happening and we ask why GOD is doing this to us, why can't God stop this? Hey! STOP and look at what is going on, we fight in His name against good people when He never asked us to! We fight in His name because some so called LEADER decided to interpret the HOLY WORDS with the wrong intentions, and say we are doing it for Him while completely destroying the fundamental teachings of that religion.

We have leaders who use his name and treat others so horribly making chaos for everyone and then like fools people who fail to think, act upon HUMAN irrationality and call it HOLY BATTLE! To me fighting with one religion over another is not called Holy Battle; it is called Horrific Insanity!

Did God ask us to do this? God asked us to fight against our sins and evil. How does another human who is praying for peace and happiness seen as evil that we need to battle them? How does restricting someone from using his language to praise God or as a interpersonal communication seen as a cry for HOLY STRUGGLE?

Didn't we create our own demons by our own selfishness only to end up messing up what beauty God has actually handed over to us? The Peace he wishes for us? It doesn't have to come in the cost of destroying, insulting, belittling and condemning his creation. Let God judge us when we stand in front of him over how well we chose to live in HIS NAME through our ways of respecting his creation which is other words respecting Him. If one fears of loosing a soul to another religion, you should use love and kindness to lure them back. Then again, you ruin the body but you can never ruin the soul of a believer!

Tolerance is very important, and when we cannot tolerate each other's differences, we do what actually the DEVIL expects us to do and that makes PRAISING GOD pure HYPOCRISY.

Now this is something I found in the news today, something may be the Malaysian News should highlight in their papers!  How we all can ring our praises in our own unique believes and teachings and ask God to help put some sense in the heads of irresponsible leaders and people who think they are doing justice to Him. Let's use our RELIGION to FIGHT the DEVIL who disguises himself as God, instead of against each other who truly want peace and justice for all mankind.

Christians and Muslims pray together during Francis’ “miraculous” peace vigil

So instead of making rules banning people from uttering words only rightful to a particular religion, think about the consequences of both sounding dumb and disrupting peace and unity through souring neighbourly love and respect! Sometimes I feel they've forgotten they live in a muti-racial and muti-religious country or is it only for advertising so that they can make money through tourism but in reality we are all being WHOLLY WRANGLED through a pretentious HOLY STRUGGLE!

No Religion teaches us BAD so let's live it like that!

Sep 5, 2013

The Modern Day Memorial

This might come as a joke to many but honestly, as I thought about it, I did giggle to myself too. The reality of the Internet era is such that, these days we almost only live on the net. What many in the previous Millennium jokingly predicted has in fact become a reality.

Social Media has allowed many of us to represent and reflect who we are and what we are all about through our activities online. Many share their joyous moments through the pictures they post. We express our emotions through the emoticons and stickers (Oh I love those minion stickers on FB now) after a mini blogging, we scream our hearts and do therapy by posting inspirational quotes, we attack our haters and enemies via social media, we fight for change online, we tell the government what drives us mad by commenting on news posts (they even have a term for such people - KEYBOARD WARRIORS), make announcements of births and birthdays, house warming and holiday getaways, marriages and even death on the social media because it reaches faster, everyone whom you have as friends (whom matters to you) sees it and it's free.

My point here is not to condemn but to invite everyone who doesn't have a social media account to go and get one and post some pictures of yourself and say some nice stuff that can make others think, laugh or cry with you.

Want to know why?

So far I have had a handful of people I know including my brother Richard of course, who passed away and were once on Facebook. The fact that their accounts are still open for visits by their friends, allows us to go back to their page or wall and remember them especially since they are no longer around. You get to make that trip by a click on your mouse, to see them in their pictures, re-read their words and relive a moment you once had with them. Of course your mind is all the memory you need, but our minds can often fail to boot when it's required. Try and imagine also of how wonderful it would be to gather with everyone else once again on that person's anniversary and share your feelings for him or her with the rest of his or her friends?

Sounds lame but it isn't so lame if you actually tried it.
You'd be glad you could go back in time and see their pictures especially if the person wasn't someone you had the chance to have pictures taken with at good occasions or have theirs in your dusty old albums.

So with that in mind.. I've decided to entrust my passwords to my children so that when my day comes, they can let me live on through the memories of my friends and associates by keeping my social media accounts accessible to them, to contact or remind whom so ever, that my death anniversary is nearing - remind others to go light a candle and pray for me, or offer a mass for my soul, or simply think of the good memories they've had with me in their life or the bad (God knows!) but simply to be close to me without having to make a trip to my grave or columbarium and this way it will let anyone from any part of the world still pay a memorial visit to me. We could convert our social media account into an e-tombstone! Think about it (no I've not gone nuts but you can have a good laugh to the logic I just gave you alright.. I on the other hand shall stop giggling now to start counting sheep)!

Sep 3, 2013

The Debate on RON 95

My husband woke up today announcing to me the hottest headlines in Malaysia - RON 95 increased by 20cents per litre, and my reply to him was "YUP SO I'VE READ! It's plastered everywhere on the social media!


Because he was out last night with his buddies, he told me the petrol stations were hogged and everyone was trying to get their last full tank at the old price (nothing new as well). I of course just laughed and shook my head and he asked me why.

Let's do some Math shall we?
A full tank = RM80 and with 1.90 you get 42litres of Ron 95
Now at 2.10/l you will get 38litres of Ron95 for RM80
Short by 4 litres (RM7.60 of the old price)

Now let's consider the time one would have spent at that station last night in that hogging queue?
Now let's consider also the fact that you've saved 7.60 and would go down the street later and indulge in a RM14 Latte at Starbucks or a packet of cigarette or something absolutely unnecessary and could do without. Does it seem so much that you needed to act upon filling up so desperately on fuel at an old price now?

(I did ask him however, if he decided to fuel up too, he of course said, he rather get home and sleep than wait like a dungu in the station for a mere 7.60 - so he did his maths too.. hahaha)

Oh well, yes,  I know some of us have like 10 cars/house (we all know how that feels especially when none of those 10 are parked inside their own house but out at the side walks of their neighbours' homes) but I read somewhere in Star Newspapers years ago, on how we have this nature to stock up like a bear going into hibernation when we know what we are stocking up on is something that will eventually be used up and ironically we would have spent else where a bigger amount that's not even closely significant to what we supposedly saved from somewhere else.

It is important to be a smart consumer which includes looking out for sales and best buys and getting your stocks for your household items smartly, but wouldn't it be a wasted effort of savings if you used it to go spend on something that's going to come out in you pee-u later? I guess that's what we call PRIORITY.

I often ask my kids, when they ask me to buy water and I know they can handle a walk back to the car to consume it from their water bottles or a drive back to the house to consume it from the fridge because they aren't going to die in dehydration or choking on their food - tell me why should I pay 2.00 for a bottled water when my monthly water bill is only RM13? I make them do the math to just know, it is in this little stuff that we often end up spending an absolute bomb when we add it all up by the end of the month. Now they themselves will say, I'm thirsty but I can wait till I get home because I don't need to waste my cash on something that isn't an emergency.

Back to RON95...
No! I'm not happy that the fuel price have gone up by 20cents (that's my 'Malaysian' showing) because now everything else is going to rise and that sucks more than not making it to the petrol station to fill up my tank. What on earth is he our Obama of South East Asia, the modern day Robin Hood - Najib, thinking by coming up with his Fiscal Effect theory and more hand outs? Hand outs? Why the hell did he start giving handouts in the first place? His 'broad day light bribery' that now we the RAKYAT need to pay for? Higher income vs lower income and foreigners are all benefitting from the subsidy so now rip us up apart? I thought foreigners paid a different price? Or did I hear that wrongly? Or is it only talk but never practiced?

The rich and poor still lives very differently with effects of what the petrol price does on us. He talks as if he thinks about the poor but has he asked himself how much more would the poor people have to pay for a piece of roti canai for instance,  thanks to his 20cents increase? Or is someone from his office going to tell the poor, like Jamie Oliver would say - get off your backsides and learn to make food with your bare hands! to the poor??? to accommodate his supposedly logic thinking?

If he thinks his handouts can help make up what he is taking then stop calling it an incentive of Barisan National because not all of us voted for BN to take our money and give away as you wish! The man who couldn't give us an explanation to why he had spent that MUCH money as PM on his International trips goes ahead and without decency drops a bomb on all of us once again. My first bomb  (as a parent la, cause if I were to talk about the bombs BN has put on me as a Malaysian, it would start from my first experience of racial injustice after SPM!) was the taking away of PPSMI, second was making Maths and Science into BM a year earlier than what was announced (2011 instead of 2012 because Belle my girl was supposed to have had the chance to do it in English) and what else man? This bapa blackout seems to be making magic that pisses us without fail since GE13!

Yes.. I debated too with my husband that may be now more people will start using the public transport more and we will see lesser traffics around the city centre but as much as that would be a wishful thinking, our cost of living is going to go up another step if not more and in the end what ever BR1M, BROM and BRAM Najib wants to give out as his idiotic handouts should just come out of his damn pocket and probably that can happen if we all decide to say we can't afford to pay anymore taxes! All gone to trying to live and getting to work because food, housing and now petrol is unaffordable for us many. To say we are a oil producing nation? What a joke ha?! Looks like we got to get back on our cycles, fish and plant crops and go back to basics so we can feed him and his wife to more Jewish diamond jewellery from New York city!

Sep 2, 2013

What A Waste!

I don't know if it's just me or what but I get so mad when I see the hosts of cooking shows throw away so much raw material just to make a dish. Giada of 'Giada at Home' is one of them. To make a salad, she practically discarded 3/4 of the outer lettuce so as to use only the inner part because (listen to this) that's what she likes the most. 


That's what she likes the most?

I wonder what she would do if her life took a 180 degree turn and to get just that outer leaf of a salad would be a miracle (as is the case of so many around the world). 

It's just disgusting to see someone brag over class, poise and liking while completely disregarding their wasteful actions. (Her salad dish by the way is just one of the items that ticked me off, she does this wasteful thing almost always if you watch her show) 

Don't worry, I know how everything is sponsored and everything is for the TV purpose but think about it, wasting raw material and cooked food is not something rare to the real world - tons are thrown away and discarded from hotels, restaurants and yes, TV shows! All that food could actually feed an entire continent, don't you think?

The next time you watch a cooking show, pay attention to the attitude of the cook/host. Watch just how much some of them waste while some make use of ever inch of material they have to make a dish or several different dishes with the outer inner upper or lower part of a cabbage for instance as Hugh of 'The River Cottage' show would. 

TV viewers most time would do exactly what they see on TV and if the host throws away 3/4 and uses only the central part of a lettuce for example, believe me, those at home would probably do the same. Teaching how to waste is not a good show if you asked me and watching Giada at Home yesterday with my husband got us asking each other, "WAH! WHAT A WASTE MAN!!!!" almost every other time she made a culinary step. 

I'm thinking, could it be the Asian thing in most of us I know in Malaysia, who are particular about not wasting raw items because we are constantly in contact with those who are less fortunate and we feel mortified to waste what we have, simply because we feel guilty that one day not respecting the blessing given to us is going to come back and bite us in our ass or because we grew up being taught to respect our food since we all at one time or another have experienced life with so little of it or heard so much of it through the stories of our parents and grandparents about their life during the pre and post-war era? It just occurred to me, how much of these stories do we actually pass down to our kids so as to mould them to be watchful over their actions to food wastage or gluttony for that matter? Then again, why waste? It's like literally throwing your cash into the waste bin isn't it? Buy to throw? Come on!

I believe most of us grew up watching our mothers cook with such care and watchfulness right? 
I remember something many don't do these days, like cracking an egg and using your finger to wipe clean the white egg from the shell or using your knife to scrape the carrot instead of the peeler and using your knife to rub off the excess skin of an onion instead of throwing away the other layer or 3 outer layers like what Rachel Ray does in her '30 minutes meals' show.

Whether a TV show or in our own kitchen, we ought to think again before we throw away that 5 layers of good to eat lettuce or the 1/4 of capsicum we didn't think would sit flat enough to make thin strips for a bowl of salad as Giada did.

The choices we make today might either bless us or haunt us tomorrow and that includes also what goes into our trash bin!

Aug 30, 2013


I have been sitting on this page for the past 2 days, wondering what I should say.

After my many failed attempts of coming up with something in this post, I decided to turn my title into a question instead. 

Am I proud to be a Malaysian?

Well, I instantaneously answered myself, "Why shouldn't I be?"

The Media has been trying hard to ignite the spirit of Merdeka, although you don't see it in the air as much as it used to be in the past.
As much as there's a lot of bickering going on with the current government (who's always been our government since Independence, so much so I think we freed ourselves from Colonialism and got ourselves attached to 'Barisanism') and not a single day has passed us by since GE13, without a ridiculous news in the media of someone saying something senseless, pointless, baseless, etc etc etc (end of thinking capacity). The bullshit in the news is just too much to handle that it gives us a nauseating headache most of the time. But that's the thing, it gives you a headache (FULLSTOP).

How ever annoying the news gets, we can't deny the fact that we are blessed to be a peaceful nation. A nation that still has a good number of wonderful people who cares for each other, who would come to each other's aid and most of all who would give each other enough respectable space to live and prosper and the best part of all is that they come from different race and religion. We do not allow our differences to come in the way of living together. 

We have PEACE and we ought to be grateful and thankful for that every single day of our lives. Malaysia has been through a lot and it can still go through a lot more if we fail to play our roles as citizens wisely, honourably and most of all humbly. 

We have a lot to be proud about if we only sat and thought about it. We have each other and together we can keep this country the way it should be, prosperous, peaceful and united. Let us the ordinary RAKYAT, not let the wrong teachings, false accusations, sweeping statements and spiteful racial claims create an upheaval in our country that might never be settled if we took what we have now for granted. We have a mind and a heart and we should always nourish it with good will and love for each other so that we can maintain unity through respect. We don't need government programs to help us to be united, we've been doing a pretty good job without political assistance all these years because of our own humane attributes for life - the life of our own, our loved ones and our neighbours. 

So am I proud to be Malaysian?  Yes I am because saying NO would just make all those blood shed for  our peace go to vain. Because saying NO to me personally would be like spitting at the 20 odd years of service my father had put in for this country through the arm forces and it would be like closing my eyes to his brother who was killed while in service for our own people and for the thousands more like them who have served in many different ways who may or may not still be around, for the well being of our land before and after 1957.

My dad in his early military days

This Merdeka, let us celebrate our differences through our similarity, and our similarity is we are all MALAYSIANS. Let's block out the racial nonsense that many leaders have thrown at us, for one day they will be paid for their work. We shall not let their senseless talk poison our minds and hearts towards our fellow Malaysians. Let's remember that in reality one bad apple doesn't have to mean the entire basket is ruined!  

Let's put aside the bitterness of the past elections, the stupidity of the news in the media and let's say today MERDEKA! and cheer it on for those who gave us this country without any hidden agendas or selfish intentions. Let's celebrate it for them, and carry on this burning flame of gratitude to God for them and their actions and guidance for moulding our minds to wanting the best for our country and everyone in it.

We all owe it to our older generation, our parents, uncles, aunts and their friends and neighbours for what they have passed on to us - PEACE! And may we do the same for our own kids and never fail to teach them how to be grateful for what we have and for each other.

The grass, they say is always greener where you water it, so let's do our part shall we? Let's put LOVE, FORGIVENESS and KINDNESS before ourselves when we deal with each other because the way I see it, Independence back in 1957 was from foreign invasion, but right now it as a fight for independence from the invasion of irresponsible leaders and media that could cause chaos in an instant if we allowed perverse thinking to rule our actions. We'll say CHEERS to the Independence of the latest invasion soon enough but until then - 'Happy Merdeka Malaysia. May God continue to bless us all. Amen!' 

Jul 20, 2013

The Issue With "Allah"

You know the saying, "When a FOOL is corrected, he gets mad, but when a wise man is corrected he appreciates and learns"? Well, you can apply that directly in the issue faced in Malaysia over the use of the name Allah for the sole purpose of respecting language amongst the Malay speaking Catholics in Malaysia.

It just sickens me to see how Malaysia needs to shut people down when they speak the truth while fools get to go on talking crap and claim its theology and Islamic civilisation. So if the Vatican Rep, Joseph Marino's apology is not enough, for his mere opinion which is based on historic truth to be exact, what do these people want in order to stop feeling threatened? Oh yes, he needs to LEAVE THE COUNTRY right? Only then will these people feel glorious and mighty that they stood up for what they claim. (Although I must say, Marino should have done his homework before coming to Malaysia! Anyone who knows Malaysia, must know what you can and cannot say in this country. Free will, human rights, freedom of speech, etc - Excuse me it's Malaysia so WHAT IS THAT AGAIN?)

This brings back to the time when the late Pope John Paul II visited Singapore in 1986, and many Muslim Malaysians were against his coming to Malaysia, claiming we are an Islamic State and we do not have place for a Papal visit nor condone it. I remember the media highlighting the ruckus that took place at the Johor-Singapore border. I saw the news while I was in Singapore and I was only 9 years old then when I visited the Pope and honestly it is just disgusting! I still remember how I felt about Malaysia back then and honestly, my feelings have not changed after 27 years. The Pope may not have visited Malaysia, but 16 years later, Mahathir visited the Vatican and meets the Pope! Something I remember both my parents saying would happen because of the arrogance our people have in themselves, that God would make it be the other way around and it did. Whether it was God's work or the work of Allah, Mahathir's visit to the Vatican gave assurance to the world that there is still hope of PEACE and RESPECT between the two giant religions of this world.

From day one, I have been saying this and I stand by what I've said, Catholics should just drop the idea of the use of Allah for God. Get those bibles reprinted and change Allah to Tuhan! What is the big deal? We know for a fact this is a lost cause in this country. So be the bigger person. They clearly are worried that the use of this word will CONFUSE their people, so accept and respect that and let this matter rest! The muslims who know the truth about the lineage of the name Allah, fights otherwise, many Muslims feel annoyed that the government paint them as "easily influence" in other words doubting their faith. These Muslims want such claims to end, but instead of being heard, these Muslim friends of ours are being tagged as anti-Islam and claimed to be politically motivated. All this just shows how shallow minded those whose opinions are not the same as ours - the opinions based on evidence, but then again, would we be less of a CATHOLIC if we decide to end this? Would be be less of a CATHOLIC if we don't call God ALLAH? NO! Certainly not! I say choose your battles. Many are UNNECESSARY and are just the work of the devil inciting us to act as if it were the work of the HOLY SPIRIT. This is a linguistic issue and we know why they want it to be theirs.

If you hadn't noticed, our religious leaders don't block us from the influences of the world. They educate us on our options and repercussions and allow us to chose and decide through what we believe, through our faith. A simple example, when the movie Da Vincci Code came to cinemas, while some Catholics wanted it banned, what did our Bishop say? Let them watch and chose what they want to believe. If their faith is STRONG, they will not be dampened by FICTION. The movie played gloriously in the cinemas, and I recall so clearly how many non Catholics clapped and cheered on to parts of that movie, especially when the image of the supposed Apostle John was said to actually be Mary Magdalene and when that figure was connected to Jesus to claim they were an item. It's really funny to see how the crowd laughed and even clapped at that point. I was shocked to witness that sort of a reaction, but back to the point - let your faith lead you! Let not the ways of the world shaken your faith in your Saviour! Happy are those who have not seen yet believe. So we believe right? We believe in what we know, in what has been taught to us through our Catechism.  We don't get shaken by fiction or irrelevant claims. Our Bishop didn't go all 'GANGHO' over it! He left it to us because he believed the sheep will not stray from the Shepherd.

Knowing the truth and standing up for it is something MALAYSIA CAN NEVER DEAL WITH! Not only are we not allowed to fight for what is right, we have to dim our intelligence just because most leaders don't have one! While our government clearly have no sense of JUSTICE and are biased about racial and religious intolerance, where they prosecute those who insult Islam yet let those who insult other religions in the media walk freely, shows what sort of a government we have, and believe me, the world see it as clearly as we do too.

So I say, let it go!
Let us love our neighbours are we love ourselves, respect their concerns and practice what Jesus preached to us 2000 years ago.
I say "Let there be peace on earth and let it begin with US!"

(Joseph Marino who came to Malaysia to see into religious matters, might as well go on a good CUTI-CUTI Malaysia and enjoy the food and the wonders of GOD in this land, because that's the only great thing Malaysia has to offer!)

Jul 16, 2013

The Kid and His Potato Chip Packet - My Story For Today

As I waited in front of Belle's school today, my eyes locked on 2 boys leaning on the wall fence busy yapping with each other while 1 of them had his hand sticking out of the fence holding a potato chip packet. 

Looking at him, I sensed what he was going to do - he was going to drop the trash out on the ground in front of the school and as my thought ended, he did it! He actually checked his parameters and cooly let his fingers go off the packet and walah.. he has thrown his trash. He probably thought that was the end of his story with that miserable packet but guess what? It wasn't!

My hand automatically hit my car horn (as if it had a mind of its own) so hard as the packet left his grip and the school guard walked up behind those boys, overlooking them to see who honked.

The 2 of them were looking around too and I got out of my car, walked up to the fence and asked the kid, as I pointed my finger to the packet, what was his problem in looking for a trash bin to throw his trash? 

I spoke so LOUDLY, I literally made a scene there firing him left, right and centre with all every Malay word that could come out of my mouth! Basically asking him what's the point of going to school and learning how to be a proper person and to stand right in front of his school and do such a horrible act! The two started blaming each other for the act. 

After the shouting, he with his face looking like he got a tight slap, walked out of the school with the guard, who was also grumbling at him, walked along the side of the fence and picked the trash! 

The other parents looked at me.. yes Malaysians, they are always good at standing by and watching but this crowd smiled and grinned at me too, while looking angrily at that boy.

Couldn't I just sit and let it go? Oh no! Not I! I have had just up to my neck with the way adults and kids deal with their trash in Malaysia. I can now only hope that boy remembers my face the next time he tries to fling another trash onto the ground!

Jul 11, 2013

The Holy Month of Ramadan & Belle

Last week CJ came home with a picture he coloured in school which said MONTH OF RAMADAN and it was on our study table along with our books and reading materials till yesterday, being the first day of Ramadan and Belle's official experience of the fasting month in a public school, since previously being in a private school with only a handful of Malays and Muslim, she had no experience of personally seeing someone fast, other than for ourselves during our Holy Month of LENT but even then I have not put my kids on a fasting ritual yet.

Belle came home with a new recess instruction for the non-muslims in school.

Recess was shortened slightly, which meant the non muslims would have to eat faster and get back to class sooner than usual. She was not upset with the arrangement, but what impressed me most was what she did last night. While arranging the books on the study table, she saw CJ's colouring and she looked at it for a while and turned to ask me if she could place it on our fridge.

I said of course you can but I also wanted to know why.

Her respond was, "I need to keep it up on the fridge, to remind me of 2 things Ma.
1) It's fasting month and I need to eat faster and join my classmates to study in class.
2) I must not drink my water in front of them because I don't want my friends to feel thirsty seeing me drink while they can't."

I was really touched by her sense of care for her muslim friends and felt proud to hear her say that.
I did however ask her if No.2 was instructed to her by any of her teachers and she said NO. She thought about it herself, because if she were to be fasting, she'd hope others to give her some respect too.

Well done!!

Then Belle decides to tell Christan - "You can look at it everyday and remember not to eat or drink in class too till Hari Raya comes," but CJ's reply was - There are no Muslims in my kindergarten la Chachi!!! (That's true!)

Hahaha... My kids!

Jul 2, 2013


Efforts of making progress in English in our Malaysian National Schools are being taken very seriously by a good number of Malaysian parents for the future generation. As we know the level of English proficiency amongst majority of Malaysians are poor and efforts to improvise this condition has not seen the light of seriousness despite the increased numbers of UNEMPLOYABLE graduates Malaysia has been producing year after year.

Despite the reality of poor efficiency, there are a great number of children who speak and write well in English, and could excel a lot more if they were given the opportunity to be educated in English and many parents feel the need to see the ambitions and visions of these children be lifted and promoted by having them educated in an English Medium-National Type School here in Malaysia.

While we have the Chinese and Tamil type schools to cater for those who speak Chinese and Tamil as their first language, we feel it is only right to have those who speak English as their first language, be given the opportunity to be educated in English as well, of course with the acknowledgement that Bahasa Malaysia is the National Language and a compulsory pass in SPM to see to its importance.

It is proven that when one learns in the language he uses most fluently, it increased their cognitive ability to absorb and perform well in school. Which is why many passionately feel that English Medium Schools should be opened to give this learning opportunity to children who use English as their first language irrespective of what race they may be.

While parents who want English education for their children, and while some children fail to perform well because of language hindrance, these Malaysian parents are struggling to see their children through by placing them in International and Private Schools. Why shouldn't Malaysians have the right to educate their English speaking children in an all English Medium School and have it under the National Education Policy? We cannot carry on living with the idea that we are only permitted to have vernacular schools that offer national type studies in racial mother-tongue of Tamil and Chinese. Many Malays, Chinese and Indians are English speakers by choice or by mix-marriages with other races and nationality.

If you are a Malaysian Parent, and your child speaks English as his or her first language (language spoken most at home and in their social circle) and if you are in favour of this cause, please cast your votes by clicking on the link below. Your votes could make a huge difference in fighting for this cause. Thank you.


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Jun 24, 2013

Another Day..

A new day should never be addressed as JUST ANOTHER day. 
Many long for one more day to make things right,
to start what they have planned and to finish what they have started.
One more day to say I love you.
One more day to say good bye.

While you have that day given to you as you awoke with the sunrise, embrace the beauty of it as a gift and make the most out of it.

Whether you spend lazing it away, or by planning a monumental development for a nation, the day is yours to cherish doing what you love and with whom you love, living it right, living it with gratitude. 
I know how many times I wished I had one more day with my loved ones for me to embrace them.

Don't take it for granted and don't use the wrong words to address a gift either.
 "JUST" means simply; only; no more than.
I doubt another 24hours given to us means that.

Whatever may be bugging you, don't let it cloud the value of this gift given to you.
You hold the key to making the best out of anything.
Remember for a star to shine, it requires darkness, but it never stops shining in the light, in other words, no matter what your circumstances, never forget to embrace the beauty of the life you have.
Have an awesome day and may your every new day be as wonderful if not better than the last.

Jun 23, 2013

Your Light Will Burn Within Me

Eleven years have passed from your passing away,
but it feels like it was just yesterday,
you spoke to me the night before you left,
and shared what you wished for me to last.

I don't know what your life in that realm is like,
but I bet you are in much delight,
to be closer to the God you love,
and the man you honoured throughout your life.

I miss you so much, that much I know,
this life without you, feels shallow and cold,
but the strength I saw in your life helps me keep my spirits high,
to know that no matter what, God will always be by my side.

I wished you had the chance to hold my kids,
to pamper and shower them with your love and bliss,
but I take consolation that though you are not with them,
they know you, love you and I see you in them.

Rest in peace my dearest mummy,
rest in the grace our God gives us,
for the land you walk on now is where I am destined to be,
trusting I will someday meet you in eternity.

Till that day comes, take comfort that you have taught me right,
That you have showed me the importance of love and like.
You gave me memories to share and keep,
and your light will live strong forever within me.

I love you...

Jun 20, 2013

Life Is Responding To You

I believe the words in the picture above just says it all. 
Life is not happening to you. it's responding to you.
Study its responses and embrace it for acceptance of a job well done or a sign for personal change.
How you act to it is how it will react to you.

Reminds me of those times I've heard people say, they don't know why others hurt them so much. 
In a similar way, this is the answer.
How others treat you is usually their reaction to what you act on them.

Jun 13, 2013

All it takes is ONE

Today was a remarkable day for me, my Belle and her 30 classmates and here is why.
During the last school break, I decided to throughly look through Belle's activity books and before I could go through her English book, she brought a complain to me. 
Apparently her English teacher had them do 3 pages from the activity book which required them to listen to an audio/reading from the teacher's part before attempting to answer the questions.

Obviously this was the section for 'listening skill'. The teacher was apparently too busy with the preparation of English week and she asked them to do these 3 pages themselves despite knowing, correct answers can only be obtained upon them listening to something, despite Belle asking her, "But this is a listening activity!"

So i decided to do what I always did back when Belle was in Sri Sedaya, write a note on the top of the page and ask Belle to go and show it to the teacher.

While Sedaya, it was usually addressed to her BM teacher for some further explanation on 'frasa' and to her Math teacher over why the laziness of not using exercise books to attempt the math questions instead of scribbling at the side of the text book pages, this was to a GOVERNMENT SCHOOL TEACHER.

Common perception is that, it's easier to question people you pay to do the job, than it is to question government staff. Even Belle herself said, she thinks she's going to get into trouble for asking. I only encouraged her not to fear questioning what requires questioning and at the same time told her to do so when she found the courage for it.

Belle walked up to the teacher today, gave her book opened at the page, and told her teacher, "My mother has a note for you." 

When the teacher saw what I had written, she immediately started defending herself and told my daughter, "I never asked you to do these pages, why did you?" but Belle rebutted and said that she did. A classmate of hers heard them and walked up to the teacher's table to see and told the teacher, "Yes you asked us to do it." As if 2 student's admission wasn't enough, the teacher asked the class. Half of them said NO while the other half said YES. Then she decided to tell Belle, "You didn't get to do the listening part because you were absent," and Belle replied, "I wasn't absent, Teacher. I asked you about the listening part that day also." After that 3 other students confirmed that the teacher did ask them to do it, did not do the listening part and that Belle did ask her about it that very same day to which the teacher's reply back then was, "Just answer what you can," and she left the class.

Finally the other half of the class who said NO, checked their books and said YES as well. 

Right after that, she decided to conduct the listening section for those pages and the children in the class had to erase all their previous answers because everything was obviously answered wrongly.

How terrible! Just to defend herself she rather accuse Belle of being absent and for doing something not asked, without even being sure of what she did and did not do?
It's sad when the ministry puts listening skills into the teaching of English, and the teacher does this on top of the limited hours they have for this language. 
I don't think she expected to get a NOTE from a parent written on the activity book or to even think that someone was checking their children's work and of all language ENGLISH. 
(By the way, the book is not even marked once, and the 2nd term has already started.)

If she was very busy, the least she could have done, was to hand out grammar or vocabulary worksheets to them instead of making them do something that required a listening aid. It's called planning, plus if she really forgot she made the mistake, she didn't have to play the blame game with a 9 year old. Adults I tell you!

I congratulated Belle for her courage and she asked me why? 
My reply : "Well the fact that you told me, and I wrote the note, and you went to ask, which brought attention to your other classmates who backed you up when the teacher claimed it to be your fault and finally having the lesson done right which benefitted your entire class, is worth congratulating!"

Her 2nd question however was, "If the teacher didn't do the listening part today? What then Ma?"
My reply : "This Saturday is report card day, she'll have to answer directly to me!"

Lesson learnt : Listen to what your children tell you and proactively involve yourself where, when and however you can. All I did was to put my stamp of parental authority on that book (it worked in Sedaya and now I know it works in government schools too) and it bore fruits for the entire class (exactly what I wanted as I was more concern over what her classmates were missing out because Belle is going through a good English program at home with me). This should work as a lesson to the teacher that she's being watched and I don't think she would try this sort of stunt again, at least not in the class with Belle in it. 1 person is all it takes to drive a change, and in this case it was Belle! Well done. This is a case in a Standard 3 classroom. I would like to believe, if every parent worked as an auditor to their children's work, we can catch the mistakes our kids make and guide them as well as the mistakes the teachers make and nip the bud! We are after all their first teachers, who better to do the job? Teachers are just humans too, and they sometimes need to be pushed back into the right track.

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