Feb 28, 2013

Jack The Giant Slayer (2013)

Let me start of this post by saying the movie was awesome! The special effects were good and the plot certainly took this old age folktale to a whole new level.
Of course it took me by surprise to know the name of the princess and thought what an excellent choice it is.
Ewan McGregor carried such poise in his act. He was like the James Bond of that time.
But what made the movie stunning was definitely the GIANTS! They made the movie worth watching.
All my kiddos loved the gruesome, disgusting giants most.
An enjoyable movie indeed.
One worth watching with your kids.
And Happy Birthday to me.. I'm officially 36 years old!!



Feb 27, 2013

OSCARS 2013

The Oscars... The greatest award show!
And thanks to my ASTRO PVR, I recorded the live show and watched it as a delayed live so I could get rid of all the advertisements. Initially I was forwarding the ads alone then I ended up forwarding the speeches of the oscar winners and gladly I did the same for the host Seth MacFarlene!

Seth, to me was a complete disgrace to an award so great as the Oscars!
His certainly had no class in his choice of jokes and he hosted it as if it were one of his stand up show at a run down bar in some dark alley!
Doesn’t anyone look carefully into the script the host should be presenting or is that the standards of the Academy Awards now?
He sucked big time ok!

Well, back to the Oscars ignoring Seth of course, I’m happy Anne Hathaway got the Best Supporting Actress, she earned it, but sadly the Prada dress she wore which looked best from the back alone, was nothing close to what she deserved.


I’m so proud Life of Pi took home 4 awards and Ang Lee received the best director award (however he shouldn’t have said - "I have no time for all these people now!” but since the movie was fabulous, I’ll excuse you for the butterfly in your tummy that got out of your mouth when you said that!).


I need to watch that movie Silver Lining Playbook. Was it good? I mean did Jennifer Lawrence really deserved an Oscar for it? and oh, did Argo deserve the award for best picture? Seriously?


OSCARS - Expect the unexpected, now that sounds like a better tag line for the show, don’t you think?


And now, my favourite part of all - the best dress woman at the Oscars, for me it's most definitely Sandra Bullock! She looked stunning radiant in her sheer black Elie Saab Haute Couture gown, diamond earrings and bejewelled barrette. My God! Superb! She out beats all others!

The best dressed male would be Channing Tatum although I must say Hugh Jackman’s suit which he wore on stage while performing that absolutely fantastic piece from Les Misérables was gorgeous! Did you notice how his jacket had such lovely embroidery? 



So what’s it going to be for the Oscars next year? 

Hope this year gives us some fabulous movies as it did last year.

Tomorrow will be my first movie for 2013 at the cinemas - Jack The Giant Slayer.

What better way to celebrate my 36th birthday than to watch a movie that premiers on my day to a story I loved as a kid- Jack and The Beanstalk. I like how Belle says it, “What’s up with all the SLAYER SLAYER in all these movie titles lar MA?”  
Ha!Ha!

Feb 25, 2013

What are you thinking?

As I drove my son to school today, I asked him what he was thinking because he looked so lost in his thoughts. He of course replied, “nothing”, smiled at me and went back into his thoughts again. I decided to throw some suggestions of what I thought he might be thinking about and I got the first one right - “are you thinking about what you want to do today on your XBox?” and he nodded a YES and became shy.

I remember my niece sharing this with me once, how when she was a kid only her physical body went to school but her mind was still stuck on the game she left unfinished the night before. She felt a sense of entrapment and decided to be the master of the issue rather than to drown in and loose out on life. Amazingly, she was so young back then, yet she was able to make such a remarkable choice - that explains her flying colours!


Can addiction be beneficial in anyway?

If you're addicted to reading, no one usually complains.
But what happens if you’re addicted to video games? I mean ok, not addicted but stuck on it mentally even if you’re not on it physically?

As a parent, I keep track of the number of hours they spend on their devices as well as the type of games they play (making sure they are age appropriate), but how do I tap into their mind?


I cannot tell them what not to think, they’d just not admit to those thoughts once you start saying those sort of things, but I could engage into a conversation with them as often as I can to help them cognitively while idly sitting in the car on their drives. As soon as you see them drift away in thoughts, start a mental activity with them, a quiz, a “I spy with my little eye” game while driving them to school or extra-activities. 


Of course at home, I make sure there is  time for homework, time for book reading, art, TV (most definitely!), music and games, but I guess the split moments in between those activities; when they are taking a dump, or showering, you have no control of those thoughts - You just need to let go and let GOD! 


Coach them well, plan their timetable, socialise with them and PRAY they grow up to be responsible individuals and once you’ve coached, planned, socialised and prayed you could just switch on that XBox and do some kickboxing yourself! (No one said parenting had to be a HITLER-ized event) 

Feb 14, 2013

International Book Giving Day


Incidentally, Valentine’s Day is also International Book Giving Day!
So donate or Gift a book to a child today and spread the love of reading and imagination on what is the best day of the year, Valentine’s Day.. The day when LOVE is overwhelmingly felt.. after all, it is this LOVE that allows words to be scripted together into making books that can change the life of a person forever.. 

International Book Giving Day is a volunteer initiative aimed at increasing a child’s access to and enthusiasm for books. You may participate in celebrating this day by:

1. Giving a book to a friend or a relative
2. Leaving a book in a waiting room or  lobby
3. Donating a book at homes, schools or child centres.

Share this day with a child then share it for the world to see so you not only made a kid happy, but you also worked into spreading this message for more children to be happy in the following years to come..

Feb 5, 2013

Yes There’s Always Two Side To A Story - The Truth and The Other Truth!

Have you noticed how good news would always have just one side to its story?
The only variation in that version would be the height of grandiosity it holds.

However it almost never seems so when the news is BAD - news on separation, divorce, family fights and misunderstandings etc.
Like most would say - “There’s always 2 sides to a story just as there’s always 2 sides to a coin!” Well I would certainly agree that there are 2 sides to a coin, because both sides make the coin what it is.



How then would 2 sides of the story not be 2 truths to a story? End of the day people say what they need to say to either spread the truth, or make people believe in them no matter what the truth is. It’s after all their perspective to their situation.

But what would you do if you had to stand in the middle of this 2 sides?
Most people would say nothing and do nothing and probably just go missing..
Some would amplify the story and make a 3rd and 4th side..
Some would take your problems and say they are having a hard time dealing with our hard times, and make you wonder since when this is your problem to be constipated with?
Some would listen to you, and help you plot your revenge.
Some would listen to you then blame you for everything even when they know you are not at fault.

How would you choose your side?
Would you chose base on what you believe is right and only the truth or would you choose base on your loyalty to the person telling his/her story?

If you asked me, I would choose base on loyalty and pray that the person whom I’m loyally standing up for is telling me the truth and if I can mend a situation to make it better, I most certainly would.
But if I learn that it is a lie or is being ruthless to the situation, I would not step into their boat cause I’d rather stand at the side and watch them sink alone. In the case where I did stand up for someone and later learn I was made to believe their lies, I know they would pay for their sins not me.

For me there are 2 sides to any story - THE TRUTH and YOUR TRUTH! and which ever version it may be, the one telling the story will forever hold accountable for their own words because in the end you can fool the ones around you but God knows the truth. He knows your motives and plots, he knows the darkest secrets and he knows the depth of your heart, if you are genuine and sincere or if you are a fake. He knows everything and in his own time and way, he will deal with you the way he sees fit for you!

If you do not believe in the existence of God, fret not, “GUILT” will do the job!

So don’t worry if the person you stood up for decided to take you for a ride into believing them.. because that person would soon be in for a ride they won’t ever forget!

Feb 1, 2013

THE 2013 BANG!

2013 for me most definitely came with a BANG! 
No not because the Mayans were wrong with their prediction.
This bang was a BANG in MY HEAD and MY HEART!

I lost my most dearest brother Richard to a sudden and unexpected death.
I never thought I would see him be put to rest so soon.
Never thought I would have to do it at this age!
In plain honesty, I never thought about death amongst my siblings!
I never thought after putting my mum to rest 10 years ago and my dad 14 years ago, I would have to encounter another great loss this soon!
I never even thought any other death besides the death of my parents could grieve me so deeply until I was proven wrong last 17th of Dec when I heard the words - I'M SORRY, WE REALLY TRIED OUR BEST - from the German Doctor! 
Bottom line - the death of someone you sincerely love but most of all who sincerely loved you will kill you - full stop! I learnt that. You feel it more when you know you have lost forever the person who loved you with all their heart and never failed to say and show you so.   

Richard may have been away for so long (in my maths 10 years exactly) but he remained close to me through his emails and messages on the mobile. When I opened a Facebook account back in 2008, I remember I invited him to join. He was my 2nd FB Friend and that was seriously the best thing, as I got to see and experience his life there in Germany, Miami and France through the photos he posted.
Finally in 2011, when I decided to buy the one best thing I ever bought for myself - my iPhone! (of course this wouldn’t have been possible if my dearest husband did not graciously fund it for me) I felt my brother was just a swipe away.. I didn’t feel the geographical distance between us anymore.. at heart, there wasn’t an issue, he was always close to mine, but this device and its apps which without a doubt was motivated by him to purchase, was the opened door that allowed me to reach him not just in text and photos but in video chatting. I really enjoyed all his Whatsapp messages which he would send so frequently and even more persistently while he is out on his field trips and ship building projects.. Photos of his visits around Germany/Europe and the historic significance which he proudly would elaborate in his messages were simply amazing and I looked forward to all his FaceTime calls every Sunday afternoons when he would show me what he was going to cook for lunch over there as well as to see what the babies in my house were up to. That iPhone and the Mac Book he gave me were the 2 things that kept me only a dial and a click away from him.

But before all the technology came to light, he was the brother I looked up since the time I could remember my memories. He is the eldest of us 4, and he was my saviour! I know how often I used to get into trouble with my mum for falling into the drain while my Acha was busy at work down at the company store. I used to get the whacking of my life from Mummy, but if Richard was at home, he always saved my butt!

When it came to tooth extractions, my dad was the self made dentist. Can you imagine, they used to tell me they were going to tie a thread around my teeth and the other end to the door knob and the tooth would fling out at the slamming of that door? Well thank God they didn’t do that, but the first end of the thread did go around my tooth and Richard always comforted me, hugged me and bought me ice cream right after.

Being the electrical electronics engineer, he loved gadgets even back then.. just to name a few amongst the many - I got my first Monkey and Nuts Game and Watch from him when I was 8years old. Followed by an trendy looking sony stereo walkman. Then came all the watches which he used to grace me with, bought from all the countries he had visited from his sailing trips, that was fantastic.  Even much earlier than that, I enjoyed his reading to me of the National Geographic Magazines and Reader’s Digest he invested in monthly, showing me the pictures of all the weird things around the world as he open both my eyes and mind to what was out there.. out of that Berkeley Garden where we lived in then. He showed me how to make a radio, he thought me how to write the number 8 the right way, treated me to my first experience of Japanese Food in Bangsar Shopping Center when I was 15, gave us the experience of Laser Discs and video cameras, snapped all the wonderful memories into photographs for us to have as a family, and he always wiped away my tears and laughed the strongest laughs with me. He also always gave his ear and heart to my thoughts and ideas and praised me for my achievements and accomplishments. The one thing I will always and strongly remember him for was his believe that NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE!!!! 

I miss him terribly! 
I miss his stories, his jokes, his “Oi”s and his entire being!

Most of all, I will miss his wonderful and admirable nature of seeing the beauty in the most nitty gritty of things.. He admired beauty, beauty in people - children especially (and this is a trait both he and his wife Luz and his kids especially John and Kat all had), beauty in nature, and most of all in architecture.
I have never had anyone admire the specifics in my kids, the way he did, the same admiration he had given me as a kid right till our last chat when he told me how proud he was of me. 
How he admired and praised every bit of our specialness was simply astounding. 

He was truly an amazing man.. a human with mistakes and faults just like others, but one that had much goodness that overrules to be like non other. Isn’t that what makes a balance in one’s life? Even the moon has a dark side but like the moon he never failed to shine his light when it was expected of him.

He always believed that it was important to leave this world with a BANG!
With an impact!
With the believe that no one could have done it better than you. 
Alexander the great died with open hands to say he conquered the world, but he leaves with nothing. 
I see Richard in that same light.. only I don’t see him leaving with nothing, he left taking our hearts with him.

I love him and will always love him.. and I am thankful to God for a brother like him - a true blessing he certainly was. He will always be in my heart, and I will live with the will and strength he has showed me, the same will and strength our parents showed us - that nothing is impossible if you only just believed in yourself.



RICHARD FERNANDEZ
13th Dec 1963- 17th Dec 2012
A great brother and friend!

Eternal rest grant unto him Oh Lord, and let Thy perpetual light shine upon him, may his soul rest in peace..AMEN!!!

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