Sep 4, 2014

PG Recommended

Only recently since my children started watching Cartoon Network and Nickelodeon's noon shows which are meant for older children, did I notice each show now comes with a TV parental guide. I decided to look at the list of cartoons and their rating from those 2 channels and surprisingly, only less than quarter of Cartoon Network’s shows are actually meant for general viewing, some even comes as TV-PG-D which means its dialogue has sexual connotations. 

It’s good that cartoon network has a parental control guide and I wonder how strictly parents follow them. In fact many times, although cooking in the kitchen, I have heard on Disney Junior and Disney Channel, characters addressing each other as “LOSERS” and throwing word like “DAMN”, etc.

I know in the end we can’t bubble wrap our child, I mean, we grew up with TOM and JERRY, and ROAD RUNNER as our cartoons. Look how well we turned out? Well, I can only speak for myself and my friends but I must say we never went running behind anyone calling them horrid names, and being bullies, but may be those cartoons thought us how to deal with bullies and how not to turn into one? There are many lessons in life that one can subconsciously gain from cartoons. 

Whatever the case, the shows we let our children watch, or play on their devices leave an impact on them socially and psychologically and the way they carry themselves. The first signs to know when things are not right, is the language they speak when they are angry about something or with someone. Their choice of anger words and their body language must be observed and if required, evaluated and advised appropriately.

However, like the mischievous cartoon characters we come across on TV, some kids are very smart at pretending in front of their elders and being a real menace behind. Since my children started studying at a new school, my son especially has a lot of complains to share with me about the type of kids in his class especially about one particular boy who ability to switch modes just shocks the living daylight out of us. His parents of course believes no one but their son and that’s when you wonder, what’s going on back at home and how do these kids do it?

So the next time your kids watch something on a kiddy channel, don’t forget to check out if the show is meant for their age and exposure. These codes serve as a purpose - guidance for us as parents. 

Sep 3, 2014

The Book Bucket Challenge - are you up for it?

The famous Ice Bucket Challenge brought about the Rice Bowl Challenge and as you see, the Book Bucket Challenge too. Listing 10 books and nominating your friends to do the same but for what purpose, is the big question.

The story behind the Book Bucket Challenge is clearly written in The Business Insider of India’s article - being a charity drive to increase literacy rate and donation of books to villages by setting up one village, one library concepts initiated in Kerala, India, the land with 93.91% literacy rate (2011 census).

Anyway, over on the social media platform, we see this challenge going around and the question that comes to my mind is, what am I going to do with the 10 books I’ve listed? Donate them to the town library? The my club library? Display it on my soon to set-up library? Honestly, I’m very attached to my books, physically, mentally and emotionally. I want these books to be read by my kids and their friends if they are interested so what can I do in form of charity? I need to contemplate on it and come up with an answer for myself. Till then, lets do it the way some people have re-invented it to be; a challenge to 'FINDING YOUR BEST PAL’ through books.

With that here is my list:

1. The Boy In The Stripped Pajamas - John Boyne 
2. Luka And The Fire Of Life - Salman Rushdie
3. The Alchemist - Paulo Coelho
4. The Fifth Child - Doris Lessing
5. Their Eyes Were Watching God - Zora Hurston
6. Inside the Whale - George Orwell
7. The Picture of Dorian Gray - Oscar Wilde
8. The Sky Burial - Xinran
9. Desert Royal - Jean Sasson
10. The Shopaholic Series by Sophie Kinsella 

Jun 17, 2014

Game Of Thrones Theme Song

Don’t ask me why this a post on my blog - I’m a HUGE FAN of everything G.O.T, that’s why!

Jun 16, 2014

Pool Toys vs Beach Toys

If you took a minute to google these two items
  1.  Beach toys
  2.  Pool toys
and look at the images that appear in your search results, you’d know the distinct differences between these two sets of toys, which are:
  1.  their texture 
  2.  their edges
  3.  their purpose
The reason I decided to write this post today is because I am deeply annoyed with parents and guardians who think it’s absolutely alright to place their toddlers in a kid’s pool (not private) and along with that child, dump a bag full of BEACH TOYS, which ultimately would float away and cover the entire pool of kids.


Beach toys are called BEACH TOYS for obvious reasons - they are meant to be used on the beach!!!!! The beach is where there is sand for raking and shovelling - activities which require edges to craft and shape. Do you think a rake is appropriate in a pool where kids are jumping and mini diving into water which is supposed to be clear of sharp and pointy objects? NO, it’s not the place for it. 

Responsible parents and guardians would know, or rather should learn to know that in a bag of beach toys, only one or two items deem fit for a play time in a pool, such as the watering can or pail and the round head spoon which can be lots of fun for your child to scoop and fill water. 

You don’t go dumping EVERYTHING you have in the bag of toys into the pool and create a hazardous environment for other people’s children. Accidents can happen in many ways and the most common one is with kids who have difficulty in sharing their toys and end up using their toy as a weapon to hit another kid - something I have witnessed many times and for many years in my life - kids being hit and scared by rakes and shovels. It’s not a pretty sight especially when the parent of the perperator acts like he or she is not at fault for creating trouble and destroying the peace in a pool, thanks to their inappropriate toy dumping.

So the next time you think about taking your child out to the pool where there are other children swimming in it too, consider taking a little time to sort out what toys should NOT go into the pool with your kid, better yet, stick to the right toys - POOL TOYS! Those won't go wrong for your kid and others.

Spread the word, educate and make a difference.

May 16, 2014

Happy Teacher’s Day!!

There are all types of TEACHERS around us both in specialisation and calibre. Whether you teach in the ministry or in a home, you deserve to know that your role is significantly important to the one you teach, so do what you do with pride and dignity as you hold the mould of the future generation. HAPPY TEACHER’S DAY!!

P.S. Snape was my favourite fictitious teacher! Thank you JK Rowling.

Apr 17, 2014

Rest In Peace Karpal Singh - The Tiger of Jelutong.

Most of us grew up hearing his name uttered by our parents as they read the daily papers. We grew up knowing him as a man with guts - a man who feared no one and who's mouth questioned what no others dared. Titled a trouble maker by those who were threatened by his boldness but for those who loved him, we are grateful for how he rocked the boat for us. Malaysia has lost a political giant and will forever be grateful for his advocacy and fight for the better half of this nation! May his soul rest in peace. You were a TRUE MALAYSIAN!

Apr 4, 2014

THE DEBATE: The Hand That Rocks The Cradle Cannot Rock The Board Room

I watched this debate live on BBC, last month, yes amidst the running headlines of the missing MH370 and I must say Allison Pearson, the author of I Don't Know How She Does It, which became a hit movie in 2011 acted by my favourite Sarah Jessica Parker, hits the nail with her argument for the motion saying that it is not possible to be a committed mother and excel in the boardroom as the demands of motherhood makes it impossible to accommodate both worlds.

Aside from agreeing with her, I enjoyed her presentation and watching the reaction on my husband's face every time she hits the hammer on what a husband selfishly expected out of their wife was absolutely amusing.

Most boardroom women are successful because of the support they have behind them. Parents, relatives or/and house-maids play a huge role in their children's life and without this, it's close to impossible to achieve it all. The minute you have to pay attention to your career, you pay the price of losing something at home - time, attention, affection, or the mere presence of yourself as a parent to your child. Your child's needs don't come set in a time-table, and the older your kids grow, the more their needs for you increases, no matter how independent they may seem (although we like to believe it's the reverse).

On the contrary, you can be a successful career woman and a successful mother as well, if you played your role smartly with proper time management, as debated by a member of the opposing team, Helena Morrissey. Morrissey is a successful business woman and a mother to 8 children. She did not miraculously run both rooms without the help of others in her absence at home, although she highlighted how she managed her time for business and home, which made it possible for her to win both sides - to be a good mother and be married to her job.

I personally did that for 3 years and was miserable over my lost of time with my children who had to be at the babysitter's since I had no parents to help me in that department. Leaving them at night (as I had to because their dad was at sea) when I had to go on night calls was by far the worst feeling I had to deal with in my career-motherhood combo. Then when their dad was back and I had to go to work, I left the kids with the babysitter and the husband at home and felt completely useless. It was horrible!

I guess it goes down to one thing in the end, what is the definition of a good mother? The definition of a successful career woman is quite straightforward but a successful mother? Till which point in your life or your child's would you or rather could you measure your success as a mom? I'm yet to know the answer to that.

Watch: The Debate

Mar 8, 2014

International Women's Day 2014

Been ages since I posted anything on my blog and it only seems appropriate that I officiate my 2014's blog postings on a day as auspicious as today - International Women's Day.

Seriously it is no JOKE being a woman!

The amount of weight that is carried upon our shoulders, the amount of struggles we face be it momentarily or a lifetime is by far unimaginable and every one of us have our own unique story to tell or kept hidden away, that makes us all a hero of our own book!

Couple of days ago, I wrote on my FB that "When we take life as a VOCATION and not a perpetual VACATION, we'll discover the meaning and purpose of our existence."  I wrote this in close reflection of my own life.

Have you sat a moment and thought about what your purpose is or are in this world? Is it to raise the next President of the United States or is it to die giving away your entire savings to an NGO because you found no sibling or family or friend worthy enough to be your beneficiary? (True events of 2 women in the past.)
Which ever it may be in the spectrum of happiness and sadness, I hope you discover what you are meant to be, and take pride in your vocation because as it's said, "A life lived for others is a life worth living," I don't think any of us are made to live for ourselves. We are in one way or many, made to be at the service of others - family, friends, strangers... and if the need arises to ask yourself "Why me?" as cliche as it may sound, ask yourself "Why not?"
There is good in everything that happens if we just let ourselves see hard and clear enough.
celebrate your womanhood as a gift to mankind,
celebrate your womanhood as a gift to yourself,
be proud of who you've become as you stand before God for there is no greater importance than to please God ultimately as this gift of being you is bestowed upon us by the Almighty.

You are ENOUGH and you are as powerful as you allow yourself to be.

Happy International Women's Day to all you gorgeous and strong women of the world!!

Cheers Ladies!

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