Dec 6, 2015

When Are You Getting Married?

Ladies who are yet to be married really face a lot of bullshit from those around them. 

As if it isn't difficult enough to find someone suitable for yourself, you are further tortured by having to justifying to every aunty, granny and sometimes even to the people who play no role in your life. 

There many 'pun'ny replies already out in the open for you to use, but this, which I found yesterday, on the Internet, is by far the BEST! 

It sure cracked me up! L.O.L 😂
Who ever came up with this need an award!!! Hahahahaha 

Art Therapy or Torture?

Do not be mistaken, I love colouring and I love art, but somehow, surprisingly, whenever I look at these adult colouring books that are now so abundantly sold in local bookstores, I find myself suffering with palpitations rather than calmness.

 Strangely, I’m not attracted to them and I am shocked at my inability to grab a colouring book now that I can find them everywhere and not just on Amazon.  Anyone who knows me well would know exactly how much I love to draw and colour both for leisure and work. 

I’ve seen the posted images of the colouring pages done by my friends on FB and some of them have such talent to make their colouring seem just like a laser printed image. They must have been supremely calm? Bravo to them all!

Believe me, even to write this post about this topic is giving me a torturous ache in my chest, and writing is supposedly the one thing that calms my nerves down. 

Well, I guess the judge of how therapeutic or torturous a hobby is, still remains personal.

To those who have found joy in reliving their childhood moments with their colour pencils - I say well done and keep it up, do more and post them for everyone to see. You should be proud of yourself!

To those like me (unexpected really!), I say please don’t kill yourself and go back to gardening, or sewing, or baking, or reading a book as your means of therapeutic calmness - you don’t need to take on something new just because it’s trending in the market right now, and in my case, give my heart a break! 

Mar 8, 2015

Happy International Women's Day 2015

We've come to that time of the year again, where we honour and celebrate the women who had fought for equality, strived for peace and justice, those who reached great heights and those aspiring to do great things.

We celebrate and honour the women who have their names constantly
mentioned in the media for their honorable deeds, women who have made it into our history books for their achievements, and those whose names are engraved and highlighted in the hearts of their loved ones - the ordinary yet extraordinary women like you and me.

The role of a woman is beyond limits, you and I know that and we also know that when we put our mind and heart to something, we can take it real far and reach the greatest height of success.  I always tell the people around me that we all have a purpose in life, no matter what our influential value is in society, we all have been given a role and a task to perform, we only need to discover it. These days, I've found myself saying so to my children too, either in context to their own life or in the books and movies, as well as the news that they've come in contact with

Therefore, in line with this year's theme, 'Make It Happen', I'd say, 

1. Make your dreams happen! Do not give excuses for yourself and most of all do not doubt yourself. If anyone gets in your way and thinks you can't, tell them to stand on the side and watch as you make it happen! 

2. Stand up for what is right, most importantly women's rights, and not for a minute say "this is not my quest" or "this is not my business". You'll never know, how your lifting of a finger could help  change another person's life for the better.

3. Embrace your status - single, married, widowed or divorced, you're not in a hopeless place no matter what your circumstances are. Ignite happiness so that others can feel it's warmth and be consoled. It's a great feeling to know someone cares, it's even greater to know you're safe. If you don't think you have it all, don't be envious of those who have it a little better than you. Remember, everyone fights a battle of their own. Don't hope to be someone else other than a better person you were yesterday. 

4. Forgive! It really helps you lead a fruitful life. If you can forget, better still, but if you can't, you can just move on and conclude you have nothing in common with your wrong-doers and wish them well anyway. 

5. Be a beacon of hope to the younger generation of girls and educate the little boys around you to grow up respecting their opposite gender. No matter what role you hold, a mum, an aunt, a grandmother, a sister or a teacher - you have a moral obligation to raise your girls with values that can help them through their life and to teach our young boys that they are equal to women - not greater but EQUAL!

6. Make the right choices every time possible. Your kids/siblings/friends will appreciate you and learn from you.

So go make a difference!
Remember, if you've made a difference in one person's life, be certain that its rippling effects will go far. 

Happy International Women's Day 2015! 
We may all be different in our color, race, nationality and creed but we have one thing in common - we are women and the power to change the world lies in us!✌️

Jan 22, 2015

Parenting Advice From The KURAL (Indian Sangam Literature)

1. If your child lies to you often, it is because you over-react too harshly to their inappropriate behaviour. 

2. If your child is not taught to confide in you about their mistakes, you've lost them. 

3. If your child had poor self-esteem, it is because you advice them more than you encourage them. 

4. If your child does not stand up for themselves, it is because from a young age you have disciplined them regularly in public.

5. If your child takes things that do not belong to them, it is because when you buy them things, you don't let them chose what they want. 

6. If your child is cowardly, it is because you help them too quickly. 

7. If your child does not respect other people's feelings, it is because instead of speaking to your child, you order and command them. 

8. If your child is too quick to anger, it is because you give too much attention to misbehaviour and you give little attention to good behaviour. 

9. If your child is excessively jealous, it is because you only congratulate them when they successfully complete something and not when they improve at something even if they don't successfully complete it. 

10. If your child intentionally disturbs you, it is because you are not physically affectionate enough. 

11. If your child is openly defied, it is because you openly threaten to do something but don't follow through. 

12. If your child is secretive, it is because they don't trust that you won't blow things out of proportion. 

13. If your child talks back to you, it is because they watch you do it to others and think its normal behaviour.

14. If your child doesn't listen to you but listens to others, it is because you are too quick to make decisions. 

15. If your child rebels it is because they know you care more about what others think than what is right

Share this with other parents if you think they could benefit from such advice. 

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