THE DEBATE: The Hand That Rocks The Cradle Cannot Rock The Board Room

I watched this debate live on BBC, last month, yes amidst the running headlines of the missing MH370 and I must say Allison Pearson, the author of I Don't Know How She Does It, which became a hit movie in 2011 acted by my favourite Sarah Jessica Parker, hits the nail with her argument for the motion saying that it is not possible to be a committed mother and excel in the boardroom as the demands of motherhood makes it impossible to accommodate both worlds.

Aside from agreeing with her, I enjoyed her presentation and watching the reaction on my husband's face every time she hits the hammer on what a husband selfishly expected out of their wife was absolutely amusing.

Most boardroom women are successful because of the support they have behind them. Parents, relatives or/and house-maids play a huge role in their children's life and without this, it's close to impossible to achieve it all. The minute you have to pay attention to your career, you pay the price of losing something at home - time, attention, affection, or the mere presence of yourself as a parent to your child. Your child's needs don't come set in a time-table, and the older your kids grow, the more their needs for you increases, no matter how independent they may seem (although we like to believe it's the reverse).

On the contrary, you can be a successful career woman and a successful mother as well, if you played your role smartly with proper time management, as debated by a member of the opposing team, Helena Morrissey. Morrissey is a successful business woman and a mother to 8 children. She did not miraculously run both rooms without the help of others in her absence at home, although she highlighted how she managed her time for business and home, which made it possible for her to win both sides - to be a good mother and be married to her job.

I personally did that for 3 years and was miserable over my lost of time with my children who had to be at the babysitter's since I had no parents to help me in that department. Leaving them at night (as I had to because their dad was at sea) when I had to go on night calls was by far the worst feeling I had to deal with in my career-motherhood combo. Then when their dad was back and I had to go to work, I left the kids with the babysitter and the husband at home and felt completely useless. It was horrible!

I guess it goes down to one thing in the end, what is the definition of a good mother? The definition of a successful career woman is quite straightforward but a successful mother? Till which point in your life or your child's would you or rather could you measure your success as a mom? I'm yet to know the answer to that.

Watch: The Debate

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